Pakhtana marrying a Kafir :p

[Kushan Prince]

The society is different in the West, Kushan. There are not many Muslims to choose from, let along Afghans, and forget about Pashtuns. Options are limited and most of the younger generation, especially female, are freer to choose who they want to marry. Pashtun males brought up in the West usually do have Pashtun brides arranged for them overseas which isn't a loss since they are usually expected to be stay-at-home moms anyway and it doesn't matter that much if they don't speak English. But the case of Pashtun females brought up in the West is a bit tougher, because it is naturally in the females'interests to want spouses that are better established in the country for reasons of financial security. This is all out of observing how these young Afghan-American minds work, that's all. Although I do know about a number of Western Pashtun girls that married Pashtun men from Afghanistan but unfortunately, it's only if the latter have outstanding credentials--phD students, having a post with the Afghan government, etc.

Here in Canada, we know this Pashtun family and they got their 17 year old daughter who is still in high school engaged to an afghan man from wardak who is atleast 22 (not sure) but he is much older than her. I guess this shows that it goes both ways. You are right here in North America my mon jokes around how their are so many girls to choose from back home, but doesn't saying anything about marrying an afghan from Canada or America.

[asad71]

To marry a Muslim girl a non-Muslim has to embrace Islam. There is a little ceremony involved. Also circumcision.

[Karachi]

each to their own as long as you are not planning to ruin her life at some stage, got rejected by a pashtun girl who went for two punjabi guys instead, and im not even ugly lol or a douche

there is sadly a stigma around pakhtoon men being animalistic, unreasonable, hypocritical which turns many pukhtana off of them, but makes others attracted to them

ultimately rubberduck, if you are a good man, and will treat her right, then go for it

In pakistan, punjabis are known to treat their women worst. I am not sure how pashtun men treat their women, but punjab has the highest crime/rape rates in the country. So this is a myth.

I believe it has to do with education, if a person is educated, they are most likely to treat their woman right, doesn't matter what ethnic background

[HalloIsBack]

Hi guys long time no speak, I have a slight problem and need a little help in terms of opinion and educated advice.

I would like to marry a girl who I met 9 months ago. She is what I have always looked for in a woman. She means everything to me and I have decided that I will ask her to marry me.

Her family are a little backward and to be fair not their fault. :p I have had good talks with both her and her family on the and email only. I speak good Pashto and have a very good grasp on culture, custom and most importantly see myself as compatible with their daughter.

There is a little history with the ol girl and I don’t really care. When she finds out how many woman I have slept with she would be shocked!

Anyway, the problem is well I am not a Muslim, so Nikah is going to be a problem. She is well aware of this predicament and simply avoids having to answer any of my questions when we have a chat.

I am going to meet her parents soon, I am going to Germany this week but will be going to Pakistan for 3 days so need this post answering to the best of anyone ability before Sunday :p

Opinions Please.

i hope he hasn't marry her

[Al Hanif]

i hope he hasn't marry her

This is why I'll never marry a western woman.

[TURK]

Why he had started this thread? Is this a marriage bureau?

[TURK]

To be honest I lost all hope in Pashto and our culture according to the members here, they are are too soft and weak Pashtuns here that will end giving away their sisters and daughter to strangers.

I think it is their inferiority complex which makes them to pretend themselves very broad minded and moderate. So they deny everything from their indigenous culture.

[Dreamer]

Marry... I say go for it though you are right when it comes to nikkah technically she won't b allowed to marry a non muslim but you can a) convert for the sake of nikkah ( you don't have to believe in it or practise.... Think of it as a means to an end) or you can just do a civil service ... Personally I believe if two ppl like/love each other then go go it

[Khyber Pass]

Oh hell no. Think of marriage as a big bowl of kichari, it's already pretty f'd up, why add more trouble by mixing. What are you gonna speak at home? English? How will religious differences work? How will the family relations work? There's so much more, and I really hope you didn't marry her. 9 Months is nothing.