hi.... a question I have about a girl

[tilla_jogian]

hahahahaha so funny, but for real her friend told me she liked me, and she kinda told me herself, there some other stuff do thats too long to explain
thanks bro, i think you're right, most valuable post i guess, i might aswell forget her, i dont wanna ruin some girls rep or her families, we're both still teens, so i'm probably still dumb but she is the definition of 'pashtun beauty', so she's probably going to get married off to a better person then me, but i guess it's time to let her be, sigh, but in all honestly i do know that it'd probably never work out.

im giving up on love and going to focus on life, though i will say she is probably my first love , but for now f**k love, i guess it time to get my path back to just doing good in school and then going home, live a plain life.

Are you some Indian troll by any chance, karachi harami? You gave up couple of posts later? I know 1 disabled dhobi who was our neighbour and married afghani girl. Its working to this day, likely because poor guy doesn't have more options.

[Shamlawar Khurasani]

Dude, if you are decent observant Muslim and she is also a decent observing Muslimah, then her parents have no right to object unless you are jobless and unable to take care of her.

If she wants to marry you and both of you are serious about your religion and you are able to take care of her, provide her a home etc, then you should go and ask her family to arrange a meeting. If they have an un-Islamic reason to refuse you, like nationalism or anything, and if she wants to marry you, then have your nikkah arranged at the mosque and bypass her family.

Because parents who put restrictions on their children and have un-Islamic reasons to prevent them from marriage are not qualified to represent their children's interests as parents from an Islamic perspective.


I am all for marriages between Muslims from all sorts of backgrounds. It will only strengthen the bonds between the communities.

[Manzareh]

It just mean he will have to pay you as well.

Calm down she's not your sister in Heera Mandi that gets paid

[tilla_jogian]

Calm down she's not your sister in Heera Mandi that gets paid

Sorry but I don't know why are you getting offended at yet another cultural practice of afghanis, she is not my sister because we don't sell them.

[Manzareh]

Sorry but I don't know why are you getting offended at yet another cultural practice of afghanis, she is not my sister because we don't sell them.

If afghanis were for sale then USA and Russia would have taken them over. You punjabis are for sale, you were bought by the British and you still bend your ass over for dollars its in your punjabi blood to be sellouts, currupt criminals and perverts, the whole world hates you. Take a trip around the west, out of all the Muslim women the most shameless women are the punjabi females, ask around if you don't believe me.

[tilla_jogian]

If afghanis were for sale then USA and Russia would have taken them over. You punjabis are for sale, you were bought by the British and you still bend your ass over for dollars its in your punjabi blood to be sellouts, currupt criminals and perverts, the whole world hates you. Take a trip around the west, out of all the Muslim women the most shameless women are the punjabi females, ask around if you don't believe me.

I gave honest advice to OP if he is not trolling. He is likely that harami "karachi" indian who create threads like this with alternative accounts. Who ask these questions in forum like this? We don't sell our sisters like beghairat afghanis. Punjabi females maybe shameless but are not in market for marriage like afghani females. And USA/Soviets have ****ed you byond repair at this point. You are invaded and still under USA occupation last time I checked.

Again you are getting offended for no reason at all, I respect your cultural values.

[life1234]

I gave honest advice to OP if he is not trolling. He is likely that harami "karachi" indian who create threads like this with alternative accounts. Who ask these questions in forum like this? We don't sell our sisters like beghairat afghanis. Punjabi females maybe shameless but are not in market for marriage like afghani females. And USA/Soviets have ****ed you byond repair at this point. You are invaded and still under USA occupation last time I checked.

Again you are getting offended for no reason at all.

im not trolling bro, I'm Punjabi myself, all I said was that I liked an Afghan girl but I'm not sure whether I should pursue any relationship becuase I don't want to cause a cultural divide, I don't know much about Pashtun culture and there rules of relationships with other ethnic groups. Btw neither of us sold our selves out happy, by the way both of us aren't looking to get married we're both teens lol

[tilla_jogian]

im not trolling bro, I'm Punjabi myself, all I said was that I liked an Afghan girl but I'm not sure whether I should pursue any relationship becuase I don't want to cause a cultural divide, I don't know much about Pashtun culture and there rules of relationships with other ethnic groups. Btw neither of us sold our selves out happy, by the way both of us aren't looking to get married we're both teens lol

You are one harami troll karachi, what cultural divide you will create? I already told you best way to get married is by giving afghani girl parents some money, this is how their culture work. Pakis have married women of every nationality, afghanis are next door. Seem like UP pathan like you have no chance getting married to any afghani girl, hence this obsession.

"Both are teens" is another reason I believe you are harami karachi alternative account. no offence

[marwat]

seems like the life1234 stepped on little tilla throat.

[life1234]

You are one harami troll karachi, what cultural divide you will create? I already told you best way to get married is by giving afghani girl parents some money, this is how their culture work. Pakis have married women of every nationality, afghanis are next door. Seem like UP pathan like you have no chance getting married to any afghani girl, hence this obsession.

"Both are teens" is another reason I believe you are harami karachi alternative account. no offence

i dont know who your talking about bro, and i don't know why you think i'm him, but let be real here, you are saying that I can essentially buy her hand, bro i'm pretty sure if I handed her parents for her there would be two thing that would happen, one I will be beaten the sh** out of, two there is no way it would work. I'm not a pashtun, I'm a punjabi, it's not something I'm ashamed of, but it's also nothing that i take pride in so easily because I can't change my ethnicity.

I signed up for advice from pashtun members about there culture and what would happen if I did go for a pashtun girl, how would her family react etc, it's nothing like I'm here to cause trouble between Afghan and Pakistanis, i know Pakistanis have married different women, but this girl i believe is from a cultural pashtun background, i know a few of her relatives (who i haven't told of course lol) and they are pretty culturual too, so i was looking for advice and how people would react to it., not cultural divide.

[tilla_jogian]

i dont know who your talking about bro, and i don't know why you think i'm him, but let be real here, you are saying that I can essentially buy her hand, bro i'm pretty sure if I handed her parents for her there would be two thing that would happen, one I will be beaten the sh** out of, two there is no way it would work. I'm not a pashtun, I'm a punjabi, it's not something I'm ashamed of, but it's also nothing that i take pride in so easily because I can't change my ethnicity.

I signed up for advice from pashtun members about there culture and what would happen if I did go for a pashtun girl, how would her family react etc, it's nothing like I'm here to cause trouble between Afghan and Pakistanis, i know Pakistanis have married different women, but this girl i believe is from a cultural pashtun background, i know a few of her relatives (who i haven't told of course lol) and they are pretty culturual too, so i was looking for advice and how people would react to it., not cultural divide.

Which biraderi/ethnicity you belong to? The only punjabis who marry afghanis are kammi or disabled in my experience. But I am talking about rural areas. How did you convince your parents to marry afghani girl?

Also it seem like you doesn't know much about afghani culture hence I think you are trolling. My advice will work 100% of the times when it comes to afghanis, trust me on this because their mentality is not like ours. There is no other way even if both parties are happy.

[life1234]

Which biraderi/ethnicity you belong to? The only punjabis who marry afghanis are kammi or disabled in my experience. But I am talking about rural areas. How did you convince your parents to marry afghani girl?

Also it seem like you doesn't know much about afghani culture hence I think you are trolling. My advice will work 100% of the times when it comes to afghanis, trust me on this because their mentality is not like ours. There is no other way even if both parties are happy.

lol i know a bit about pashtun culture cause i have a few friends who are pashtun and tell me a lot

, i'm under 18 so i'm not exactly ready for marriage now am i lol. i havent even told my parents, but i probably know my parents reaction to it already. it'd be a no. regarding ethnicity im gojjer i think its how u spell it

[DaZahroJaam.]

hahahahaha so funny, but for real her friend told me she liked me, and she kinda told me herself, there some other stuff do thats too long to explain
thanks bro, i think you're right, most valuable post i guess, i might aswell forget her, i dont wanna ruin some girls rep or her families, we're both still teens, so i'm probably still dumb but she is the definition of 'pashtun beauty', so she's probably going to get married off to a better person then me, but i guess it's time to let her be, sigh, but in all honestly i do know that it'd probably never work out.

im giving up on love and going to focus on life, though i will say she is probably my first love , but for now f**k love, i guess it time to get my path back to just doing good in school and then going home, live a plain life.

Just to be clear, I didn't ask you to let go because I don't think you are good enough for her but because afghans in general tend to be prejudiced towards pakistanies. If you were the female and their son was interested in you, they would have objected but let go of it eventually. You are young. I would have told you the same even if the girl you were interested in was another Pakistani.
I know an afghan man who is married to a wonderful woman from lahor. I have never seen such a beautiful Pakistani or afghan family. Their kids are well educated and so polite and humble. I also have a female friend who is Punjabi and in her 20s. I was surprised to watch her ask her parents for permission to go to places. I thought that was something we only do in my family. She dresses up conservatively and is not the type to be roaming around all over the mall at odd times of the day or night. If it wasn't for the language she spoke, I would have never believed her to be a Punjabi. Because the society that I grew up in has feed me a different and very nasty idea of what panjabies are supposed to be like.


These people (pakistanies and afghans) fighting here, they are just confused. They will probably grow old and die confused. Don't listen to them.

[tilla_jogian]

lol i know a bit about pashtun culture cause i have a few friends who are pashtun and tell me a lot

, i'm under 18 so i'm not exactly ready for marriage now am i lol. i havent even told my parents, but i probably know my parents reaction to it already. it'd be a no. regarding ethnicity im gojjer i think its how u spell it

You will forget about her in year or two, I will advice you to look for Paki girl even if she is not from your biraderi. Provided your parents have no problem with that but Afghanis are our enemies.

[life1234]

Just to be clear, I didn't ask you to let go because I don't think you are good enough for her but because afghans in general tend to be prejudiced towards pakistanies. If you were the female and their son was interested in you, try would have objected but let go of it eventually. You are young. I would have told you the same even if the girl you were interested in was another Pakistani.
I know an afghan man who is married to a wonderful woman from lahor. I have never seen such a beautiful Pakistani or afghan family. Their kids are well educated and so polite and humble. I also have a female friend who is Punjabi and in her 20s. I was surprised to watch her ask her parents for permission to go to places. I thought that was something we only do in my family. She dresses up conservatively and is not the type to be roaming around all over the mall at odd times of the day or night. If it wasn't for the language she spoke, I would have never believed her to be a Punjabi. Because the society that I grew up in gas feed me a different and very nasty idea of what panjabies are supposed to be like.


These people (pakistanies and afghans) fighting here, they are just confused. They will probably grow old and die confused. Don't listen to them.

thanks for the advice bro, it's nice to see people like you, if it wasn't for my afghan friends, i would have probably disliked you guys, thank god he did introduce to me a variety of people from different background

You will forget about her in year or two, I will advice you to look for Paki girl even if she is not from your biraderi. Provided your parents have no problem with that but Afghanis are our enemies.

I hope so but it's not easy, I'm not exactly attracted to Pakistani girls either, I think it's some of there attitudes, it'd be easier though to marry a Pakistani girl cause of similarities, i hope I find someone I can relate to.