Marriage issue

[Fahd]

yeh right sis
but when someone want to marry he should ask about her islam , life, antthing he want to know
(and like u said everything is masked thats right but he gona ask Neighbor and cousins ) u will know something about her better than nothing
love marriage

[afridi_iphone]

How do you know she is not educated if you haven't spoken to her? Ask your mom to find you a Muslimah who is educated and what not. Be more specific on what you mean by educated.

very confusing post...
and very fishy user name... very fishy english for someone living in Canada...

please explain further... i am not able to understand ur issue...

I made this username in a rush. I wish I could make one on my own name. The post is not confusing you or others but I wrote it very short. I meant to be; is it ok if a pukhtun halak get married with uneducated pukhtana from back home with out seen each other. OK let me tell you one thing. I am not that educated or if you would think that I am a professor no but I am still go to university and studying engineering. I am not that old though too. Only 23 but as you know in pukhtu culture Families look for their children’s spuces-to-be earlier to be. Ofcourse I told my mom about what I look for in a girl. My prime requirement is a girl who takes hijab, not just as a piece of cloth, but with its full essence. The other requirements include her being intelligent and well educated to Islam, intellectual and open minded etc.. that’s all I want to know just… and that’s all my topic is about.
I hope now you understand me.

[afridi_iphone]

Majority of the girls back home are uneducated. Have you at least spoken to her? Or seen her?

I have neither seen her nor spoke to her. My mom find one in her relatives and she says she will go there and talk to her family and girl then she will choose for me . lol.

[afridi_iphone]

well, i have seen load marrying uneducated girls and they are happy with it
wish u good luck

Thanks for the wishing. Yeah my uncles and cousins are married to uneducated girls and they are fine but I want to bring some changes in my house. I want to bring some lights in my family so that tomorrow my kids will not grow up like animals. I want a girl who will bring the noor of Allah to home and spread the deen around my family and beneficiary other muslims.

[Fahd]

LOL ok thats not good when she going to afg and see her
thats mean like she choose it to u with out u see her pic or know any thing about her
there s internet in afg why anyone of ur mum cousins go and take pic of her and send u ??
or send u pic with any one want to come to canada ?
u should saw her and know about her
stop ur mum LOL
and ur last post about noor in home
thats what any one want wife who gona make u wake up for pray in fajer

[*Mahzala*]

yeh right sis
but when someone want to marry he should ask about her islam , life, antthing he want to know
(and like u said everything is masked thats right but he gona ask Neighbor and cousins ) u will know something about her better than nothing
love marriage

Islamic practice comes from having sufficient knowledge to understand and practice the teachings so that is education in itself. Not everyone follows blindly, as is the argument nowadays. And even so, if she was educated, in an Islamic sense, surely she knows of her rights too. Are you, men, then willing to give them to her?

And the whole love marriage topic, give me a paper bag and it should answer all your questions.

[afridi_iphone]

educated or not educated, what matters if she is a good muslima or not. And to be a good muslima a woman needs to educated to know her religion.

So if you think education is important, you have to ask yourself what kind of education you care about.

If you are a good muslim, then you should look for a woman whop is educated in Islam.

Read the comment down for FAHD. Simply not acceptable… Shariah rules are there for a reason.

I have already said " I want a girl who has saved herself, intelligent and well educated in Islam.

[afridi_iphone]

would you have married her if you were not Canada

how long have you lived in Canada

Of course I would be married long time if I was not in Canada. Wale zamonga khalq bass Canaday ta gori and then they will sell there daughters for mall doulat to come to Canada. Abubaker; there is nothing to do with Canada. Canada is a country where if you work hard you will get something, I mean if you study hard, you will get a good job, you will have respect if you slack around, nothing gonna happened then just lay eggs.

If a girl parents love her they would never think about Canada or whatever country but if her parents would look for a guy how the guys? is the guy will respect her and stay with her in sadness and happiness.

[afridi_iphone]

LOL ok thats not good when she going to afg and see her
thats mean like she choose it to u with out u see her pic or know any thing about her
there s internet in afg why anyone of ur mum cousins go and take pic of her and send u ??
or send u pic with any one want to come to canada ?
u should saw her and know about her
stop ur mum LOL
and ur last post about noor in home
thats what any one want wife who gona make u wake up for pray in fajer

Very well said Fahd. Why don't you tell all this to my mom. Hehe, I bet she will listen to you worora. She is not in Afghanistan. She is in Peshawar Hayatabad living a few phase down from our house. You know worora; the girl family said; we will not give u picture till my mom seen her or visit her. They saw my picture a few months ago. lol...

[Fahd]

Islamic practice comes from having sufficient knowledge to understand and practice the teachings so that is education in itself. Not everyone follows blindly, as is the argument nowadays. And even so, if she was educated, in an Islamic sense, surely she knows of her rights too. Are you, men, then willing to give them to her?

And the whole love marriage topic, give me a paper bag and it should answer all your questions.

u mean we gona don't give her rights if she was not educted !!
any one want educted women because she will teache her son's and doughters all things
like if u marry someone not relly good in islam the boys will get thats from her and like that (that about she know islam )
another example if she was saying bad words and don't know how to respect others (i mean by saying bad things with out she know thats gona hurt someone ) the boys will get thats from they mums
finely i would love to tell u never give the leader to ur wife in home and make resolution in home by ur self and some help from ur wife
because if the women get the leader in home the boys will become like they mum's (i don't mean don't share it with ur wife but i mean u r who will say the right or the wrong )
if u ppl understand what i mean
i know alot of ppl who r like that
talking like girls , think like girls hahaha

[Fahd]

Very well said Fahd. Why don't you tell all this to my mom. Hehe, I bet she will listen to you worora. She is not in Afghanistan. She is in Peshawar Hayatabad living a few phase down from our house. You know worora; the girl family said; we will not give u picture till my mom seen her or visit her. They saw my picture a few months ago. lol...

LOL i don't mind that , if it's going to work
ok i don't know but if ur mum visit her then saw the girl
if she told them that u don't marry her
thats will be not good i think
because of that ur mum should never do that hahaha
im sure about what im saying because one day u will wish if u don't marry like that (if she don't come like what u think or want )
tell ur mum about what all of us told u
i think she will understand u
and u can find pashtun girl in canada like u want

[*Mahzala*]

u mean we gona don't give her rights if she was not educted !!
any one want educted women because she will teache her son's and doughters all things
like if u marry someone not relly good in islam the boys will get thats from her and like that (that about she know islam )
another example if she was saying bad words and don't know how to respect others (i mean by saying bad things with out she know thats gona hurt someone ) the boys will get thats from they mums
finely i would love to tell u never give the leader to ur wife in home and make resolution in home by ur self and some help from ur wife
because if the women get the leader in home the boys will become like they mum's (i don't mean don't share it with ur wife but i mean u r who will say the right or the wrong )
if u ppl understand what i mean
i know alot of ppl who r like that
talking like girls , think like girls hahaha

Yes, that is what I mean, to an extent. When a man marries a woman he considers a kaliwaala with little education, he often takes advantage of it and often you see that everything he does, he tries to justify through some sort of means, often Islamic ones. Let me remind you that there is no difference in a man and woman seeking knowledge. Rather, upon both, in Islam, it is compulsory. Her rights, on the other hand, are different, ones that men should be better aware of in today's day and age.

From the other part of your post, I take it you are referring to the 'Mommy's boy' syndrome? Addressing it would be going off topic and so I will avoid it at this instance.

[Fahd]

yeh u r right
but not all men like that and i don't know why he would do that !!
yeh mommy's boy <<<thats if the mum was who decides evry thng in home and the haspend like ... LOL
0ops sorry afridi iphone about we talk in other things
tell us what gona happen when u talk to dad and mum

[afridi_iphone]

Have you told your mom what you expect in a woman? Brains or beauty? Finding both is difficult.

Yes I told my mom that I want a educated girl.
I never mentioned beauty, or did I?
As I said; intelligent and well educated into Islam, intellectual and open minded etc…

[afridi_iphone]

Have you bothered asking the woman back home if she is happy with marrying you?

I have never seen her. You know in back home families are hard to talk.