single/engagment/marriage

[kandahari ella]

do i know you? and if u are who i think u are... how dare you , u don't even tell me that u hve joined here.

and u haven't called me or messaged me for the longest time... i am very upset with u...

Haha. No, I'm not who you think I am. But I think I know who you think I am. =)

[Manzareh]

Marriage is no joke. Masha'Allah to the couples that have made it. I feel that its so easy to give up now a days, and people just simply leave each other. It's not just about it being a "western" thing. I've seen it happen so many times in the Afghan community. So don't jump into marriage. But at the same time don't wait forever, and simply skip over brothers or sisters because you didn't like their hair, or a shirt they once wore. Stop being superficial. I'm not going to say, "beauty is on the inside" because frankly, you do have to be some what attracted to whomever you want to marry. But calm the heck down, you aint God's gift to the world.

As for whens a good age to get married? It depends on the individual and what they want out of life. When they are ready. Again, don't jump into anything. I know for a fact the man I wanted to marry at 18, 20, or even 22 is NOT the man I want to be with now. As I've gotten older, I've changed as a person, so that 18 year old me could have gotten along with that person I thought I wanted at 18, but the 25 year old me, laughs at the thought of having to marry someone like that. No offense to that ideal man, he's just not my type at 25. And for the girls-- as stated many times, you need to be educated and have some sort of a profession. Don't allow yourself to become dependent on a man-EVER. Even if the brother can and will support you- life is full of uncertainties and **** happens.

Thanx 4 sharing your views Ella.

[Feroza_Banu]

Haha. No, I'm not who you think I am. But I think I know who you think I am. =)

lol... thats why i always make one user name so i am easily recognized... others should learn from me

[Feroza_Banu]

^lol... whats going on here? whats with u and fat people? r we not humans? we have hearts you know, its ok if we is fat!

[kandahari ella]

Haha. Unknown seriously-- what is up with you and fat people? Who do you know that got married and gained 50 pounds that year?!

[Sitaara]

Marriage is no joke. Masha'Allah to the couples that have made it. I feel that its so easy to give up now a days, and people just simply leave each other. It's not just about it being a "western" thing. I've seen it happen so many times in the Afghan community. So don't jump into marriage. But at the same time don't wait forever, and simply skip over brothers or sisters because you didn't like their hair, or a shirt they once wore. Stop being superficial. I'm not going to say, "beauty is on the inside" because frankly, you do have to be some what attracted to whomever you want to marry. But calm the heck down, you aint God's gift to the world.

As for whens a good age to get married? It depends on the individual and what they want out of life. When they are ready. Again, don't jump into anything. I know for a fact the man I wanted to marry at 18, 20, or even 22 is NOT the man I want to be with now. As I've gotten older, I've changed as a person, so that 18 year old me could have gotten along with that person I thought I wanted at 18, but the 25 year old me, laughs at the thought of having to marry someone like that. No offense to that ideal man, he's just not my type at 25. And for the girls-- as stated many times, you need to be educated and have some sort of a profession. Don't allow yourself to become dependent on a man-EVER. Even if the brother can and will support you- life is full of uncertainties and **** happens.

I like what you wrote.thanx for sharing your point of view.

Who said I was married and who said I was fat? I go to the gym regularly so I stay healthy.

Are you and your spouse fat??

i know married couples who are very fit.

[Shamaar]

Haha. Unknown seriously-- what is up with you and fat people? Who do you know that got married and gained 50 pounds that year?!

Lol, that happened to my cousin. He was a totally fit young man, used to play football and baseball and then he got hitched. Now, 1 year later, when he sits down it looks like he has a bowling ball under his shirt hahaha.

[IamDZJ]

none of your business

[Shamaar]

^ Khor jana, there are always different situations out there. Some get fat, some don't. No reason to get upset over it.

[IamDZJ]

wror jana, i am not upset. that is the way i m monitored to function.

[Shamaar]

my anunty grew fat after marriage..and when i confronted her she started crying..

Lol, oh my God, bebe. What did you say to her?

[Laila]

Marriage does not necessarily make you fat. You do it to yourself. And naturally, as we all get older, our bodies change tremendously. Men get lower testosterone levels, which makes them get that 'beer belly' problem :D and women deal with child bearing. Stress from school, work, taking care of not only yourself but your family too, are factors. Many dont watch what they eat, or dont have time to have the proper daily exercise. Or just simply do not care anymore

How about waking up an hour early, and jog with your spouse or when the wifey or hubby cooks....how about asking them to put in more vegetables instead of kabuli palow in your meals when eating together

[afghan]

I've a friend who gained a lotta weight after marriage (she's still petite, though), but she has a cute and good reason: Her husband loves her so much he feeds her himself, even if that means bringing her food from the outside And it's true. We've verified it

Now getting fat because your beloved loves you that much is TOTALLY worth it, I say

its possible he loves big women, many men love chubby women, including myself ( certain areas of the body).

[Master Khan]

Marriage does not necessarily make you fat. You do it to yourself. And naturally, as we all get older, our bodies change tremendously. Men get lower testosterone levels, which makes them get that 'beer belly' problem :D and women deal with child bearing. Stress from school, work, taking care of not only yourself but your family too, are factors. Many dont watch what they eat, or dont have time to have the proper daily exercise. Or just simply do not care anymore

How about waking up an hour early, and jog with your spouse or when the wifey or hubby cooks....how about asking them to put in more vegetables instead of kabuli palow in your meals when eating together

What will people said about us "wai khazi sara jogging kai..be sharma" lol.

[Sitaara]

my anunty grew fat after marriage..and when i confronted her she started crying..

oh poor lady.

I've a friend who gained a lotta weight after marriage (she's still petite, though), but she has a cute and good reason: Her husband loves her so much he feeds her himself, even if that means bringing her food from the outside And it's true. We've verified it

Now getting fat because your beloved loves you that much is TOTALLY worth it, I say

if she gets fat over limit then there is a problem.

What will people said about us "wai khazi sara jogging kai..be sharma" lol.

hahahhaha. ur family will be the first one to say this.