whats should i do

[haajar]

I am not pushtun, im a muslimah alhamdulillah from a good muslim family.i am educated also alhamdulillah. im engaged to a pashtun...we not in pakistan or afghanistan.he is from NWFP.
2 weeks ago i got engaged to him. his parents know, they are in pak. his left for pak for ramadaan with the news that his dad got him engaged. he cannot say no to his family....i think he will have to marry his cousin. i cannot live with this secret my family will never allow me to marry him knowing he has to marry in pak also, and i dont want to share a husband....

he loves me alot

what do I do??im feeling guilty because he loves me ,,,,how do i tell him all this??

[eyeliner]

i suggest that you come clean to him about how you feel in terms of how you feel about him and about you not wanting to share him, i suggest you do it as soon as possible because the longer you leave it the harder it will become. Secondly it is his duty to tell his parents the truth, they may at first find it hard to accept but they will learn to deal with it, because if he ends up marrying someone else while he has feelings for you then in the end of the day, 3 lives will be at stake and no one will be happy. so i guess honesty would be the best policy. If its meant to be then it will be. Secondly i don't know what ethnic background you belong to but i think you should be honest with your parents aswell, and take into account what they say, because sometimes when you have feelings for someone you only see them the way you want to see them and thats why the saying 'love is blind' personifies it. So try and make a logical decision about what the best strategy would be.

[Master Khan]

I am not pushtun, im a muslimah alhamdulillah from a good muslim family.i am educated also alhamdulillah. im engaged to a pashtun...we not in pakistan or afghanistan.he is from NWFP.
2 weeks ago i got engaged to him. his parents know, they are in pak. his left for pak for ramadaan with the news that his dad got him engaged. he cannot say no to his family....i think he will have to marry his cousin. i cannot live with this secret my family will never allow me to marry him knowing he has to marry in pak also, and i dont want to share a husband....

he loves me alot

what do I do??im feeling guilty because he loves me ,,,,how do i tell him all this??

first thing is that is not call NWFP but its call Pakhtunkhwa.

The only way you got left is for him to said it to his parents or its over.

[IamDZJ]

Got to love one more than the other
Parents or the secret lover

[Master Khan]

he should have told his parents about you earlier.

[eyeliner]

^ i agree, if someone has enough respect for you then they will tell their parents first

[Master Khan]

I mean in my village boys tell their parents stright away when they see a girl they like lol, and then they find out where she lives and then they ask for her marraige .

[eyeliner]

^ but not everyone is the same, some have genuine feelings and some just do it to give you a bad name. But i guess some have to make sure their marrying the right person, but either way it should be easier for men.

[Master Khan]

well yeah kind of.

[eyeliner]

^ lol, why am i suprised?

[Master Khan]

Eyeliner any people came for your relationship lol.

[eyeliner]

^ lol quite a few

[Master Khan]

and did you break their hearts lol....going off topic now.!!

sorry Haajar khor.

[eyeliner]

lol we're going to derail the thread as usual so i'll page you

[Master Khan]

kha Eyeliner, We should get a member like qrrutugai, Guley etc to help Haajar Khor here, I mean I only way left for the boy to ask the parents.