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What is this? Are you people enacting and trying to realise what you see in tv dramas and hasn't Romeo Juliet and Adam and Durkhania kissas not taught you anything? Or are you picking the best, cherry picking.
If you are engaging in methodologies on the periphery of our culture and more centralized on a different paradigm, then do as those people do; go with that flow. Date her, engage her and register.
But if you want to marry her and involve her family, i.e. permissions and acceptance, then you are in for a surprise; it's no longer mix and match. Which Pashtun father in his right might and his cultural set accept you to be a ZOM for his daughter, he will rightfully expect customary khapalwani(dastigiri) that is initiated through some form of acquaintance of the families. He will not allow such frivolity, tribal mismatch is just a screen my disillusioned friend, don't mean to be harsh, but our reality is pretty black and white, there is no polite words and false smiles, and behind the scenes chicanery.
Popals may marry Barakzai, Mohammadzai may marry Achakzai, Alokazai marry Momand, even Tajik marry Pashtun, but in a frame work of knowing families. That protocol lacks 'I love you, I love you two'.
In your situation rephrase you circumstances, get a brother or sister involved. If not don't venture into a marriage when there is evident strain; it may break you trying to keep things together later on. You cannot run away from fact that after marriage family will be involved.
If you are engaging in methodologies on the periphery of our culture and more centralized on a different paradigm, then do as those people do; go with that flow. Date her, engage her and register.
But if you want to marry her and involve her family, i.e. permissions and acceptance, then you are in for a surprise; it's no longer mix and match. Which Pashtun father in his right might and his cultural set accept you to be a ZOM for his daughter, he will rightfully expect customary khapalwani(dastigiri) that is initiated through some form of acquaintance of the families. He will not allow such frivolity, tribal mismatch is just a screen my disillusioned friend, don't mean to be harsh, but our reality is pretty black and white, there is no polite words and false smiles, and behind the scenes chicanery.
Popals may marry Barakzai, Mohammadzai may marry Achakzai, Alokazai marry Momand, even Tajik marry Pashtun, but in a frame work of knowing families. That protocol lacks 'I love you, I love you two'.
In your situation rephrase you circumstances, get a brother or sister involved. If not don't venture into a marriage when there is evident strain; it may break you trying to keep things together later on. You cannot run away from fact that after marriage family will be involved.
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