Success and Positive Thinking

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Some people always look at the negative side.

Who is pessimist?

Pessimists

¨ are unhappy when they have no troubles to speak

¨ feel bad when they feel good, for fear they will feel worse when they feel better

¨ spend most of their life at complaint counters

¨ always turn out the lights to see how dark it is

¨ are always looking for cracks in the mirror of life

¨ stop sleeping in bed when they hear that more people die in bed than anywhere else

¨ cannot enjoy their health because they think they may be sick tomorrow

¨ not only expect the worst but make the worst of whatever happens

¨ don't see the doughnut, only the hole

¨ believe that the sun shines only to cast shadows

¨ forget their blessings and count their troubles

¨ know that hard work never hurts anyone but believe "why take a chance?"

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Who is an optimist?

It is well described by the following:

Be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

Talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.

Make all your friends feel there is something in them.

Look at the sunny side of everything.

Think only of the best, work only for the best, and expect only the best.

Be as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

Give everyone a smile.

Spend so much time improving yourself that you have no time left to criticize others.

Be too big for worry and too noble for anger.

Right time to find out, what kind of a person you are?????

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Step 2: Make a Habit of Doing It Now

We have all procrastinated at some time in our lives. I know I have, only to have regretted it later. Procrastination leads to a negative attitude. The habit of procrastination fatigues you more than the effort it takes to do it.

A completed task is fulfilling and energizing; an incomplete task drains energy like a leak from a tank.

If you want to build and maintain a positive attitude, get into the habit of living in the present and doing it now.

have you ever heard that tomorrow never comes.....

you delay something for tomorrow then for day after and for day... in the end just piling up your work and also in the end not doingjustice to any of the task at hand ...

the result of this would be poor performance.. which would again lead to a negative attitude...


He slept beneath the moon
He basked beneath the sun
He lived a life of going to do
and died with nothing done.
--James Albery

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When I Become a Big Boy

This is like the little boy who says when I become a big boy, I will do this and this and I will be happy.

And when he becomes a big boy he says, when I finish college and do this
and this and I will be happy.

And when he finishes college he says when I get my first job
and do this and this I will be happy.

And when he gets his first job he says when I get married and do this and this and then I will be happy.

And when he gets married he says when the kids get out of school and I do this and this I will be I happy.

And when the kids get out of school, he says when I retire and do this and this, I will be happy.

And when he retires what does he see? He sees life has just gone by in front of his eyes.

Tomorrow never comes.....Live as if today is the last day of your life and give your best....

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Some people practice procrastination by hiding behind high sounding words, saying "I'm
analyzing" and six months later they are still analyzing.

What they don't realize is that they are suffering from a disease called, "Paralysis of Analysis" and they will never succeed.

Then there is another breed of people who procrastinate by saying "I'm getting ready"
and a month later they are still getting ready and six months later they are still getting
ready.

What they don't realize is they are suffering from a disease called "Excusitis."
They keep making excuses.

Life is not a dress rehearsal. We have got only one shot at this game called life. The stakes are too high. The stakes are the future generations.

What time is it and where are we? The answer is now and we are here. Let's make the
best of now and utilize the present to the fullest.

The message is not that we don't need to plan for the future. The message is that we do need to plan for the future. If we utilize our present to its fullest, we are sowing the seeds for a better future automatically, aren't we?

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Sorry for interruption but i would like to add an excerpt.

"You can never change by remaining what you are ".

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If you want to build a positive attitude, learn the phrase, "do it now" and stop the habit of procrastination.

The saddest words in life are:
¨ "It might have been."
¨ "I should have."
¨ "I could have."
¨ "I wish I had."
¨ "If only I had given a little extra."

all the above used by losers who never ever give a try.........

so give it a try... in the end we should not be regretting saying all or any one of the above.... if things don't work out fine, we are always satisfied that we tried....and let me tell you if you think you will succeed you have already started working towards success and will definitely succeed in the end...

Never leave till tomorrow which you can do today.
--Benjamin Franklin

I am sure all winners wanted to be procrastinators but never got around to it.

When people say, "I will do it one of these days," you can be sure it means none of these days.

Some people keep waiting for all lights to turn green before they leave home.

That will never happen and they fail even before they start. That is sad.

Stop procrastinating: Isn't it time that we put off putting things off?

My dad always said... "if you want to reach a place or a destination today, you have to leave home and start walking... just thinking about your destination and thinking of reaching it wont just help at all. you will just remain where you are and never reach".....

doesn't the same thing apply here.. if you want to achieve something, right now is the correct time......leave home to reach your destination....

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Sorry for interruption but i would like to add an excerpt.

"You can never change by remaining what you are ".

its said that any change which doesn't affect your health and relationship is for good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

the problem arises when people become resistant to change as change is not always pleasant... one improves only when one is open to change and accepts it....

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Just to refresh, the Steps to build and maintain a positive attitude, (two of which are already discussed above)

Step 1: Change Focus, Look for the Positive

Step 2: Make a Habit of Doing It Now

(the third one goes like this)

Step 3: Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

Count your blessings, not your troubles. Take time to smell the roses.

It is not uncommon to hear that someone, because of an accident or illness, became blind or paralyzed but won a million dollars in settlement.

How many of us would like to trade places with that person? Not many.

We are so focused on complaining about things we don't have that
we lose sight of the things we have.

There is a lot to be thankful for.

When I say count your blessings, not your troubles, the message is not to become
complacent. If complacence was the message you got, then I would be guilty of faulty communication and you of selective listening.

Our mind interprets messages only what we want to derive or only what our mind derives based on our attitude, whether positive or negative....

If Your attitude is negative or if you are angry at some one or some thing and somebody tries to correct you on your mistake for your betterment, you will definitely feel that the person is trying to make you feel inferior, even though the approach of the person would be positive you will take it negtaively...

on the contrary, if you are positive minded, you will listen patiently and accept what is being pointed out and will try your best to improve on it.... as you understand the person's approach is positive...

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To give you an example of selective listening, let me share with you a story about
a medical doctor who was invited as a guest speaker to address a group of alcoholics.

He wanted to make a demonstration that would be powerful enough to make people
realize that alcohol was injurious to their health.

He had two containers, one with pure distilled water and one with pure alcohol. He put an earthworm into the distilled water and it swam beautifully and came up to the top.

He put another earthworm into the alcohol and it disintegrated in front of everyone's eyes. He wanted to prove that this was whatalcohol did to the insides of our body.

He asked the group what the moral of the story was and one person from behind said, "If you drink alcohol you won't have worms in your stomach."

Was that the message? Of course not. That was selective listening--we hearwhat we want to hear and not what is being said.

Many of our blessings are hidden treasures--count your blessings and not your troubles.

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but sometimes the troubles outweight the blessings

You are Correct Afghanprincess.....its really difficult at times.......

thats where the challenge lies...we often spent so much time counting our problems that we fail to realize even a few blessings that we have...

its said that we often look at the closed door for so long that we fail to see the many others doors which are open to us

try being thankful to people everyday.. even who do very small favours for us and see the difference...

start with thanking Khuday Talla for all little things given to us....just thank your friend for his/her friendship..... we do say it in our hearts many a times... why not let them know ...it makes a difference...

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That quote mainly applies to when you lose a husband or wife. Its a tough loss..

Why only husband or wife....it a tough loss i agree...over a period people move.. i know very few men who dont remarry after their wife's death...but losing parents????

even losing parents or any oneof the parent....it an irrepairable damage or loss.....and otherwise when people take their parents for granted they realize their importance only after losing them.... we never think of showing gratitude to our parents thinking either they know we are thankful so we need not mention or there is no need to be thankful.. cause they are parents and all parents have to make sacrifices or do a lot of things for their children....

but when lost u cant get them back...

i think i am losing track of the thread....anyways will come back with somemore positive posts...ka khair wi

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Step 4: Get into a Continuous Education Program

Let's get some myths out of the way. It is a general belief that we get educated in schools
and colleges.

"Do we really get educated in schools and colleges?" Generally, there is a
consensus that some do but most don't.

We receive a lot of information in schools and colleges. We do need information to be educated. But we need to know the true meaning of education.

Intellectual education influences the head and values based education influences the
heart. In fact, education that does not train the heart can be dangerous.

If we want to build character in our offices, homes and society, we must achieve a minimum level of moral and ethical literacy.

Education that builds fundamental traits of character--such as honesty, compassion, courage, persistence and responsibility--is absolutely essential.

We don't need more academic education; we need more values education. A person who is morally educated will be a lot better equipped to move up in life or
succeed than a morally bankrupt person with excellent academic qualifications.

Character building and teaching values and ethics come in the formative years because a child is not born with this knowledge.

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Education Without Values

True education is training of both the head and the heart. An uneducated thief may steal
from the freight car but an educated one may steal the entire railroad.

Universities are turning out highly skilled barbarians because we don't provide a
framework of values to young people, who more and more are searching for it.
--Steven Muller, President, Johns Hopkins University

We need to compete for knowledge and wisdom, not for grades. Knowledge is piling up
facts, wisdom is simplifying it.

One could have good grades and a degree without learning much. The most important thing one can learn is to "learn to learn."

People confuse education with the ability to memorize facts. Education of the mind without
morals creates a menace to society.

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EDUCATION DOES NOT MEAN GOOD JUDGEMENT

there is a story about a man who sold hot dogs by the roadside. He was illiterate, so he never read newspapers .
He was hard of hearing, so he never listened to the radio.

His eyes were weak, so he never watched television.

But enthusiastically, he sold lots of hot dogs. His sales and profit went up. He ordered more meat and got himself a bigger and a better stove.

As his business was growing, the son, who had recently graduated from
college, joined his father. Then something strange happened.

The son asked, "Dad, aren't you aware of the great recession that is coming our way?" The father replied, "No, but tell me about it." The son said, "The international situation is terrible.

The domestic is even worse. We should be prepared for the coming bad time." The man thought that since his son had been to college, read the papers, and listened to the radio, he ought to know and his advice should not be taken lightly.

So the next day, the father cut down his order for the meat and buns, took down the sign and was no longer enthusiastic. Very soon, fewer and fewer people bothered to stop at his hot dog stand.

And his sales started coming down rapidly. The father said to his son, "Son, you were right. We are in the middle of a recession. I am glad you warned me ahead of time."

What is the moral of the story?
1. Many times we confuse intelligence with good judgment.
2. A person may have high intelligence but poor judgment.
3. Choose your advisers carefully and use your judgment.
4. A person can and will be successful with or without formal education if they have the 5 Cs:

- character

- commitment

- conviction

- courtesy

- courage

5. The tragedy is that there are many walking encyclopedias who are living failures.