Study Abroad

[pukhtana]

so the decision is...

[Laila]

I am going to Italy in spring of 2011, inshallah if Allah (SWT) is willing

[Laila]

Fantastic. Did you apply already?

I apply in March of this school year

[unknownprince]

You know how it is in the USA, Afghans even take ketchup home for free,lol..

Did you need to mention ketchup? Ketchup is such a great thing!!!!!i don't know what people would do without it!!!! Im going to break my last fast with ketchup today!!!

[PFgulalai]

I would say you should stay where you are and not get yourself into some mess.

Aseer Jaan, I disagree with you. We should encourage and support our Pashtun females to avail opportunites that would help them in gaining knowledge and grooming their careers. In this fast-paced iPhone-ized world, where people are more concerned about their facebook status updates than working towards the problems of developing world, we need to create leaders amongst ourselves rather than depending upon others and blaming them for our problems and not helping us!

It is a common understanding that education can play a key role towards achieving that goal. We need female Pashtun representation both at local and international levels. Laila's parents are working towards the same goal when they give her the opportunity to get education, wherever it is offered.I appreciate Laila's conviction towards her education as well.I also appreciate your worries as her brother. My brothers, grandfathers, maternal and paternal uncles, cousins (both younger and older), chauffeur, and garderner had similar apprehension as you have now, when my dad took the decision for my education. The decision always have huge ('huge" because there is a tendency to think more negative than positive in such situation) risks associated with it, but just because there is a probability of some unexpected danger, we won't allow our females to explore new horizons? How about Laila getting education and utilizing it later for our women? The positive impact that one educated Laila can have on our society is gazillion times more beneficial than leading a life in utter ignorance if she does not avail this opporunity or any other related to her education and career.A Pashtun female deserves to have equal opportunites as much as a Pashtun male today.Sending your daughters abroad is a brave decision that only few Pashtun fathers can take and an opportunity that only few Pashtun females will get. You know the image of Pashtun/Afghan women in the present world.Besides the tragic consequences of war, who else is responsible for the absence of representation of Pashtun females in the present world?

To Laila:

A pleasure to know that you are pursuing you education in another country. Please go ahead.I am not the perfect example that I can sugest to follow, but I can assure you that if I can survive in a foriegn country (lol!) with my knowledge from books on USA, Hollywood, Martin Luther King, and M.J for many years now, you will do godzillion times better than me!!Furthermore, I have huge faith in the parental instincts.They rarely go wrong.When your parents have no objections/issues, you should think/act brave and smart, and get maximum out of it.Yes, it is VERY tough to be away from family.It could be the worst decsion to take in life. But it will never turn out to be horrible decision (assuming you will work hard and keep your focus on your goals).There will be times when you will curse your decision (due to our dependence on family support) and would think that it was better to stay at home than to put yourself in troubles, but hey, you are the CHOSEN ones amongst millions!

Go Laila Go! =)

[amna.]

Gulalai can I love you?

Aseer Jaan, I disagree with you. We should encourage and support our Pashtun females to avail opportunites that would help them in gaining knowledge and grooming their careers. In this fast-paced iPhone-ized world, where people are more concerned about their facebook status updates than working towards the problems of developing world, we need to create leaders amongst ourselves rather than depending upon others and blaming them for our problems and not helping us!

It is a common understanding that education can play a key role towards achieving that goal. We need female Pashtun representation both at local and international levels. Laila's parents are working towards the same goal when they give her the opportunity to get education, wherever it is offered.I appreciate Laila's conviction towards her education as well.I also appreciate your worries as her brother. My brothers, grandfathers, maternal and paternal uncles, cousins (both younger and older), chauffeur, and garderner had similar apprehension as you have now, when my dad took the decision for my education. The decision always have huge ('huge" because there is a tendency to think more negative than positive in such situation) risks associated with it, but just because there is a probability of some unexpected danger, we won't allow our females to explore new horizons? How about Laila getting education and utilizing it later for our women? The positive impact that one educated Laila can have on our society is gazillion times more beneficial than leading a life in utter ignorance if she does not avail this opporunity or any other related to her education and career.A Pashtun female deserves to have equal opportunites as much as a Pashtun male today.Sending your daughters abroad is a brave decision that only few Pashtun fathers can take and an opportunity that only few Pashtun females will get. You know the image of Pashtun/Afghan women in the present world.Besides the tragic consequences of war, who else is responsible for the absence of representation of Pashtun females in the present world?

To Laila:

A pleasure to know that you are pursuing you education in another country. Please go ahead.I am not the perfect example that I can sugest to follow, but I can assure you that if I can survive in a foriegn country (lol!) with my knowledge from books on USA, Hollywood, Martin Luther King, and M.J for many years now, you will do godzillion times better than me!!Furthermore, I have huge faith in the parental instincts.They rarely go wrong.When your parents have no objections/issues, you should think/act brave and smart, and get maximum out of it.Yes, it is VERY tough to be away from family.It could be the worst decsion to take in life. But it will never turn out to be horrible decision (assuming you will work hard and keep your focus on your goals).There will be times when you will curse your decision (due to our dependence on family support) and would think that it was better to stay at home than to put yourself in troubles, but hey, you are the CHOSEN ones amongst millions!

Go Laila Go! =)

[Helay]

All right...so my dad has given me his permission to study abroad, but my mum is giving me a hard time. HOW DO I CONVINCE MY MOTHER?

Laila love, help me...! lol

[Roshina]

Great post, Gulalai Guley! I wholeheartedly agree. Thanks for the encouragement to all those who needed it (me including ).

Many parents say, though, that "Not yet -- when you're married, then you can do whatEVER you want! You can go whereEVER You like! You can study whereEVER you like!" And sometimes, they'll add in the crucial yet disastrous reminder: "... so long as your husband allows you."

I'm like I should NOT have to get married just for that. Ugh.

But I'll be going soon as well, ka khairee. Can't wait! Either to Morocco or London.

[Helay]

@ Samima: I dont need to make a puppy face lol I will just start crying! that's the key haha

PQ love, what kind of story?