Hi!! I'm Spanish... And I need help

[Lief]

Gracias!

[Amir al Ghaznavi]

mucho gusto, por nada senora

[Laila]

Hi!!

Hello

I've been going out with my afghan boyfriend for 9 months, he is living in the Netherlands.

My goodness! how could you deal with an Afghan guy for that long :P
You said he lives in the Netherlands. So my guess is that you two do not live in the same country?

The problem is that his parents don't accept that he dates a non-afghan girl (some brothers and cousins agree with my boyfriend but not his parents).

That may not be your only problem here.
So they have an issue of dating outside of the race. But, did you consider that it might be the dating in general. We are Muslims and Afghans, dating is not accepted religiously or culturally.

I don't know if we have any chance to continue with our love or just we have to give up.

Has he introduced you to his parents?

I respect the family's traditions and I never could accept that he looses his family.

Do you really accept his family traditions? If you did, you would have not started dating him in the first place. Or you would have ended it right when you found out that you were not going to be accepted by his parents.

Just I need some advice or if someone is at the same situation. Thank you.

Good luck

I know that this cultural issue seems too much, you might wonder that they are being harsh in not considering a non-Afghan. But, you are with a person who comes from a hard background and that is the reality of it.

[Lief]

Donno how can I deal with him, but he's so charming and all . And no, we don't live in the same country... I planned moving there...


That may not be your only problem here.
So they have an issue of dating outside of the race. But, did you consider that it might be the dating in general. We are Muslims and Afghans, dating is not accepted religiously or culturally.

Has he introduced you to his parents?

No, he has talked about me. More with brothers and cousins about how to do for his parents accept the relation.



Do you really accept his family traditions? If you did, you would have not started dating him in the first place. Or you would have ended it right when you found out that you were not going to be accepted by his parents.

And I've know all that since this weekend, because I trusted that he could deal it and he hasn't told me the contrary. I've read about different situations in afghan relationships, and also with no-afghans in Internet, so I didn't know what to think about.... And he also doesn't like to talk about the

Hello


My goodness! how could you deal with an Afghan guy for that long :P
You said he lives in the Netherlands. So my guess is that you two do not live in the same country?


Donno how can I deal with him, but he's so charming and all. And no, we don't live in the same country... I planned moving there...


That may not be your only problem here.
So they have an issue of dating outside of the race. But, did you consider that it might be the dating in general. We are Muslims and Afghans, dating is not accepted religiously or culturally.

Has he introduced you to his parents?

No, he has talked about me. More with brothers and cousins about how to do for his parents accept the relation.



Do you really accept his family traditions? If you did, you would have not started dating him in the first place. Or you would have ended it right when you found out that you were not going to be accepted by his parents.

And I've know all that since this weekend, because I trusted that he could deal it and he hasn't told me the contrary. I've read about different situations in afghan relationships, and also with no-afghans in Internet, so I didn't know what to think about.... And he also doesn't like to talk about the family, and also the friends and brothers do that...Thanks


Good luck

I know that this cultural issue seems too much, you might wonder that they are being harsh in not considering a non-Afghan. But, you are with a person who comes from a hard background and that is the reality of it.

family...Thanks


Good luck

I know that this cultural issue seems too much, you might wonder that they are being harsh in not considering a non-Afghan. But, you are with a person who comes from a hard background and that is the reality of it. [/QUOTE]

[Khostai]

Lief don't move to a country for a guy that could live you. I have seen many Afghan men who married non-Afghan, and the main problem was not that they are not muslim but just the thing that they are foreigners, I also know some Afghan men and women who married muslim, Turks or Arab and still peopel where gossiping about them and saing that they have lost there culture, and the parents were not really happy about it. If that is the case whith this family ( actualy the majority of the parents that are against there child marrieng to a foreigner is becuase they don't want there grandchildren to forget afghan culture). You wouldn't make a chance becuase even if you totaly convert to Islam they will see you as an outsider. And I am saing this becuase Afghan are also afraid for the divorce. They think that non-Afghan even if they are muslim will divorce easally if things don't go there way.

[roadrunner]

the harsh truth is that you're all ill educated semi literates on this thread

Some Afghans will make a cultural issue out of it, as will some westerners, as will some easterners. Some will not. To generalize would be inaccurate.

[JattApache]

the harsh truth is that you're all ill educated semi literates on this thread

Some Afghans will make a cultural issue out of it, as will some westerners, as will some easterners. Some will not. To generalize would be inaccurate.

You are very intelligent

[roadrunner]

if you say so.. which is probably why you didn't think of it....

[khushal]

if you say so.. which is probably why you didn't think of it....

I dont know what it is that makes you stupid but whatever it is, it works.

[roadrunner]

your anti-stupid defence mechanism is triggering again.

many stupid people have one.

[Al Hanif]

Hi!! I've been going out with my afghan boyfriend for 9 months, he is living in the Netherlands. The problem is that his parents don't accept that he dates a non-afghan girl (some brothers and cousins agree with my boyfriend but not his parents). I don't know if we have any chance to continue with our love or just we have to give up. I respect the family's traditions and I never could accept that he looses his family.

Just I need some advice or if someone is at the same situation. Thank you.

He has a girlfriend for 9 months and his parents are racist against non-afghans ?

He will break the family links and disobey the Lord just for lust over someone who goes to the toilet and smells like s*** ?

"Love" is not AT ALL behind this.

Satan is behind this.

Satan is with him because he didn't avoided prematial relationships.

He has two problems, none of them are his parent's reaction.

His two problems are you and the fact he disobeyed the Lord.

Cut all links with him and leave him forever or marry him immediately or expect a lot of problems in the future.


You are not the first person in this situation. I've seen a lot of people exactly in the same situation and I saw how they ended up.

[R3SISTANC3]

Ahh, that age old my parents dont approve excuse. Trust me if he loves you then no parents can stop an Afghan guy from his "love". If it was a girl that's different, but a guy, very unlikely. Sorry to be blunt but it seems he is dumping you for a virgin from back home.

[haviZsultan]

Lief, are you living in Canada? I think I might know you. Scratch that. You're probably a different person. I knew a person in Canada with exactly the same problem. A Hazara from Afghanistan.

[Amir al Ghaznavi]

he will break the family links and disobey the lord just for lust over someone who goes to the toilet and smells like s*** ?

sorry to be blunt but it seems he is dumping you for a virgin from back home.

lol