Pakhtana marrying a Kafir :p

[rubberduck]

Hi guys long time no speak, I have a slight problem and need a little help in terms of opinion and educated advice.

I would like to marry a girl who I met 9 months ago. She is what I have always looked for in a woman. She means everything to me and I have decided that I will ask her to marry me.

Her family are a little backward and to be fair not their fault. :p I have had good talks with both her and her family on the and email only. I speak good Pashto and have a very good grasp on culture, custom and most importantly see myself as compatible with their daughter.

There is a little history with the ol girl and I don’t really care. When she finds out how many woman I have slept with she would be shocked!

Anyway, the problem is well I am not a Muslim, so Nikah is going to be a problem. She is well aware of this predicament and simply avoids having to answer any of my questions when we have a chat.

I am going to meet her parents soon, I am going to Germany this week but will be going to Pakistan for 3 days so need this post answering to the best of anyone ability before Sunday :p

Opinions Please.

[R3SISTANC3]

I hope you man up and tell her parents that you are a non-Muslim. Let them know so they can make a conscious decision whether they want their daughter to marry a kafir or not. Unless you are a dishonest douche bag, in that case this thread is meaningless.

[Haqmal]

No Pakhtana would marry you, she isn't pakhtana if she falls in love with an Infidel.

there is a slight confusion made by infidels in this forum,

[rubberduck]

Unless you are a dishonest douche bag, in that case this thread is meaningless.

Why would i go to the effort of creating a post and asking a bloody question?

I dislike Jewish insults.

[rubberduck]

No Pakhtana would marry you, she isn't pakhtana if she falls in love with an Infidel.

there is a slight confusion made by infidels in this forum,

Halika, I did not ask you weather is wanted to or not? I asked for advice and not a lecture.


Whats wrong with us Infidel's?

[MohannaD]

Muslim ladies are not allowed to marry none Muslims . I wouldn't meet the parents if I were you , this whole marriege idea is wrong .

If you hide your religion now , what will you do later ??? Are you going to pretend you're praying and fasting forever ??

Plus, if you want to marry someone , you respect that person , you shouldn't have written that she has "history" , especially that this information is useless here .

[rubberduck]

Muslim ladies are not allowed to marry none Muslims . I wouldn't meet the parents if I were you , this whole marriege idea is wrong .

If you hide your religion now , what will you do later ??? Are you going to pretend you're praying and fasting forever ??

Plus, if you want to marry someone , you respect that person , you shouldn't have written that she has "history" , especially that this information is useless here .

Thanks, i have asked this question to myself and came with wth the same answer.

[Soldat_Amir]

No Pakhtana would marry you, she isn't pakhtana if she falls in love with an Infidel.

there is a slight confusion made by infidels in this forum,

Who exactly made you an expert on who is Pakhtana or not. Who are you exactly? who made you to judge on who is and who is not. You do know Pakhtana's marryed many infidels during the pre-islamic period of Afghans history, I guess they were also not Pakhtanans in your eyes.

I would rather have my children married into a educated infidel family than some of the backward trash we see in the Muslim world.

If a Pashtana feels happy and safe marrying a Non-Muslim, then go for it, life is too short to listen to bigots!

On a logical explanation, people may say, that Non Muslims will change Pakhtun women,ask yourself this, whats the difference between a Alcoholic Non Muslim, and a Muslim who takes Naswar and chars?

Judge people by their character not by their faith or background.

[Soldat_Amir]

Muslim ladies are not allowed to marry none Muslims . I wouldn't meet the parents if I were you , this whole marriege idea is wrong .

If you hide your religion now , what will you do later ??? Are you going to pretend you're praying and fasting forever ??

Plus, if you want to marry someone , you respect that person , you shouldn't have written that she has "history" , especially that this information is useless here .

But its okay for Arab Muslims to keep Jewish,Christian,Pagan, Black women in large numbers around their Harems?

[rubberduck]

You shouldn't have written that she has "history" , especially that this information is useless here .

Perhaps that was a poor choice of words,I should of stated she was married to a Pakistani and is divorced. I can offer her a secure, loving and understanding home.

[Haqmal]

Halika, I did not ask you weather is wanted to or not? I asked for advice and not a lecture.


Whats wrong with us Infidel's?

Name and the input of the thread suggests an unfeasible motive, any advice is useless

[rubberduck]

Name and the input of the thread suggests an unfeasible motive, any advice is useless

ummm ok, if you say so.

[Haqmal]

Who exactly made you an expert on who is Pakhtana or not. Who are you exactly? who made you to judge on who is and who is not. You do know Pakhtana's marryed many infidels during the pre-islamic period of Afghans history, I guess they were also not Pakhtanans in your eyes.

I would rather have my children married into a educated infidel family than some of the backward trash we see in the Muslim world.

If a Pashtana feels happy and safe marrying a Non-Muslim, then go for it, life is too short to listen to bigots!

On a logical explanation, people may say, that Non Muslims will change Pakhtun women,ask yourself this, whats the difference between a Alcoholic Non Muslim, and a Muslim who takes Naswar and chars?

Judge people by their character not by their faith or background.

an idiot and stupid will answer this post,,

[graveyardofempires]

these guys are turning this forum into a dalal forum.

[Soldat_Amir]

an idiot and stupid will answer this post,,

Then why did you just answer it!


Problem with people like you is, backwardness has plagued your mind, your an obstacle towards free thinking and progression, your the kind of guy that gets very upset when others do good unless it satisfys your deluded view of life and people.

Faith should not be an issue, if Muslim men are allowed to marry Non muslim women, then why not vice versa? We no longer live in the Arabian empire anymore.

If a Muslim man beats his wife, smokes chars and takes Naswar, but a Non Muslim man doesnt, then whats the difference?

Stop being a spokesman for Arab Imperialism.

To have a successful society, a progressive one and a modern one, you need to accept a few things such as free thinking and stop this emotional blackmail through faith, if you want to live in a bedion society, then please visit Somalia, its nice at this time of year, and I am sure women are free to vote and have no fear of walking half a mile outside their houses.