Marriage to non-Pashtuns

[Alchemist]

What is the Religious orientation of your cousin's husband? Also how much value will your cousin put on Religion in her life?

I was involved with a Bosnian girl but she was more into Culture rather then Religion. What she called Islam was actually her Bosniak culture. So if there was something that was not OK by Islam but OK by her Bosniak culture was OK with her.

There is a good book written y an American Anthropologist called "Being Muslim the Bosnian Way".

I am not sure how much will that be important to you.

normally when people say "I was involved", they mean that they have a relationship.

Obviously if this girl was religious then she wouldn't be involved with you.
Like wise, if you were religious you wouldn't be "involved" with her.
So obviously it wasn't that she wasn't religious enough for you .... or you are too religious for her...perhaps some other factor. Muslims don't get involved with women willy nilly without committing themselves 100%...first you commit and then you get involved.


I suggest you don't get so involved with other girls ...if you were buying a car...and you wanted to test drive it off the lot before you made a decision than it's a different story...but if you want to buy a house...you can't go and live there for a month and then decide if you want to buy it...same for women...except we are talking about real people whose life you could ruin with your careless involvement with them. Before you even bother criticizing and analysing cross racial and cross cultural marriages....figure out what you want and then go for it ...remember that the final goal is reproduction...in reality your kids won't turn out exactly like how you want them to...look at how different your generation is from your father's generation...can you say you have inherited his frame of reference? I don't think your dad had gotten involved with women in his days ...

[Azad Khel]

I am going to marry a Pakhtun from back home

Mubarak di sha..................

[Sangeen]

normally when people say "I was involved", they mean that they have a relationship.

Obviously if this girl was religious then she wouldn't be involved with you.
Like wise, if you were religious you wouldn't be "involved" with her.
So obviously it wasn't that she wasn't religious enough for you .... or you are too religious for her...perhaps some other factor. Muslims don't get involved with women willy nilly without committing themselves 100%...first you commit and then you get involved.


I suggest you don't get so involved with other girls ...if you were buying a car...and you wanted to test drive it off the lot before you made a decision than it's a different story...but if you want to buy a house...you can't go and live there for a month and then decide if you want to buy it...same for women...except we are talking about real people whose life you could ruin with your careless involvement with them. Before you even bother criticizing and analysing cross racial and cross cultural marriages....figure out what you want and then go for it ...remember that the final goal is reproduction...in reality your kids won't turn out exactly like how you want them to...look at how different your generation is from your father's generation...can you say you have inherited his frame of reference? I don't think your dad had gotten involved with women in his days ...

Here comes another fortune teller... I have explained my position in DETAIL so no point going back on that.

you can go as trigger happy as you may wish.

By the way since you can tell the UNKNOWN so terribly well; would you mind having a crack at what country will win the Cricket world cup?.... i will bet on exactly the "opposite" side.

p.s. did you notice the DETAIL is italic, bold, underlined, capitals, bright red and reaaaaaaly big. Hope you dont miss it.

[Sangeen]

sangeen there is more to this forum than this God damned thread. if you get out of here and check out a few other threads you will learn the difference between people worth arguing with and people who are not worth arguing with.
i am not talking about dreamer.

Why dont you take me there and i will jump into it all guns blazing... #?@*%$!&£

By the way navigation tools are awful on this blog. There is no link for forum from where you can go to a page where one could find all threads. Or is it me being goofy?

[unknownprince]

oh big deal... I have 1 cousin (female) whose married to a Turk, another (male) whose engaged to a Turk, one female relative married to a Bosnian and my other male cousin married to an english lady... My Uncle sadly passed away was married to a Jew... and you know what all of them were damn HAPPY and a lot happier than some people I know who married pashtuns BIG DEAL

LOL wait, they will no longer be pashtun.

[unknownprince]

this conversation is retarded beyond all measures

[Dreamer]

What is the Religious orientation of your cousin's husband? Also how much value will your cousin put on Religion in her life?

I was involved with a Bosnian girl but she was more into Culture rather then Religion. What she called Islam was actually her Bosniak culture. So if there was something that was not OK by Islam but OK by her Bosniak culture was OK with her.

There is a good book written y an American Anthropologist called "Being Muslim the Bosnian Way".

I am not sure how much will that be important to you.

we are not that religious and he was muslim as was she... thats enough

[kakargirl]

About two years ago this incident happened , a family from pahktun khwa really good friends of ours their daughter was studying in manchester uni,where she met a punjabi, came home made a fuss to marry him mother let her marry him father divorced the mother after they were fighting night and day as the father was back home so were the brothers when the mother let this happen , imagine 45 years of marriage ended brothers all moved there familys out all because of one girl the whole family unit fell apart because the father knew the boy was wrong and he was right a year later the bloke ran off leaving her in pregnant state now she has no one and yet her other sisters both of them are happily married to their own pashtun men , but shes living in some shelter now and theres thousands of girls like this in uk who made their own choice and the shelters are overflowing

[laevanay]

........., imagine 45 years of marriage ended brothers all moved there familys out all because of one girl......

That's what you get from a pakhtun marriage... more ghairath less religion! So what if he was Punjabi? What she suffers from are the consequences of her decisions and she is allowed that. Are all marriages to Pakhtuns perfect? We Pakhtun men are in no way perfect.

Marriage is a personal matter. One should be allowed to choose and marry who they like. Not all "love" marriages work nor do all arrainged marriages work.

[kakargirl]

That's what you get from a pakhtun marriage... more ghairath less religion! So what if he was Punjabi? What she suffers from are the consequences of her decisions and she is allowed that. Are all marriages to Pakhtuns perfect? We Pakhtun men are in no way perfect.

Marriage is a personal matter. One should be allowed to choose and marry who they like. Not all "love" marriages work nor do all arrainged marriages work.

ok but the marriage of choice are failing quicker, so basically this theory is wrong their is no guarantee that it will last or it will be good you never know a person until you live with them for years.

[Dreamer]

lol wait, they will no longer be pashtun.

who gives a crap!?

[roadrunner]

I ll try translating this for you DJ
When I am with a girl and I call her my "Girlfriend", basically ... there is an implicit agreement between her and I that we are not bound by any agreement for future plans....so when later I dump her or maker her dump me because ...I am bored of her ...naturally....I don't feel guilty about the break up...thats why I don't feel like I am getting away with any "crime" per say...that's just fact ...because those are the "rules of the game"...and I am just a playa ...beeep beeep

What's there to feel guilty about?

I am an honest guy...
Most of these guys here have had girl friends too but they say "oh I can do it because I am not fooling anyone here ...just not making things "official" with my other loves ones ...like my family who are a bit too old school and don't like to know the details of my "private affairs...but others shouldn't do it because they are all lustful and have bad intentions"...so because I am known as a professional macdaddy I am actually opening the eyes of the people...unlike the hypocrites who just want to hog all the fun for themselves....you see? I am the good guy...

Could you translate this into something intelligible?

I refuse to do the undignified even under the shadow of anonymity" - literally that translates to "I aint gonna shag no skank undercover"
did ) and went back on it ...then in that case...I am a cheater...and cheaters never prosper.

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few more lines of garbage
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(you dun have to thank me for this one... )

Why would i want to thank you for that lot of quackery?

[roadrunner]

Roadrunner, whoever said pakistani punjabis and urdu people are pleasant??

The fact that you r proud testifies how disgusting.

Let's be clear loose characters are usually not good looking in the first place, that's why they are way out there.

It's your assumption about the association that is perverse. Again that is not pleasant.

Some Punjabis are very decent people. I find it more disgusting when others generalize over them in the manner you do.

I've no doubts you're a mouse in real life.

[roadrunner]

forget about "modesty" talk about "Morality". I asked you a question earlier on, I will repeat my question,

Would you be so casual about these relationships if a female from your immediate family was having such relationships?

I wouldn't mind as long as they were old enough to know what they were doing. Why would anyone have a problem with it?

[Khan_Saib]

I would marry a non-pashtun girl, because in Europe we guys must be happy to find a good Muslim girl. But a non-afghan girl I would'nt marry because I don't want cultural difficulties.