Is cooking a requirement for a Pashtun Men?

[Master Khan]

Ahem!! Those who think that they would be lucky enough to get Pashtun hubbies with great cooking skills or that they would cook for them (even if it is turn by turn) live in fool's paradise (sorry to break your heart beautiful girls but some truths are bitter!tsk,tsk)

(btw,If there is one, please let me know)

Since childhood, men are fed by thier moms/sisters/other females (consider your khan-an at home) and so they want to receive the same kind of love and attention(according to them) and the belief that the food will actually taste better if being cooked and served by his mom/wife/sister etc. Men are always driven by tangibility--''doing'' and "giving" love/anything else in real life (eulogizing him in poem does not mean anything to him but if you make Afghani Pulao.... *drool*). That is why, MEN always (or most of the times) prefer beauty of WO-MEN more than her "maazgha".
Don't forget to read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray for "why cooking is a requirement for a Pashtun Men"?
To understand everything, read some books of the honorable Sigmund Freud.

P.S. Cooking is the best weapon..use it!!

Finally a true pashtun women .

[PFgulalai]

Lol..manana..ta hom kala kala sa pakhlay kawa (in future)

Finally a true pashtun women .

[Roshina]

(btw,If there is one, please let me know)

Oh oh oh I know of a few One of them wakes up at peshmaney with his wife to prepare food for the whole family, including his parents.

And, belllieve it, he's Pukhtun! So, yeah, we have hope, ladies! Good men who'll help their wives in kitchen ctually exist

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I guess this means I won't be marrying a Pashtun.

[PFgulalai]

No hope still Qrra!!they are already married...

Oh oh oh I know of a few One of them wakes up at peshmaney with his wife to prepare food for the whole family, including his parents.

And, belllieve it, he's Pukhtun! So, yeah, we have hope, ladies! Good men who'll help their wives in kitchen ctually exist

[Roshina]

No hope still Qrra!!they are already married...

LOL! True ... shucks!

But, hey, that's mostly becuase smart wives train them

[PFgulalai]

Ahmm!!*scratching head*they must be smarter if they are having COOKs

LOL! True ... shucks!

But, hey, that's mostly becuase smart wives train them

[Dukhtar-e-Kabul]

I guess this means I won't be marrying a Pashtun.

Your going to be missing out.

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^ Highly doubt it.

[Dukhtar-e-Kabul]

^ Highly doubt it.

Trust me qandolak.

[IamDZJ]

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yes you can. you just have to be super cute and extra lovable.
a wife is like a gift. her cooking ability is like the gift wrap. it's good if it's nice and sparkly but it's what's inside that ( ) matters.

[tor_khan]

if u girls were married and had lived with a guy for a little while... you would know that guys are the laziest and the most "moft khor" people on earth. they don't just require to have a personal cook, they want a laundry woman, janitor, nany, just a personal care taker to take care of them.

the reason why a person who can cook is very important to them is because they are too lazy to cook themselves.

I'm guilty along with half the planet.

The truth is I never learned to cook.

[IamDZJ]

a woman should never expect her husband to cook for her unless she is ill and a man should never give the excuse of "men are not supposed to cook.." unless he wants the imprint of a spatula on his face. case closed.

[MazloomyarMaseed]

If a Woman can not cook then there must be something wrong with her. Traditionally Women are the ones who cook and men are the ones who bring the food.

I hate it when they say "back home" you think like this and so.

let me remind people, Ive met people from the west who complain that their wifes cant cook and only heat packed food and wish they had a wife who can cook.

Kind Regards

[Michin Khel]

I would say I'm a pretty darn good cook. I make good money and I am independent. Why would I marry a man who can't cook? What would I be gaining?

Better to be single than someones slave.

The above post shows a good example of influence of West on our people.

It is in the Etiquettes and mannersim for a women in the east to have the ability to cook. But madar pidar azaad society of west corrupts the minds of women and misguide them on the name of gender equality.

Cooking is a skill but it also reflects personality of the women.