Marriage to non-Pashtuns

[Mayana]

why? I don't want my sister spending her whole life adjusting with someones culture, not knowing the language a family speaks in. What your mentioning rarely occurs and perhaps only occurs in Qandahar since Dari has NO important in Qandahar and the lingua franca in Qandahar is Pashto therefore even the Tajiks are prett much Pashtuns.

Exactly. I am talking about Qandahar and what the case is over there since Shlombay wror was referring to Qandahar in his original post, saying that no Tajik-Pashtun marriages occur over there. They do and quiet frankly, they aren't rare either - just because, like you mentioned, "Tajiks over there are pretty much like Pashtuns".
Other than that, yeah Pashtuns tend to give non-Pashtuns a pretty hard time when it comes to marriage.

[Mayana]

Yes, I am from Qandahar.. and I agree, a lot of importance is put on being Qandahari

[Laila]

My father would never give me away to a non-Pashtun, nor would i want to. Either he is Pashtun or i dont mind living in a shoe with a million pets.

[Nokia_Apridy]

Pa da ka ba sok sa yaye da khu khkara khbra da chay dasey nashey kedalay
Chay Pukhtana warkay ba bal sok wakey
Ao Zma pa Nazar Pukhtun ta da bal QOOM kwlay shi

Za dalta da WARKAY (JENAY) DA YA PUKHTANO KHAZO

HAQ NA LANDWAY KWAM KHU PUKHTU KA DI CHAY

BACHY DA PLAR PA WENA ZI....

Ao chay Kawe nu sok sa hem kwalay shi khu da Hagu pa WENA ka

QASAM sra SHAK kwa .....


Laka wus da QANDHAR Awa german natnl da ADNAN SAMI sra wada wakru

[tor_khan]

Pa da ka ba sok sa yaye da khu khkara khbra da chay dasey nashey kedalay
Chay Pukhtana warkay ba bal sok wakey
Ao Zma pa Nazar Pukhtun ta da bal QOOM kwlay shi

Za dalta da WARKAY (JENAY) DA YA PUKHTANO KHAZO

HAQ NA LANDWAY KWAM KHU PUKHTU KA DI CHAY

BACHY DA PLAR PA WENA ZI....

Ao chay Kawe nu sok sa hem kwalay shi khu da Hagu pa WENA ka

QASAM sra SHAK kwa .....


Laka wus da QANDHAR Awa german natnl da ADNAN SAMI sra wada wakru

Da dyu interview ma lidaley wo. Dumra pata lageday chi jinai Afghan wa, kho chi da kam simi wa, no agha khabara nawo shawey.

Dwara di khushala hosey, zonga dagha dua da.

[Master Khan]

Adnam Sami kho Zoha Faryadi sara wadoo oko,
don't know if she is Pashtun or not.

[Dinosaur Khan]

Adnan sami is a pashtun, no need to get surprised over marrying an afghan

[Dinosaur Khan]

no he's not.

He is from peshawer.

[afghan]

very interesting thread. i have read diffirent opinions about marring non pashtun. in my opinion one should also consider the issue how closed the couple are to each other culturraly. many marriages break down after few years when the couple cannt agree on diffirent issues, how to eduacate their kids, what religion they have to be if they there is a diffirent religion, what language should they be speaking.
i have seen diffirent reaction to my marriage to a non pashtun woman, the negative reaction was not about of her being non pashtun, whetrer she speaks pashto or not? it was about her faith. my children consider themselves afghans and they are very proud of it, eventhough they are not fluent in pashto. my son had an argument with his teacher in the class about his nationality, when the teacher said he is an american. he felt insulted he said tha he is a citizen of that coutry was bron there, it doesnt make him an american and he has diffirent blood, the teacher replied we all have red blood, and we all human are the same, my son who was nine at the time said animals have red blood too. its very long stroy wont go in details. shortly if the couples have respecrt for eachother i dont see anything wrong with it, marrying a pashtun for the reason their children to speak pashtu, it souds strange to me. there are alot of non pashtuns who speaks pashto and its their first language,but they are the enemies of pashtun, speaking the languege wont make one pashtun.

[Master Khan]

it breaks my heart when a pashtun is marriying a non pashtun or muslim.

[pukhtana]

I will never marry a Man that is not Pashtun. Sorry.

[Brit Chick]

Not something that I would ever have considered for the same reasons as others have already mentioned, but each to their own I guess. What's important to some isn't a priority for others.

[Khushal Khan Khattak]

I and my family strongly believe that Pushtuns should marry only Pushtuns.

Many of you might not know this, but this is part of our Pushtunwali.

that is, preserve Pushtun culture and blood.

Would I marry say a nice looking girl if she was non Pushtun?

No.

Similarly, I would like my brother in law or son in law (I am only ~25 so this is just an assumption, dont jump to conclusions, he he he) to be Pushtuns as well.

As far as Islam is concerned, it says Kafw/ kafo. that is equality.

In the hypothetical situation where say there were two girls I liked, both good Muslims but one non Pushtun, I would prefer the Pushtun girl any day.

For those of you who dont know, this is also supported by Islam, this is Kafo/ Kafw.


Bottom line: Pushtuns male/female should marry ONLY Pushtuns. This is extremely important for our culture and tradition and more importantly our pride and glorious history. But this should not be used or taken in any un Islamic way.

(un Islamic here = anything progressing beyond the Kafw principle to unjustly impose this just because out of pride for being Pushtun, which is haram)

[Nokia_Apridy]

Rekhtya lag Tarkha di khu lekam ba

Malgaro ka pam wakay da Topic Title Kanzal da Pukhtano da para

da na chay KHUDAY pak da naray pa makh serf za Zaga walay yam...

Khu da hem sHUKER da chay PUKHTUN yam...

[Khushal Khan Khattak]

Malgaro ka pam wakay da Topic Title Kanzal da Pukhtano da para

Mara Apridyia! Da ta saa way? Kanzal sa matlab?

I dont get it?