Guys Trying to Pick Me Up From Their Cars?

[toughpashtun]

If I was how you depict me as, I wouldn't have avoided getting into a relationship my whole life. I have good morals, alhamdulillah. But anyways I would never go for someone just for their money. There are things even more important such as religion, background, character, looks, etc.

But the topic seems to be steering in a direction that was not my intention. My question was (and this is aimed at males because only males understand their own behavior) are people who act this way only interested in taking advantage or is there a possibility that they are genuinely interested in me

So now that you posed a direct question, I 'll tell you what I think .
A man who is stalking you , or trying to get you to go with him in his car, is most likely looking for some short-term fun,if you know what I mean.A night,maybe? Or maybe makes you his girlfriend for some time?But I honestly don't think that such creeps actually intend to wife you.
So my advice;do what Manzareh told you: stay safe of such men,don;t try to talk to them or give them any attention.You may threaten to report them if they persist,and can actually even do so if they continue their harrasement.
For marriage, there are other decent avenues that can be employed to get yourself 'wifed'.

[DaZahroJaam.]

If I was how you depict me as, I wouldn't have avoided getting into a relationship my whole life. I have good morals, alhamdulillah. But anyways I would never go for someone just for their money. There are things even more important such as religion, background, character, looks, etc.

But the topic seems to be steering in a direction that was not my intention. My question was (and this is aimed at males because only males understand their own behavior) are people who act this way only interested in taking advantage or is there a possibility that they are genuinely interested in me

You don't need to have been in a relationship to be inappropriate or know what is inappropriate behaviour. Any woman above the age of 13, from any culture or background, can tell that men approaching them like that can't be having decent intentions. You don't need another man telling you that. It's common sense.
Some women feel attractive when they encounter that sort of behaviour and like to talk about it with others, not because they are interested in finding solutions for that problem or ways of avoiding it in future but because it makes them feel more attractive. You seem to be that type.

Anyways, have fun.

[gina1]

You don't need to have been in a relationship to be inappropriate or know what is inappropriate behaviour. Any woman above the age of 13, from any culture or background, can tell that men approaching them like that can't be having decent intentions. You don't need another man telling you that. It's common sense.

I don't understand why.

Some women feel attractive when they encounter that sort of behaviour and like to talk about it with others, not because they are interested in finding solutions for that problem or ways of avoiding it in future but because it makes them feel more attractive. You seem to be that type.

Hmm..no. I have nothing to gain from doing that neither do I have the time to go through the trouble of making an anonymous account and posting on here without any meaningful purpose.

Anyways, have fun.

You too..

[UnknownUser]

Any Guy who behaves such way around a woman will obviously not have very noble intentions...

You Dont have any family connection to some Pashtun men of similar Financial standing?

Either way, you should perhaps not put so much emphasis on money...money is not be all end all in this Life....a poor man could make you happpier than billionaire sheikh...

[gina1]

So now that you posed a direct question, I 'll tell you what I think .
A man who is stalking you , or trying to get you to go with him in his car, is most likely looking for some short-term fun,if you know what I mean.A night,maybe? Or maybe makes you his girlfriend for some time?But I honestly don't think that such creeps actually intend to wife you.
So my advice;do what Manzareh told you: stay safe of such men,don;t try to talk to them or give them any attention.You may threaten to report them if they persist,and can actually even do so if they continue their harrasement.
For marriage, there are other decent avenues that can be employed to get yourself 'wifed'.

Too much to write... I will a response when I get a chance

[gina1]

Any Guy who behaves such way around a woman will obviously not have very noble intentions...

You Dont have any family connection to some Pashtun men of similar Financial standing?

Not really of a similar financial standing. But I care about other qualities besides money more...and I just don't find Westernized Pashtun types compatible or appealing. The traditional ones seem too out of reach. The closest thing is traditional Arabs.

Either way, you should perhaps not put so much emphasis on money...money is not be all end all in this Life....

True..I am not a gold-digger at all but it is wise to marry someone who is capable of comfortably maintaining a family.

a poor man could make you happpier than billionaire sheikh...

Such true words, wror.

[Elite Pakhtun]

and I just don't find Westernized Pashtun types compatible or appealing. The traditional ones seem too out of reach. The closest thing is traditional Arabs.

What do you mean by westernized and traditional? As in how they dress? How religious? Please elaborate.

[gina1]

What do you mean by westernized and traditional? As in how they dress? How religious? Please elaborate.

Yeah...how they dress, their mindset/values, everything.

[Manzareh]

I think people are missing the point as I have also done. She doesn't want it to stop, we are all assuming she doesn't like it and wants it to stop..however she's ok with it but wants to know if it will be a fling or she can actually have a future with a dude that pulls her off the street that's all. Therefore the best advice you can give is to say try it, you never know life is short..please update us on the progress too :D

[UnknownUser]

I think people are missing the point as I have also done. She doesn't want it to stop, we are all assuming she doesn't like it and wants it to stop..however she's ok with it but wants to know if it will be a fling or she can actually have a future with a dude that pulls her off the street that's all. Therefore the best advice you can give is to say try it, you never know life is short..please update us on the progress too :D

Well lets Hope she doesnt end Up getting raped....

Either way No woman should Jump in the car of a stranger...specially an Arab...

Im sure there must be some websites for Afghans Bride/marriages websites kinda like dating sites...

[UnknownUser]

Yeah...how they dress, their mindset/values, everything.

Please explain...im interested to know. You prefer old fashioned Afghan man?

[khushal]

I think people are missing the point as I have also done. She doesn't want it to stop, we are all assuming she doesn't like it and wants it to stop..however she's ok with it but wants to know if it will be a fling or she can actually have a future with a dude that pulls her off the street that's all. Therefore the best advice you can give is to say try it, you never know life is short..please update us on the progress too :D

Thats never the best advice but DZJ already pointed it out.

[khushal]

The dynamics of Western society are very different from the Arab or Afghan/Pakistani society. In the West, most men get the chance to interact freely and frequently with women be it at the workplace,school etc. So they build their relationships in a natural manner,and do not appear as creepy.
In our areas,including the Arab countries, contact between men and women is limited.So those men who are desperate to get a girlfriend, or even a prostitute for a short while(sorry to use this word) , then they try to pick on any vulnerable woman.
I'll give you an example.A local TV reporter based in Peshawar(Pakistan) dressed up as a woman and was walking on the roads of Peshawar.He was having himself secretly filmed. You will be surprised to see that so many men stopped their cars and taxis and motorcycles to talk to him and get him to go with them for 'you know what'.
I hope I have shed some light on this and you will not be so confused now.
Lastly, since you have declared yourself 'eligible for marriage', I am sure you'll get many personal messages from some of our chaps here.

Many westerners act like that whether they are White, Black, Hispanic, etc. Look at popular music, the lyrics and the videos are filled with this crap. Even the US president says its normal to treat women in such a way with his "locker room" talk.
Trump comments stir memories of sexual assault - CNN.com
Statistics - The Prevalence of Street Harassment | Stop Street Harassment

Western culture promotes objectifying women as sexual objects and they do it in a scientific way like promoting a part of a woman's body that is desirable to a man.

https://books.apa.org/education/ce/sexual-objectification.pdf

Not only that, sexual harassment is pretty common in the work place.
1 In 3 Women Has Been Sexually Harassed At Work, According To Survey | The Huffington Post

[gina1]

Please explain...im interested to know. You prefer old fashioned Afghan man?

Yeah...

[Elite Pakhtun]

I'm in agreement with Manzareh.. if you're actually interested about this car character, and want to find out if it's long term or not, I'm sure you'll figure it out. You'll never know unless you go for it.