Pashtun Manners

[Gulalai]

List some pakhtun manners that you know of when sitting around a group of people lol

i will start...

-Don't laugh too much

- Don't walk around too much

-Always get up and ask if you can help with anything (don't take the first "no" for an answer lol)

[Shamaar]

You never let your guests leave without them drinking chai... Even if that chai takes it's sweet time getting to them lol.

[Mayana]

lol

Don't talk, don't laugh, don't look around, don't ask stuff, don't be in anyone's way, don't be secluded, don't be depressed, don't be over-exited, don't breathe, don't be too ugly, don't be too pretty.

That's what some people want us to be like.

On a more serious and realistic note:
Be courteous. Be considerate. That's all there is to it.

You see people walk in, get up, greet them, offer them your spot.
When people are performing some sort of work, offer them your help.
When people are going out of their way to make stuff for you, (chai, food, etc.), kindly and humbly tell them they don't need to go through all that trouble and you just want to enjoy their company.
When offered gifts, try to reject them.
When giving gifts, insist that they are barely anything.
When meeting new people, relatives, friends, acquaintances, ALWAYS offer them to come home with you.
When entering a house, take of your shoes.
When guests are leaving your house, fix their shoes for them so it's easier for them to put them on.

[Mayana]

^ Awwwwwwww!
Yes, lowering one's gaze is key.

[Zayam]

List some pakhtun manners that you know of when sitting around a group of people lol

i will start...

-Don't laugh too much

- Don't walk around too much

-Always get up and ask if you can help with anything (don't take the first "no" for an answer lol)

with don't laugh too much, does it make a difference which gender you are?

[Admin Khan]

Honestly, I have no malicious intentions while I am saying this, but I think Pashtuns are the most hospitable people in the world. Our manners are unmatchable. Someone can pretty much conclude that we will starve just to see our guest sleep at night with a full stomach. When an elder is talking, you must be quiet, and talking back, is like an insult.

Just a few days, I saw my female cousin with her Hispanic friend, I did not have the ability to talk to her face to face. My cousin sent me a text later on asking why I was so shy and honestly, I had no response. Its just that respect we have for the opposite gender. And this is my the 'Aka loor' by the way. She is younger than me.

[Haneef]

women aren't to be heard or seen

[Fahd]

never say u r wrong to older ppl even if they was wrong (they mean thats respect )
never wear short clouths because u will get slap from all side's :P

[Feroza_Banu]

a guy could be friend with another guy for decades and still not know how many sisters he has...

it is a unwritten law not to speak or enquire about the women of the house... i.e. mother, sister, daughter, wife.

[Gulalai]

da khpal seepatoona makawa

[IamDZJ]

gossip of any form gets you a sapera pa makh
don't raise your voice
don't ever put your hand on your waist while you stand
don't mimic
don't walk ahead of elders
never tell someone older than you that they are lying...use the word "mistaken" instead if necessary
don't whisper with each other while guests are around
to be continued..
these things are common with all afghans not just the pashtoons

[khashayar]

Lol @ when a man lowers his gaze in a shy way....blah blah. Omg that's so gay. Hahaha.
I just look at them chics straight inthe eye. Lol.

[khashayar]

Lol at dint put hands on waist. I guess only for the girls.

The whispering one can go for any culture. That's just rude.

Lol @ the don tell elders they're lying say mistaken. So true. I got slapped once due to this Should have said mistaken. :P

[emkhan]

Pukhtuns have happened to be the greatest people in the world individually. Hospitality, open heartedness, beauty, courage, straightforwardness, intelligence, loyalty, dedication, respect for elders and care for younger and so many more, These all qualities have come in them not from the so called modern educated system but the old tarbiyat and environment of our beautiful society. So i would say we should stick to our values no matter how outdated or how conservative they are.

[Nokia_Apridy]

tol dar takara yu kha da tolo khbray zan sra oleklay..

Mr Ghata ta hem dar ukhyar ya :P)....