Walking Down in the Aisle with the Quran

[Laila]

I hate this custom! When the bride and groom walks down the aisle, with someone from either the girls or guys side walks after them, with the Quran-e sharif over their head. I personally do not like it, i think its improper. Even though after they sit on stage, they kiss it.

So why is this done? What does it suppose to mean?

How many do not like this custom?

Personally, on neither of my engagement or wedding will I do it.

[Laila]

*If* there is a significance to it, please, do provide your sources

[Admin Khan]

If you refuse to have the Quran on top of your head while walking down the aisle, people will label you as "awooshtaley". Which means you have changed. You are westernized, now explaining how this contradicts basic things to a traditional Pashtun will have no results and you will be going off in a tangent. In our weddings, they also force the bride and groom to taste salt and sugar. The salt represents all the bitter moments they might have the sugar represents the sweet romantic moments. We have many little games in our weddings.

[Laila]

I really think its a very improper custom to walk down the aisle with the Quran over your head. I refuse to abid to this custom, and i am getting married back home, which will raise plenty of eyebrows, and cause people to talk about me, call me names, etc. But this is one custom i see no point in doing. I simply refuse to do so.

While in my wedding, i dont wear a head covering, there will be music, dancing....i refuse to have the Quran over me. Its improper

Salt and Sugar? I have never heard about the salt tasting. I know the groom and bride exchange sweets and sherbet.

[Laila]

My father and mother did not walk with the Quran over their head. Well maybe because they had a small wedding at home during the Mujahideen time. But anyways, my mother does not like this custom either. I have told her i dont want it, hopefully people from back home understand where i am coming from, and respect that for me.

[Laila]

AdminKhan that is such a cute custom. It makes sense to me. Laila its a big insult to our religion.

It makes sense to not do it, or do it? confuzzled here lol

[Wrayun]

The Quran over head is for protection.

You know what's a silly custom? Marriage. It's so outdated and stupid.

[*Mahzala*]

The Quran over head is for protection.

You know what's a silly custom? Marriage. It's so outdated and stupid.

Kissing the Quran and placing it between eyes is bid’ah anyway, so not only is it improper and outdated, it is rejected on Islamic grounds. Like Laila said, it really doesn’t make any sense to spend the night in dancing to immoral music, mixing and gathering in immoral ways and then, at the end of the night, to get some good overlay for the wedding video, use religion as a sidekick. Clearly, the foundation of such a marriage is weak which has serious future implications. Married life, like other issues, has been given its due share of legislation and Islam has tackled all its aspects such that it makes for a happy and prosperous life. Rarely we take into consideration the four reasons we should consider people for. Unfortunately, the issue of what constitutes a good choice remains and weighs heavily on the minds of youth and their parents. I couldn’t agree more Wrayun. The institution of marriage (in most examples) no longer remains a sacred one, where we base our lives and relationships on commandments prescribed by Allah. I like to seek refuge from it.

[Wrayun]

*Mahzala*,

Kissing the Quran and placing it between eyes is bid’ah anyway, so not only is it improper and outdated, it is rejected on Islamic grounds.

It is bid'ah because this is something not done in the Arab world. Is it a harmful, demeaning or disrespectful act? We know that the Quran is sacred, that is why we have to be clean before we can touch it, and it just so happens that for some to kiss the Quran and place it between their eyes is a way of showing that. They are not worshiping the Quran, talking to the Quran, or asking the Quran for anything. It is their way of showing respect.

I don't see a problem with that.

Like Laila said, it really doesn’t make any sense to spend the night in dancing to immoral music, mixing and gathering in immoral ways and then, at the end of the night, to get some good overlay for the wedding video, use religion as a sidekick. Clearly, the foundation of such a marriage is weak which has serious future implications. Married life, like other issues, has been given its due share of legislation and Islam has tackled all its aspects such that it makes for a happy and prosperous life. Rarely we take into consideration the four reasons we should consider people for. Unfortunately, the issue of what constitutes a good choice remains and weighs heavily on the minds of youth and their parents.

That is if you dance and listen to immoral music, and are mixing around, than you have an argument. Though traditionally, our people didn't/don't do that. If some one has the common sense to consider this an "improper" act, yet they go on to have music and dancing at their wedding, is a bit hypocritical don't you think? Like a drunk asking for a halal meal.

I couldn’t agree more Wrayun. The institution of marriage (in most examples) no longer remains a sacred one, where we base our lives and relationships on commandments prescribed by Allah. I like to seek refuge from it.

I seek refuge from women of today... have you read DaZahroJam posts?

[Levanaye Zalmaye]

During my sister's wedding, I was supposed to hold the Quran over her head. This particular Quran, like most of their kind, was a hard-cover edition. It was heavy. And the walk towards the hotel entrance/exit was long and painfully slow especially because the photographer and camera-man would stop us after every few minutes. My right arm began to ache. So I held it up in my left arm. And then I thought people would say, "omg he R holdingz Quran in left hand, he having no moralz, Wrayun was right after all!". So I held it up in my right arm once again. The next morning, my right arm didn't feel too good.

True story.

[*Mahzala*]

*Mahzala*,

It is bid'ah because this is something not done in the Arab world. Is it a harmful, demeaning or disrespectful act? We know that the Quran is sacred, that is why we have to be clean before we can touch it, and it just so happens that for some to kiss the Quran and place it between their eyes is a way of showing that. They are not worshiping the Quran, talking to the Quran, or asking the Quran for anything. It is their way of showing respect.

I don't see a problem with that.

That is if you dance and listen to immoral music, and are mixing around, than you have an argument. Though traditionally, our people didn't/don't do that. If some one has the common sense to consider this an "improper" act, yet they go on to have music and dancing at their wedding, is a bit hypocritical don't you think? Like a drunk asking for a halal meal.

I seek refuge from women of today... have you read DaZahroJam posts?

First things first and with all due respect, I quoted you for the second part of your post, for it put a smile on my face. My additions, though serious in tone, were an affirmation of yours. Secondly, while I know you know this, it is bid'ah because it wasn't done by the righteous predecessors. Sure, everything depends on one's intentions, and as you say, they are not worshipping the Quran, however, it is something innovated and new, and it is rejected as a result and for that sole reason. Respect can also be expressed in one's actions by following the rulings ordained within it, and among them is that Allah mentions the importance of adhering to authenticity of the Deen and the fact that He perfected it and there is no need for innovations, in fact, no place for them. Instead, it should be read, understood and pondered upon which is also a form of respect and appreciation. You and I may not see a problem with it because we draw these (supposedly) logical conclusions, but at the end of the day, in essence, unintentionally we may be sending a different message across and that is that we do these extra things because we feel what has been taught is not sufficient, or if I can say, deficient. If we begin to see most innovations in this light, and draw conclusions that they are harmless and we draw justifiable reasons for their validity, it abolishes, and makes futile the many Quranic ayaat and Ahadeeth in regards to adhering to siraat-ul-mustaqeem and avoiding bid'ah and dalaala and the like which alters the religion and divides its followers.

You also mention the Arab world, which brings to mind another argument that is always advanced by some which is that Islam equates Arab supremacy. Although I assume you do not have this view, I still intend to address it. Undoubtedly, as Allah says in the Quran Himself, the Arabs are an ignorant people to which many Anbiyah were sent to turn them from their deviant ways back to the religion of their forefathers, the true religion. Allah makes mention of their ignorance and hypocrisy in various parts of the Qur'an and even today, many will agree that the Arab rule and ignorance hasn't diminished to a significant degree. However, our leaders have their roots in the Arab lands, however, their teachings were not influenced by the pagan cultures. Needless to say, they were Divine and to say we do certain things today because Arabs do is a misconception as Islam is not something that has its roots in cultural flaws and inconsistencies in fact it wiped out many of those ill customs and traditions. The fact that some hold strong to these ways and are dominant among the mainstream is a different issue altogether. My intentions are not to disappoint.

[IamDZJ]

We musilms are under the impression that the world is out to get us. We are paranoid. Most of people in the wedding are probably secret ill wishers and are only invited so we could rub our lavaish celebration in their faces. The quran sharif is there to protect us from their evil eyes. I dont belive in stuff like that. All weddings are the same so its material like that on which I depend to amuse myself with when I am very close to throwing myself on the floor from boredom.

[شمله ور خراساني]

I hate this custom! When the bride and groom walks down the aisle, with someone from either the girls or guys side walks after them, with the Quran-e sharif over their head. I personally do not like it, i think its improper. Even though after they sit on stage, they kiss it.

So why is this done? What does it suppose to mean?

How many do not like this custom?

Personally, on neither of my engagement or wedding will I do it.

Carrying quran on top of your head is not of Islam. Just like sister Mahzala explained, it is wrong to carry Quran on top of people heads.

Carrying quran on top of your head implies that one beliefs that Mushaf ( the book with quranit text) gives protection.

This is pure polytheism. Protection is from Allah. Not a mushaf. Protection is from the words of allah. People are suppose to recite the book, not use it as an idol to expect protection from it.

Who ever beliefs that a mushaf which is carried on top of someone somehow protects them or brings good charms has clearly misunderstood baisc principles of Islamic monotheism.

Therefore it is very harmful for people to proceed with these ignorant practices which have no foundation in Shariah.

[شمله ور خراساني]

During my sister's wedding, I was supposed to hold the Quran over her head. This particular Quran, like most of their kind, was a hard-cover edition. It was heavy. And the walk towards the hotel entrance/exit was long and painfully slow especially because the photographer and camera-man would stop us after every few minutes. My right arm began to ache. So I held it up in my left arm. And then I thought people would say, "omg he R holdingz Quran in left hand, he having no moralz, Wrayun was right after all!". So I held it up in my right arm once again. The next morning, my right arm didn't feel too good.

True story.

See folks, this is why people become apostates. Because they are told to follow customs which have no foundation what so ever in shariah.

[Feroza_Banu]

I am ok with it as long as the person who is holding Quran is in Islamic attire and preferrably in wuduz and the bride and groom both are in covered attire and in wudu.