Number of ur siblings

[Pakhtunzai]

[Sheenka]

Lolzz
u guys r obsseed with cricket

[Laila]

im the only one here with no siblings eh

I could be your sister (that is if you like me and can tolerate my NBA team :P)

[*Mahzala*]

i don't think AnGaaR specifically asked anyone "how many sisters you have" now that would have been disrespectful...

u guys are all confusing this questions about siblings with a question specifically about sisters.

Feroza, our discussion was not aimed at Angaar. As you can see, the discussion involved other members, quoting each other. The question was not confused either. It was a separate discussion that stemmed from this topic, and was misunderstood or miscommunicated by some members, thus the continuous posts.

I hope this is not misunderstood. =)

[Feroza_Banu]

^thank you for clarifying...

but actually i wasn't implying to say that the discussion was aimed at him.. i was just pointing out the difference between how two questions can be interpreted using his example lol... i think i was misunderstood haha... :P

[AfghanSoulja]

i dont know what you speak of laila, what are lakers..people who goto lake ?. Anyways y'all are welcome to be my sisters

[Feroza_Banu]

^yay!.... i don't have a biological brother... i am so glad u volunteered to be my bro.

[Laila]

i dont know what you speak of laila, what are lakers..people who goto lake ?. Anyways y'all are welcome to be my sisters

Wait, Lakers right.....who are the Lakers...oh yeah, the team that beat the Celtics last night very badly......:P jk jk


I take it as a 'yes'

[Iqra]

I agree.

[Mayana]

A lot of you are confused.

if a guy asks me 'How is your sister or how many do you have'.

I will feel deeply disrespected, it's just not right.


That is like me asking Sheenkay. Out of the blue 'How is your mom?'.

it's against Pashtun norms.

In Kandahar even if someone coughs purposely it's considered disrespectful. We are know to have high standards for morality. We respect our woman and honor them a lot.

it's not that we don't recognize them. We just don't want them in everyones mouth.

Agreed. Yet, Angaar Khan didn't ask anyone specifically how many sisters they have; if the guys feel uncomfortable, they can just say "I have x siblings."

Listen i am not a clown or entertainer, i have spent my entire life in pakhtunkhwa and our ways and behaviours are definately different from those altered and modernised pashtuns who live in the west. Call us backward or retarded but we dont share info of female members of our family with persons not related to us by blood.

Values have nothing to do with modernization. You either are a moral person or you're not.

im the only one here with no siblings eh

Noo! Me too! I found the other only child

I have so many sibling. They are very demanding. AfghanSoulja and Star should be happy. Imagine having someone you MUST share everyone with and they always use the line, "Sharing is caring"/

Better than having no one to share anything with.. =/

[Iqra]

^ you forgot STAR, she's an only child too.

[Mayana]

^Remember when I was looking for the other only child yesterday? And you were telling me 'warsa paida ye ka' haha my long lost twin :P

[IamDZJ]

It is similar to the trend of not calling parants by their names. It may sounds strict and irrational but to us it perfectly feels normal and we are adjusted and tuned that no stranger is supposed to inquire some thing about our sisters. If some one asks, it feels offensive to us. You can say it is a norm of pashtun society.

about the norms of a pashtun society...
sisters are not pimples that you hide their existence... had some random na mahram guy one asked you their age.. names hobbies or interests, you could said you are offended and you would have every right as a brother or family member to be protective..
but to say "i am not going to tell any one if i do or do not have a sister because it's a pashtun's way of things"... i am sorry...
a
you are just being paranoid and absurd..
b
it's not a pashtun's way of things because there are those of us who don't follow such demented narrow mindedness and no way in hell would we allow any one to slap us in the face with such illogical claims of pashtunwali and exclude us our title as pashtuns.

[AfghanSoulja]

The benefit of being the only child

“How did school go today? a mother asked her little boy. “Fine”, the little fellow replied. “We had a new teacher and she wanted to know if I had any brothers and I told her I was an only child”. What did he say?” his mother asked. “ The said, “Thank goodness”.

Other than that not many perks, you get blamed for everything that goes wrong in the house

[IamDZJ]

i know what he meant very well.
i also know how afghan guys greet each other when women are not around.
i will disown my brothers if they ever denied my existence under whatever condition.