Relationships before marriage

[Master Khan]

Khaney khor check you out posting at 1:00 am
people in british are not religions no more, Most people have kids without getting married now.

[AfghanSoulja]

Khaney she was right about the peace part and your right about the modern Muslim part

[MeemWawMeemNoon]

U said we should live by the book .. I said no one lives by the book

Well, today, they have concluded that mutual understanding and compatibility is very important for healthy relationship.

Those who married for love and got divorced did not plan to get divorced. Their incompatibility and not being on the same page, same wavelength, were the main causes for their divorce.

It happens everywhere.

[Roshina]

How many of us 'modern' Muslims do you think are gonna end up in Jannah..

What exactly IS a "modern Muslim"? Too many people I know keep referring to some Muslims as "modern," and I don't know what that means.

So, one type of Muslim is modern Muslim; what are the rest?

[Feroza_Banu]

i am not for relationshop before marriage but i am also not for marrying blindly ...

i think two people getting marrried should be able to see each other, spend a little time together in a public place, talk about their life and goals... what they look for in a partner and what they don't see themselves compromising with. what their future plans are. i don't believe parents should be against this. ultimately its those two people geting married and spending all their life together... hopefully...

[Muslimah]

I live by the book. It is possible.

However, I must say from experience, that dating sucks! I was Christian for most of my life, and my parents always encouraged me to date. I had a "boyfriend" (I hate even saying that word) for 4 years and even then my parents were like "Oh you're so young, you should date more than one person". The mentality is horrible the way I was raised. I found Islam and broke up with him right away because he was Catholic and we no longer understood each other, and because it is haram.

But, I could say to those of you interested in ever dating, I carry a huge scar for it. It breaks my heart that my first kiss and love will not be with my husband. I don't even know who I will marry and I already feel like I will disappoint him. However, I repent to Allah to forgive me and miraculously He swt has helped me erase a lot of memories from my mind. But GUYS are a different story. Most guys in this society will have sex with up to 15 women before marriage. So, lets say your wife saves herself for you and perhaps she isn't the best in that area. You will sit there comparing her to what was once enjoyable with a previous girl, and eventually, you may seek out that girl or someone who can please you the way you once were. It may not even be sex, but even hugs and kisses and conversations.

Believe me, stay pure and save everything for your husband and wife. That way your bonds will be between just the two of you, and not you and many others. It will be special and unique.

[Muslimah]

I hate talking about my past, but I do it in hopes of enlightening people. I am seen as "tainted" because I have a past, although I didn't know any better. :'( According to white people, I am like mother theresa because I only dated once.
I know there is a double standard for men, they can do whatever they want (even have sex) and can still say they are a virgin. BUT, they should fear Allah swt and not do this anyway! They should also be nice to their future wife and be considerate that they will be depriving her of something she has saved for them. Its only fair to expect both to wait until marriage. Its so much more special and sacred.

[Muslimah]

ohhh do i get a crown?

[Sheenka]

What do you lot think ? Are people better off in the married life if they've had a relationship with the person before ?

What about the guys who've had relationships ? More than one
what do people think about them

i think it shouldnt be before or after

but obviously while ur marrige and having relation wid other its cheating on ur partner so its better before marrige lol


my opinion dont laugh at me guys

[Sheenka]

i feel like this crown is on my head hehe

[Master Khan]

i think it shouldnt be before or after

but obviously while ur marrige and having relation wid other its cheating on ur partner so its better before marrige lol


my opinion dont laugh at me guys

Well yeah its makes sense..before marrige you are looking for a girl so yeah.