whats should i do

[haajar]

Dear sister,

If you have made up your mind that you do not want to be with a man who has two wives; and you know that he will listen to his father over you, then there is only one thing left: Don't marry him.

Don't expect any miracles. Don't put Allah to test. You have to logic it out. So far everything is pointing in one direction: leave him. If you do decide to choose love over logic then remember that you will suffer a lot.

One night of crying is far better then a whole lifetime of crying. So, cry one night when you leave him and then allow time to heal you.

thats what my logical mid keeps telling me

[MeemWawMeemNoon]

thats what my logical mid keeps telling me

Sister no man is worth your iman or your life. NO MAN. Allah Almighty has not subjugated women under men. He has only made men to be leaders above women because of their physical strength and the fact that they are the main bread winners. However, this does not mean that men have a carte blanche to do as they please. They must fear Allah also.

This man of yours fears his father more than he fears Allah. Don't rely on a man who will not be just to you due to the lack of the fear of Allah.

There are many fish in the sea. Ask, Allah, the Best Fisherman, to find you a good and proper husband who will respect you enough to be honest with you and not fear anyone when he loves you.