Marry a kid?

[parsiwaan]

Salamoona everyone
Most of you guys have noticed that in Afghanistan specially in amongst pashtoons a teen girl aged 14 or less is forced to marry a man of her grand father's age.
a couple of yrs back 12 yrs old girl was married to 57 yrs old man.
in other cities or north these things rarely happen too (between tajiks,uzbek and hazara ).

Is it a good thing? should it be stopped or not?
do you think a 12 yrs old girl is ok for a 55 or 60 yrs old man?
is it in islam or against?
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Please answer the 2nd question too
The 2nd question is about Dushmani and laters giving away hands of ur sister's daughters to the victim's family.
Many ppl fight and kill eachother, to solve the problems,enemity or to get rid of revange they hand over their family members' (girls) to the victim's family. Is it a good thing? what happens to that girl who goes to the victim's home? will she ever enjoy a second of her life?
wont she face cruelity?
wont she be oppressed
wont she decide to commit suicide (many have done or tried)

Let me tell u something we afghan have a messed up culture.. and its not just pashton or tajik...its all afghans... i remember back home they used to say about marriage that if u hit a girl with ur "kolaa" or "Pakool" and if she did not fall down then u can marry her.

[AnGaaR]

^ nah it does
i have heard about it too
a well knows person in qandahar who was also a high rank government official got married to a very young girl.. 2 times younger than his age.. he is around 50 and the girl is 17 something