single/engagment/marriage

[sahil112]

whoaaa der r way 2 many engaged or married on pf :| i was nt expecting this lol

[Master Khan]

But i thought you were already engaged.

not engaged, only by name....so I still like single lol

[abubaker]

i think the ideal age to get married for both genders should be around 27 and onwards.

i think 18/21

[Master Khan]

i think the ideal age to get married for both genders should be around 27 and onwards.

nah thats too late, 21 to 24 is the best age, girls in my village marry at 18 to 20

[Laila]

not engaged, only by name....so I still like single lol

Oh lol

i think 18/21

I really think it comes down the person. My mother didnt get married until she was between 25-27. Her family kept on saying no one will come for her

I know many young adults who are happily married....and some adults around 30's who do not or are not ready to marry

so it just kinda depends on the person

But yeah, i am young and my father and mother didnt want an engagement to take place for at least another year or so

[IamDZJ]

nah thats too late, 21 to 24 is the best age, girls in my village marry at 18 to 20

we are not at your village master.

looking back at life when you are 18 or 21 is a lot different than when one becomes 23. it's good to know a thing or two about the life you are about to share with some one else before you decide to do so. i m not very fond of compromises and specially not when it involves covering up a lifetime.
having said that i would like to remind every one that every one's idea of perfection is different hence the different ideas of the ideal age for marriage...

[Master Khan]

we are not at your village master.

looking back at life when you are 18 or 21 is a lot different than when one becomes 23. it's good to know a thing or two about the life you are about to share with some one else before you decide to do so. i m not very fond of compromises and specially not when it involves covering up a lifetime.
having said that i would like to remind every one that every one's idea of perfection is different hence the different ideas of the ideal age for marriage...

then u should viste our valliges, really friendly people in Swabi...the Kids are bad though lol. getting married young is good, you got to start a family fast.

[Fahd]

haahhahahha adam :P

[sahil112]

sorry sorry O' sinless one
hush ya mouth pal

LOLLL ahaha u jkaaa ahah

[Khidr]

nah thats too late, 21 to 24 is the best age, girls in my village marry at 18 to 20

I know many Pashtuns who come from traditional families, and they married very young 17-19. The marriages were arranged to second-cousins or cousins from Afg, and they are 23-24 now and living a happy life with 2-3 kids in a big house with their family. Mashallah.

In fact sometimes when I invite them to my place or go to theirs, my mum teases me about how they have kids etc and I’m still single...so I try to compensate for my lack of “manliness” by leaving a thick moustache a week or two in advance LOL

I think with our generation here in the west, the "perfect age" is really dependent on how one views marriage and what they want in a wife and their career/goals in life etc. I personally want more of a ‘best friend’ than a cook or just a mother to my children or someone to quickly come to our house and help my mum with the chores...and so I think I will be ready when 27-28 to commit...

[Sitaara]

I already did like long time ago lol

then get marry her to, why you have to wait 3 or 4 years.

I started getting marriage proposals when i was about 18, right after i finished high school. Although, i never even knew about them, since my mother knew i was too young to even think about it.

Now, i have accepted a marriage proposal from someone who i guess you can say really like. It was based on love and at the same time arranged....since we both didnt know what was already going on :P My sheerni and desmal functions will be coming up.....and my engagement should be happening in the next 2-3 years, inshallah.

But of course, when it does come to it, i will be sharing everything with the PF ladies, simply because i cannot make decisions with anything lol. So you ladies will definitely be informed about it

To all those that are engaged, mubarak
To all those that are married, duas for your happiness
To all those that are single and want to settle down, good luck, you will find the right person for you.
To all those that are single and not ready to settle down, enjoy and have plenty of fun

Mubarak!!! wish you a happy life with your life partner inshallah.
Thanx for your dua.

[Sitaara]

Laila , Happy to hear about you...

@sitara...

Currently in peshawar , but I am speaking of swabi(pakhtunkhwa)

I see. so you have to have alot of money to get marry?

To all those that are engaged or getting married: GO TO THE GYM and lose some weight before its too late!!!!!

or call 1800 JENNY CRAIG

Not all people are fat! dont think about your own weight that much..slowely you will lose it, just dont give up.

i think the ideal age to get married for both genders should be around 27 and onwards.

for Afghan girls 27 is consider old. but i know girls who were aroud their 30s and they live in afghanistan or pakistan, everyone thought they will not find a husband, but now they are happily marry to guys who are even younger than then or about their age. but for boys that age is good.

we are not at your village master.

looking back at life when you are 18 or 21 is a lot different than when one becomes 23. it's good to know a thing or two about the life you are about to share with some one else before you decide to do so. i m not very fond of compromises and specially not when it involves covering up a lifetime.
having said that i would like to remind every one that every one's idea of perfection is different hence the different ideas of the ideal age for marriage...

True!

[Shamaar]

I strongly believe that a woman should have achieved her academic aspirations, or at least a good chunk of them, before settling down.

Although I am a male, I have had several great examples in my life of women who have gotten undergraduate and even graduate degrees before they settled down. I see no harm in a woman deciding to marry at the age of 24 or even somewhat later than that.

With that said, a man should also be prepared to provide for a family and tackle the world. Although it looks very cute when you see young married couples, life is not easy, and if children enter the picture early then one has to be very determined to achieve one's goals.

[kandahari ella]

Marriage is no joke. Masha'Allah to the couples that have made it. I feel that its so easy to give up now a days, and people just simply leave each other. It's not just about it being a "western" thing. I've seen it happen so many times in the Afghan community. So don't jump into marriage. But at the same time don't wait forever, and simply skip over brothers or sisters because you didn't like their hair, or a shirt they once wore. Stop being superficial. I'm not going to say, "beauty is on the inside" because frankly, you do have to be some what attracted to whomever you want to marry. But calm the heck down, you aint God's gift to the world.

As for whens a good age to get married? It depends on the individual and what they want out of life. When they are ready. Again, don't jump into anything. I know for a fact the man I wanted to marry at 18, 20, or even 22 is NOT the man I want to be with now. As I've gotten older, I've changed as a person, so that 18 year old me could have gotten along with that person I thought I wanted at 18, but the 25 year old me, laughs at the thought of having to marry someone like that. No offense to that ideal man, he's just not my type at 25. And for the girls-- as stated many times, you need to be educated and have some sort of a profession. Don't allow yourself to become dependent on a man-EVER. Even if the brother can and will support you- life is full of uncertainties and **** happens.

[Feroza_Banu]

Marriage is no joke. Masha'Allah to the couples that have made it. I feel that its so easy to give up now a days, and people just simply leave each other. It's not just about it being a "western" thing. I've seen it happen so many times in the Afghan community. So don't jump into marriage. But at the same time don't wait forever, and simply skip over brothers or sisters because you didn't like their hair, or a shirt they once worse. Stop being superficial. I'm not going to say, "beauty is on the inside" because frankly, you do have to be some what attracted to whomever you want to marry. But calm the heck down, you aint God's gift to the world.

As for whens a good age to get married? It depends on the individual and what they want out of life. When they are ready. Again, don't jump into anything. I know for a fact the man I wanted to marry at 18, 20, or even 22 is NOT the man I want to be with now. As I've gotten older, I've changed as a person, so that 18 year old me could have gotten along with that person I thought I wanted at 18, but the 25 year old me, laughs at the thought of having to marry someone like that. No offense to that ideal man, he's just not my type at 25. And for the girls-- as stated many times, you need to be educated and have some sort of profession. Don't allow yourself to become dependent on a man-EVER. Even if the brother can and will support you- life is full of uncertainties and **** happens.

do i know you? and if u are who i think u are... how dare you , u don't even tell me that u hve joined here.

and u haven't called me or messaged me for the longest time... i am very upset with u...