Changed my Avatar, what do you think?

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Idiot or SE

You can have dibbs on my avatar.....but you have to give me: 2 chickens (brown), 1 baby lamb, 1 goat, and 1 cow. ohhhhh and a donkey

I have some Animal Shaped cereal, will that do?

[کیش]

Idiot or SE

You can have dibbs on my avatar.....but you have to give me: 2 chickens (brown), 1 baby lamb, 1 goat, and 1 cow. ohhhhh and a donkey

Umm, I can arrange for half pound of Marijuana.


SE
You need to arrange to go to your dads or moms village. I hope you find a a wife, who will be honest and loving inshallah.

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Idiot, Na'zubillah.

[Laila]

for a woman......kind of, I'm not saying a woman shouldn't marry, but marrying later creates a whole range of problems, in my opinion women should marry after they have their bachelors education.

Hmmm fair enough.

I used to be that lady who wants to wait till her early 30's to settle down. But according to my dad, that would be considered too late. But as long as i have at least my bachelors and i am an independent women, then i guess the age really does not matter.....even if that means it could be within 2 years or something

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I would prefer someone raised in the states, because I don't think a keliwal peghla will dig the fact that I like to watch Horror Movies too much.

[Laila]

I have some Animal Shaped cereal, will that do?

That would have worked about 5 minutes ago......

Umm, I can arrange for half pound of Marijuana.


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ha ha ha.....not gonna work for me though

[Laila]

Damnit, all just marry a my Hindi drama sweetheart

LOL! awww you are giving up

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Hmmm fair enough.

I used to be that lady who wants to wait till her early 30's to settle down. But according to my dad, that would be considered too late. But as long as i have at least my bachelors and i am an independent women, then i guess the age really does not matter.....even if that means it could be within 2 years or something

Well I think the the idea of a central age is kind of absurd, because everyone has different stages of development, physically, emotionally and psychologically. I think if it takes a woman till 30 to get to that level, so be it. I don't recommend it, but yet again would it be better for her to be incapable of handling marital responsibilities by marrying younger which would negatively impact her and end up in divorce anyways? I think we have to factor in how we can make a relationship last, also understanding our priorities in life.

And not to be too improper but just being honest and addressing serious life issues here, sexuality and sexual needs are an important aspect of marriage/lifein general. Some men and women should get married early if they have strong sexual needs, of course factoring in other aspects of maturity and development as well. Those who don't have those pressing needs, it isn't an imperative. The major concern should be how ready are you to give of yourself of your spouse and how much is your spouse ready to do the same

Marriage means that you're taking responsbility not only for your own needs and wants but also the needs and wants of your spouse; you are no longer simply an individual you are One heart in two bodies at least that's how it SHOULD be. Then of course raising children, can someone imagine themselves raising a 20 year old at 50? Of course with better health awareness, people are younger longer, but a 50 year old is still 50, there's a lot of tenacity required for raising kids. For women since they carry the child in their womb, have this concern magnified many fold because it will be increasingly difficult after around age 30, to bear children. not impossible, but difficult. All those should be factored in and then we can make the right decision for ourselves.

[Laila]

Well I think the the idea of a central age is kind of absurd, because everyone has different stages of development, physically, emotionally and psychologically. I think if it takes a woman till 30 to get to that level, so be it. I don't recommend it, but yet again would it be better for her to be incapable of handling marital responsibilities by marrying younger which would negatively impact her and end up in divorce anyways? I think we have to factor in how we can make a relationship last, also understanding our priorities in life.

And not to be too improper but just being honest and addressing serious life issues here, sexuality and sexual needs are an important aspect of marriage/lifein general. Some men and women should get married early if they have strong sexual needs, of course factoring in other aspects of maturity and development as well. Those who don't have those pressing needs, it isn't an imperative. The major concern should be how ready are you to give of yourself of your spouse and how much is your spouse ready to do the same

Marriage means that you're taking responsbility not only for your own needs and wants but also the needs and wants of your spouse; you are no longer simply an individual you are One heart in two bodies at least that's how it SHOULD be. Then of course raising children, can someone imagine themselves raising a 20 year old at 50? Of course with better health awareness, people are younger longer, but a 50 year old is still 50, there's a lot of tenacity required for raising kids. For women since they carry the child in their womb, have this concern magnified many fold because it will be increasingly difficult after around age 30, to bear children. not impossible, but difficult. All those should be factored in and then we can make the right decision for ourselves.

I whole heartedly agree.

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but with that said I would hope I can find a woman who's maturated to a desirable stage between the ages of 21-27

[Laila]

but with that said I would hope I can find a woman who's maturated to a desirable stage between the ages of 21-27

I do wish the best for you, you have shown that you are a great person, and deserve nothing but the best.

You know the guy i am going to get engaged to, had to wait 2 years just to see me in person. And now, since my family wanted to hold off the engagment/nikkah till after i graduate....another 3 years.

[Admin Khan]

but with that said I would hope I can find a woman who's maturated to a desirable stage between the ages of 21-27

InshAllah.

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See that's what I mean, I love the values of Pakhtuns but there are times when it's taken to such a measure that the original intended purpose of those values have been lost and it becomes just a game of "how strict we can be".

In nature, God made us to marry young, it's our cultural/environmental and social norms that make us develop and mature differently; but the instinct to seek a companion and want to feel affection and fulfillment is still there. Why do you think we find people so easily falling into the trap of dating? Their instincts are being manipualted by their environment to do so.

It doesn't help the situation to torment two young people by depriving them their God given right, each other. If there's a halal way to live life, we should make it easy for people, not harder.

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InshAllah.

InshaAllah khair

[Laila]

See that's what I mean, I love the values of Pakhtuns but there are times when it's taken to such a measure that the original intended purpose of those values have been lost and it becomes just a game of "how strict we can be".

In nature, God made us to marry young, it's our cultural/environmental and social norms that make us develop and mature differently; but the instinct to seek a companion and want to feel affection and fulfillment is still there. Why do you think we find people so easily falling into the trap of dating? Their instincts are being manipualted by their environment to do so.

It doesn't help the situation to torment two young people by depriving them their God given right, each other. If there's a halal way to live life, we should make it easy for people, not harder.

Thank you! Goodness......i need to show this to my parents.