if a pakistani send rishta to your house...

[Shayesta]

^ The difference here is that even Pakistani Pukhtoons call themselves Pakistani (except for the exceptions), so why shouldn't they be referred to as one? I have met Pekhawris who felt insulted when I asked them whether they are Pukhtoons, no joke. Afghans on the other hand aren't all about Kabul, not that there is anything wrong with being a Kabuli. As for those who call Pukhtoons Pakistanis just a 'Pakistani', usually those elders aren't even interested in Durrand Line. In all fairness, the only people I personally have seen talk about Durrand Line is just a very few Pukhtoon youth, I can't remember I ever heard an Afghan elder recall Durrand Line? I guess that's the reason they don't feel close enough to Pakhtunkhwa? Like you mentioned Afghan Pukhtoons considering Tajiks as their brothers, all my mother's sisters are married to 'Farsiwanan', and that also type of people who hate anything associated with Pakistan with all their heart. They consider Pukhtoons who call themselves Pakistani to be 'beghairat' who have been enslaved by the Punjabis. To be honest, even my in-laws are like that where I had a heated argument with my sisters-in-law who were making fun of people of Pakhtunkhwa. Whatever the non-Pukhtoon relatives of my may think, all I am happy about is that I have been able to successfully change the minds of my Pukhtoon family and relatives regarding people of Pakhtunkhwa. And to be honest, that's all I care about.

@Apriday
I really don't understand what you are trying to say?

@Leonine
I don't need to worry about that.

[gadoonwal]

^ The difference here is that even Pakistani Pukhtoons call themselves Pakistani (except for the exceptions), so why shouldn't they be referred to as one? I have met Pekhawris who felt insulted when I asked them whether they are Pukhtoons, no joke. Afghans on the other hand aren't all about Kabul, not that there is anything wrong with being a Kabuli. As for those who call Pukhtoons Pakistanis just a 'Pakistani', usually those elders aren't even interested in Durrand Line. In all fairness, the only people I personally have seen talk about Durrand Line is just a very few Pukhtoon youth, I can't remember I ever heard an Afghan elder recall Durrand Line? I guess that's the reason they don't feel close enough to Pakhtunkhwa? Like you mentioned Afghan Pukhtoons considering Tajiks as their brothers, all my mother's sisters are married to 'Farsiwanan', and that also type of people who hate anything associated with Pakistan with all their heart. They consider Pukhtoons who call themselves Pakistani to be 'beghairat' who have been enslaved by the Punjabis. To be honest, even my in-laws are like that where I had a heated argument with my sisters-in-law who were making fun of people of Pakhtunkhwa. Whatever the non-Pukhtoon relatives of my may think, all I am happy about is that I have been able to successfully change the minds of my Pukhtoon family and relatives regarding people of Pakhtunkhwa. And to be honest, that's all I care about.

@Apriday
I really don't understand what you are trying to say?

@Leonine
I don't need to worry about that.

thanks ,i was right that others have every right to treat us like that then.
You might have met few pashtun from the east so you can,nt say that for millions .
many afghan-pashtun like to be called only afghan and not pashtun.
Najeebullah khan ahmadzai may not like by many afghans but i can tell you the man was the one and only in the modren afghan history.
A great leader killed by afghans for isi.
It was him change the mind of some young afghans.
The old afghans should know that it was king abdurahman sold his land not the people of pashtunkhwa.
They should feel proud of their pashtun origin and holy pashtu language and not to mix up with tajiks before they acused pashtuns of east bieng pakipied.
Every nationalist pashtun leader from afghanistan got killed?

[Master Khan]

yeah speaking against each other will get us no where but will create more hate for each other.

[IamDZJ]

it has already happened and we respectfully refused it for reasons being other than him being a pakistani. when some one comes to your house with a proposal as such, it's pretty obvious they think you are a respectful family so please don't be rude about it even if you are not intreseted in the proposal. i have seen people act very immature about it. as if to say "how dare you.."

[rubberduck]

Forgive me MODS, i am not looking to get banned but need to answer this question once and for bloody all.

[rubberduck]

luffy pls stop this nonsens.
what you mean by paki?
we pashtuns have our own identity and culture.
do,nt follow these sold out parsibans and their hired ,,tatwaans,,here.
we pashtuns got nothing to do with punjabis and persains.
if any non pashtun send rishta or whatever to pashtun the pashtun should say ,,,no,,
it will be good to smack him on his face so he would,nt do this in the future.
you know why these iranains call us paki?
to forced durandline on pashtuns of both side.
if they call you paki you have every right to call them iranains.

What planet do you live on?
You can refuse a proposal but to insult someone because he or she has an interest in your family, rather than shag ( have sexual relations) they request the honourable and acceptable both religiously and culturally by asking for your blessing? Are you on drugs?

If someone could provide a stable and loving future for your family you would refuse?

[Shehbaz Khan]

Well, For my family the first priority is to check whether they are Pakhtuns or not. Later they check the other criteria like Education/Good name etc etc ..

The primary condition is that he must be a Pakhtun

[rubberduck]

Well most punjabis are barelvi grave worshippers so EH NEH.

Most Pakhtana are almost the same or even worse.

You resent Barelvi yet practise similar acts. You resent black majic yet have amulets. Need i go on?

[rubberduck]

And which similar acts do i practice?

Cross reference.....

[afghan]

Well, For my family the first priority is to check whether they are Pakhtuns or not. Later they check the other criteria like Education/Good name etc etc ..

The primary condition is that he must be a Pakhtun

once a very strong communist preacher of russia was asked that he preaches about the equality of all human beings, what if his daughter bring home a niggger then he started to hesitate, you remind me of that preacher. we paki this paki that, at the end look so down upon them.

[ScimitarXEdge]

Naturally my family follows the usual dynamics for middle eastern or asian families when it comes to marriages. For men they permit pretty much any interethic or racial marriages so long as the woman isn't black. Women in our family are generally only allowed to marry a Born practicing Mulsim, no converts; cannot be a Hazara/East Asian, Black or Northern European (Dutch, French, British, German, Scandinavian etc.). Marriages with Muslims from Pakistan, India, Bangladesh, Mauritius, Bosnia, Albania, Circassians, Turkey, Morocco, Algeria, Jordan, Palestine Gulf Countries and similar places are permitted.

[ScimitarXEdge]

once a very strong communist preacher of russia was asked that he preaches about the equality of all human beings, what if his daughter bring home a niggger then he started to hesitate, you remind me of that preacher. we paki this paki that, at the end look so down upon them.

who people allow marriage with is a totally different issue than equality of humanity.

[ScimitarXEdge]

What planet do you live on?
You can refuse a proposal but to insult someone because he or she has an interest in your family, rather than shag ( have sexual relations) they request the honourable and acceptable both religiously and culturally by asking for your blessing? Are you on drugs?

If someone could provide a stable and loving future for your family you would refuse?

that's a conundrum, stability and love are based on certain sociocultural dynamics

[Shehbaz Khan]

once a very strong communist preacher of russia was asked that he preaches about the equality of all human beings, what if his daughter bring home a niggger then he started to hesitate, you remind me of that preacher. we paki this paki that, at the end look so down upon them.

If you look at the topic, my post was just in reply to that.. I didn't used the Word Pakistani in that so how can you say that I call myself 'we paki that and we paki that' so down upon what?

:s

["Khan Baba"]

If pakistans send rishta my house I say thankyou very kinds lub you and I marrys the beautys and madames.