Success and Positive Thinking

[amna.]

To be positive, I learned that I have to understand no one is perfect.

[spogmai shaglay]

I visit this thread daily and it hasn't been updated as often. I just want to ask Spogmai is everything ok?

Alhumdullilah everything is fine Jasmine... thanks for asking.....was busy these days and also tecvhnology u know... whther a boon or a curse again....if down i am cut off from u allll....and that's what happened....

[spogmai shaglay]

To be positive one has to be able to criticize her actions without feeling ashamed.

Yes Rihana....but criticize action which really need improvement....it takes a lot of courage to point out yoour own falls without feeling ashamed.....as it helps us in our progress tooo...

but not always criticizing yourself....that's like putting yourself down always in front of others.....if u always put yourself down others have a good chance to do it for u....

rather i always mention critical analysis... or critical feedback....

if you point out only negatives about me i wont take it at alll......

but if u point some positive and then suggests thing to improve my negatives i will definitely take your criticism in a positive way and i will be assured that you are concerned for my good....

[spogmai shaglay]

To be positive, I learned that I have to understand no one is perfect.

Absolutely amna.........No body is perfect...if we think we are perfect, then there is no scope for development... when no further scope....we are stagnant and stagnation is not healthy at all...

and if i am perfect i wont take any critcism positively....

[spogmai shaglay]

EVERY SUCCESS STORY IS ALSO A STORY OF GREAT FAILURE

Failure is the highway to success. Tom Watson Sr. said, "If you want to succeed, double your failure rate."

If you study history, you will find that all stories of success are also stories of great failures. But people don't see the failures. They only see one side of the picture and they say that person got lucky: "He must have been at the right place at the right time."

Let me share someone's life history with you. This was a man who failed in business at the age of 21 ; was defeated in a legislative race at age 22; failed again in business at age 24; overcame the death of his sweetheart at age 26; had a nervous breakdown at age 27; lost a congressional race at age 34; lost a senatorial race at age 45; failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47; lost a senatorial race at age 49; and was
elected president of the United States at age 52.

This man was Abraham Lincoln.
Would you call him a failure? He could have quit. But to Lincoln, defeat was a detour and not a dead end.

[spogmai shaglay]

In 1913, Lee De Forest, inventor of the triodes tube, was charged by the district attorney for using fraudulent means to mislead the public into buying stocks of his company by claiming that he could transmit the human voice across the Atlantic. He was publicly humiliated. Can you imagine where we would be without his invention?


A New York Times editorial on December 10, 1903, questioned the wisdom of the Wright Brothers who were trying to invent a machine, heavier than air, that would fly. One weeklater, at Kitty Hawk, the Wright Brothers took their famous flight.

Colonel Sanders, at age 65, with a beat-up car and a $100 check from Social Security, realized he had to do something. He remembered his mother's recipe and went out selling. How many doors did he have to knock on before he got his first order? It is estimated that he had knocked on more than a thousand doors before he got his first
order. How many of us quit after three tries, ten tries, a hundred tries, and then we say we tried as hard as we could?

[spogmai shaglay]

As a young cartoonist, Walt Disney faced many rejections from newspaper editors, who said he had no talent. One day a minister at a church hired him to draw some cartoons.Disney was working out of a small mouse infested shed near the church. After seeing a small mouse, he was inspired. That was the start of Mickey Mouse.


Successful people don't do great things, they only do small things in a great way.

One day a partially deaf four year old kid came home with a note in his pocket from his teacher, "Your Tommy is too stupid to learn, get him out of the school." His mother read the note and answered, "My Tommy is not stupid to learn, I will teach him myself." Andthat Tommy grew up to be the great Thomas Edison. Thomas Edison had only three months of formal schooling and he was partially deaf.

[spogmai shaglay]

Henry Ford forgot to put the reverse gear in the first car he made.

Do you consider these people failures? They succeeded in spite of problems, not in the absence of them. But to the outside world, it appears as though they just got lucky.

All success stories are stories of great failures. The only difference is that every time they failed, they bounced back. This is called failing forward, rather than backward.

You learn and move forward. Learn from your failure and keep moving.

In 1914, Thomas Edison, at age 67, lost his factory, which was worth a few million
dollars, to fire. It had very little insurance. No longer a young man, Edison watched his
lifetime effort go up in smoke and said, "There is great value in disaster. All our mistakes are burnt up. Thank God we can start anew." In spite of disaster, three weeks later, he invented the phonograph. What an attitude!

[spogmai shaglay]

Below are more examples of the failures of successful people:

1. Thomas Edison failed approximately 10,000 times while he was working on the light
bulb.

2. Henry Ford was broke at the age of 40.

3. Lee Iacocca was fired by Henry Ford II at the age of 54.

4. Young Beethoven was told that he had no talent for music, but he gave some of the
best music to the world.

Setbacks are inevitable in life. A setback can act as a driving force and also teach us
humility.

In grief you will find courage and faith to overcome the setback. We need to
learn to become victors, not victims.

Fear and doubt short-circuit the mind. Ask yourself after every setback: What did I learn from this experience? Only then will you be able to turn a stumbling block into a stepping stone.

[Shehbaz Khan]

Fresh Fish


The Japanese have always loved fresh fish. But the water close to Japan has not held many fish for decades.

So to feed the Japanese population, fishing boats got bigger and went farther than ever. The farther the fishermen went,

the longer it took to bring the fish. If the return trip took more time, the fish were not fresh. To solve this problem,

fish companies installed freezers on their boats. They would catch the fish and freeze them at sea.

Freezers allowed the boats to go farther and stay longer. However,

the Japanese could taste the difference between fresh and frozen fish. And they did not like the taste of frozen fish.



The frozen fish brought a lower price. So, fishing companies installed fish tanks. They would catch the fish and stuff them in the tanks,
fin to fin. After a little thrashing around, they were tired, dull, and lost their fresh-fish taste. The fishing industry faced an impending crisis! But today, they get fresh-tasting fish to Japan. How did they manage? To keep the fish tasting fresh, the Japanese fishing companies still put the fish in the tanks but with a small shark.



The fish are challenged and hence are constantly on the move. The challenge they face keeps them alive and fresh! Have you realized that some of us are also living in a pond but most of the time tired and dull? Basically in our lives, sharks are new challenges to keep us active. If you are steadily conquering challenges, you are happy. Your challenges keep you energized. Don't create success and revel it in a state of inertia. You have the resources, skills and abilities to make a difference. Put a shark in your tank and see how far you can really go.

[spogmai shaglay]

THE GREATEST GIFT

Man, of all creatures, is physically the most ill equipped in this world. He cannot fly like aNbird, can be killed by a tiny insect, cannot outrun a leopard, cannot swim like an alligator, cannot climb the tree like a monkey, doesn't have the eye of an eagle, nor does he have the claws and teeth of a wild cat.

Physically, man is helpless and defenseless. But nature is reasonable and kind. Nature's greatest gift to man is the ability to think. He can create his own environment, whereas animals adapt to their environment.

Sadly, very few people use the greatest gift the ability to think to its full potential.

Failures are of two kinds: those who did and never thought and those who thought and
never did. Going through life without using our ability to think is like shooting without
aiming.

Life is like a cafeteria. You take' your tray, select your food and pay at the other end. You can get anything you want as long as you are willing to pay the price. In a cafeteria, if you wait for people to serve you, you will wait forever. Life is like that too.

You make choices and pay the price.

[spogmai shaglay]

LIFE IS FULL OF CHOICES AND COMPROMISES

There is a contradiction here. If life is full of choices, where is the question of compromises? Remember, even a compromise is a choice. Let's evaluate this.

How is Life Full of Choices?

When we eat too much, we make a choice to be overweight. When we drink too much, we make a choice to have a headache the next day. If you drink and drive, you make a choice to risk being killed or killing someone in an accident.

When we ill treat people, we make a choice to be ill treated in return. When we don't care about other people, we make a choice not to be cared for by other people.

Choices have consequences. We are free to make our choice but after we have chosen, the choice controls us. We have equal opportunity to be unequal. The choice is ours.

Life can be compared to a pottery maker who shapes clay in any form he wants. Similarly, we can mould our lives into any shape we want.

[Shehbaz Khan]

Arthur, A legendery wimbledon player, was dying of aids which he got due to infected blood he recieved during a heart surgery. From world over he recieved letters from his fans, one of which conveyed: Why does God have to select u for such a bad disease?
to this arthur replied:

From world over, 5 crore children start playing tennis, 50 lakhs learn to play tennis,
5 lakhs learn professional tennis, 50 thousand cometo the circuit, 5 thousand reach the grand slam, 50 reach wimbledon, 4 to semi final, 2 to the final.

When i was holding the cup, i never asked God "why me?" and today in the pain, i should not be asking God "why me?"

Happiness keeps u sweet, Trials keep u strong, Sorrow keeps u human, Failure keeps u humble, Success keeps u glowing but only God keeps u doing

Don't tell God how big your problems are, tell your problems how big your God is.

[Shehbaz Khan]

The year was 1902, when a professor asked his student whether it was God who created everything that exists in the universe?
Student replied, Yes.
He again asked; What about evil? Has God created evil also? The student got silent.

Then the student requested that may he ask a question from him? Professor allowed him to do so.
He asked: Does cold exist?
Professor replied: Yes ... ! Don't you feel the cold dear?
Student said: I am sorry but you are wrong sir. Cold is a complete absence of heat. There is no cold, it is just the absence of heat.
Student again asked: Does darkness exist?
Professor said Yes, and the student replied, You again wrong sir there is no such thing as darkness. Its actually the absence of light.

Sir.. We always study light and heat but not cold and darkness.
Similarly, the Evil does not exist. Actually it is the absence of Love, Faith and true believe in God.

[Shehbaz Khan]

A New Lesson

Once a boy went to a shop with his mother. The shop keeper looked at the small cute child and showed him a bottle with sweets

and said 'Dear Child..u can take the sweets...
But the child didnt take. The shop keeper was surprised.. such a small child he is and why is he not taking the sweets from the bottle. Again he said take the sweets....
Now the mother also heard that and said.. take the sweets dear.. Yet he didnt take... The shopkeeper seeing the child not taking the sweets... he himself took the sweets and gave to the child. The child was happy to get two hands full of sweets.


While returning home the Mother asked the child... Why didnt you take the sweets, when the shop keeper told you to take?..
Can you guess the response:
Child replies... Mom! my hands are very small and if i take the sweets i can only take few.. but now you see when uncle gave with his big hands.... how many more sweets i got!


Moral:
When we take we may get little but when God gives... HE gives us more beyond our expectations. ...
more than what we can hold..!!
Keep Smiling..!