Marriage issue

[Amir al Ghaznavi]

i say go for the uneducated girl, because that way

a- she cant question or reject things that you tell her because of her lack knowledge

b- shes a blank slate, so you can tell her all sorts of crap and convince her its right

c- due to her insecurities over her lack of education, she will become submissive to you every whim....EVERY WHIM HOMAY

[afridi_iphone]

Have you bothered asking the woman back home if she is happy with marrying you?

Na kana thats the problem that i never seen her. And her parents says when they see my mom to come over to their house in Peshawar, they will provide picture and my mom will see girl as well. its freak me sometimes but you know Pukhtana khalq and then my mom. toba toba.

[afridi_iphone]

Iphone Afridi how old are you?

As i said earlier 23 and engineering student.

[afridi_iphone]

marriage isn't a game iphone afridi. You need to be more careful and at least see how she looks. Don't be forced or pressured.

Exactly worora its not a game of few days and months. We are not white people to lets stay for while, date and then bye bye. Marriage is promised with Allah to be stay together forever.

[afridi_iphone]

i say go for the uneducated girl, because that way

a- she cant question or reject things that you tell her because of her lack knowledge

b- shes a blank slate, so you can tell her all sorts of crap and convince her its right

c- due to her insecurities over her lack of education, she will become submissive to you every whim....EVERY WHIM HOMAY

I am not agreeing with you at all at this point. Your replay doesn't make any sense to me. Even you make my words irrelevant. How a man wants his wife to be dumb and obey whatever he demands for? How a man gonna live and handle her if she is not educated? How the wife will grow her kids? I think their kids would become Taliban then because there would be no support, no deen and a lack of no education from back side. That’s why we Pukhtana cannot go further because we want our wives to be dump, low from man and uneducated. How sad it is… and why we think like this... Also how how can I say all crap and proved her guilty when she is right and she has no harm in herself. (I bet Allah will be laughing at you when you wrote this comment to me). She will be submission to me when I respect her, when I listen to her, when I treat her with dignity.

As I said this earlier to someone before but I will say it to you again; I want to bring some changes in my family. I want to bring some lights in my family so that tomorrow my kids will not grow up like animals. I want a girl who will bring the noor of Allah and the way of Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) to my home and spread the deen around my family and beneficiary other Muslims.

Thank you for your time.

[afridi_iphone]

yeh u r right
but not all men like that and i don't know why he would do that !!
yeh mommy's boy <<<thats if the mum was who decides evry thng in home and the haspend like ... LOL
0ops sorry afridi iphone about we talk in other things
tell us what gona happen when u talk to dad and mum

Dera manana woroa. enshAllah update will be provide.

[afridi_iphone]

Iphone Afridi,

Have your mom visit her, let your mom check her out. Moms always wish the best for their children. She wants to see you happy.

Yes defiantly she will be going right after when she done with Hajj enshAllah.
Dera manana.

[Fahd]

your mum in hajj ?
will i can meet her and talk to her
but i don't wanna get slap's from her and tell me
ta sa kaar lareh
LOL thats gona make me idiot hahaha
inshallah evry things will be okey

[Nokia_Apridy]

your mum in hajj ?
will i can meet her and talk to her
but i don't wanna get slap's from her and tell me
ta sa kaar lareh
LOL thats gona make me idiot hahaha
inshallah evry things will be okey

Za Bachu Apridi Wos Khu laray

Fahd ba da Aday (mor) ta oaye awo Aday ba da Kor na ubase.....

[Fahd]

^lol :p

[Mina]

Dont take girls back home to be absolute sweethearts. I 've known many Afghan women who 're all nicey nicey before marriage but once they land their feet in west they in a jiffy manage to make their husbands lose contact with their family. Afghans in west 're most of the time naive and dont think of chalbazi 'cause this isnt what they 're being thought, but be wary of people back home. I mean it.

[afridi_iphone]

your mum in hajj ?
will i can meet her and talk to her
but i don't wanna get slap's from her and tell me
ta sa kaar lareh
LOL thats gona make me idiot hahaha
inshallah evry things will be okey

she will be leaving with bro very soon, due of some documents they are still late.
Hahah na worora my mom is very simple and kind. instead of slap she would kiss you on your forehead and make for you doga. I always try to fool her with money because she is very simple.

I hope things go fine with me. thanks

[afridi_iphone]

Za Bachu Apridi Wos Khu laray

Fahd ba da Aday (mor) ta oaye awo Aday ba da Kor na ubase.....

troper dher shaq pa kay neshta, haha de mong afridi shaytoni dera zar mani.

[afridi_iphone]

Dont take girls back home to be absolute sweethearts. I 've known many Afghan women who 're all nicey nicey before marriage but once they land their feet in west they in a jiffy manage to make their husbands lose contact with their family. Afghans in west 're most of the time naive and dont think of chalbazi 'cause this isnt what they 're being thought, but be wary of people back home. I mean it.

You are right. I am agree with you. Five fingers are not the same that’s how every human being is different than others. I cannot judge her before she comes here but as you can see our Pukhtana halakan get lost in West very fast. They forget about Pukhtunwali and follow what others people doing here. In my opinion its not only with Pukhtanay or afghani girls who come here and step high then their chaddar (paronay). Allah created everyones differently and give them emotions but sometimes we go further in our emotions and lost our own self.

Maybe you saw Farsiwal afghanay jalkay. I saw some in university here they change a lot. Like smokes, drinks and other stuff.

Allah knows best. De cha pa makh bande yae nadi leqali che da ensan sanga day...

[eyeliner]

The thing is it doesn't matter if you marry someone from backhome or from the West......because either both of them can turn out to be good, but at the same time they can both turn out to be bad. If your considering to marry your mum's relative and even if you don't know her personally you can ask people about her.......now i know that no one can't know everything about a person........but people know if that person has a certain reputation........those people are normally associated with certain things and in the end of the day marriage is considered half your deen.....which means that it will be challenging, which means that throughout your lifetime you will have to be open to sacrifices and compromises.

Now someone who is educated is different to someone who is not........you know in the quran how they say that someone with knowledge compared with someone with lack of knowledge is like the difference between the day and night. Now the reason i say that educated and non educated people will have differences in terms of quite alot of things i.e. mentality. But i do think a relationship between the two will still work out because in the end of the day the character of a person matters more then their level of education. I think that theres a high chance of a relationship working out if the guy is educated, then if the girl is and the guy isnt.........because then they guy might feel some kind of threat to his authority and want her to stay at home etc.