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  • #16
    Dreams of the common person, in the largest dream study collection done to date appear to reflect common motifs across the world. Repetitive dreams or repetitive characters in dreams are one of the subcategories of common themes that an average person from anywhere from Kandahar to Timbuktu to St Louis may have.
    http://www2.ucsc.edu/dreams/Coding/fortune.html

    Misforunate ^ is one of the commonest themes in dreams it appears.

    Then subdividing these categories may indicate that this sort of dream is a coping dream.

    It may have nothing at all to do with the person, her thought processes about you, or what will happen to her.

    Rather it is quiet possibly a reflection of a coping dream related to your personal stress about the relationship or lack thereof.

    The fact that she is a repeating theme may indicate that she is imprinted in your long term memory.

    The best evidence based thing that ties these nonreligious approaches to interpretation of what the dream says about you is found in this paper on dreams of absent minded transgression:

    http://psycnet.apa.org/?&fa=main.doi...843X.100.4.487

    The phrase that stands out in respect to this abstract is the comment:
    " but it leaves me with this very ugly memory and unpleasant feelings for a few weeks."


    Note how this abstract discusses this in the context of
    "Ss caught themselves smoking and felt strong negative emotions, such as panic and guilt."

    So its sort of an inverse of a dream of absent minded transgression.
    Your after the event feelings might relate to the fact that you broke protocol and were somehow in some way involved with her life through the dream, just as the attempting to quit smokers felt guilty about smoking in their dreams.

    or, the interpretation I would prefer: you are, subconsciously, uncomfortable with the nonexistent or soured relationship with this person and this is manifesting itself.

    So one option is to do nothing at all and act in no way upon the dream with idea that since you understand its the bubbling subconscious you need not heed it anymore as it is now conscious.
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    Religiously, if you are looking for a solution and you want to refer to a religious route of getting there that might address the interpretation above:
    If she is a Muslim, Muhammad said that believers ought not be not non speaking terms for more than 3 days.

    Here are two great hadiths from the Bukhari's own collection called... The Book of Dreams that offers other possibilities and a religoius solution as well to the actual events themselves. The second hadith actually covers repetitive dreams:
    1. Allah's Apostle said, "When the Day of Resurrection approaches, the dreams of a believer will hardly fail to come true, and a dream of a believer is one of forty-six parts of prophetism, and whatever belongs to prothetism can never be false." Muhammad bin Sirin said, "But I say this." He said, "It used to be said, 'There are three types of dreams: The reflection of one's thoughts and experiences one has during wakefulness, what is suggested by Satan to frighten the dreamer, or glad tidings from Allah. So, if someone has a dream which he dislikes, he should not tell it to others, but get up and offer a prayer." He added, "He (Abu Huraira) hated to see a Ghul (i.e., iron collar around his neck in a dream) and people liked to see fetters (on their feet in a dream). The fetters on the feet symbolizes one's constant and firm adherence to religion." And Abu 'Abdullah said, "Ghuls (iron collars) are used only for necks."

    2. I used to see a dream which would make me sick till I heard Abu Qatada saying, "I too, used to see a dream which would make me sick till I heard the Prophet saying, "A good dream is from Allah, so if anyone of you saw a dream which he liked, he should not tell it to anybody except to the one whom he loves, and if he saw a dream which he disliked, then he should seek refuge with Allah from its evil and from the evil of Satan, and spit three times (on his left) and should not tell it to anybody, for it will not harm him
    Last edited by BarakzaiAbdali; 03-22-2012, 12:14 AM.
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    • #17
      it looks like some one is trying to give you a message, perhaps to do some thing for her to help, you should maybe consult a aalim or scholar on this

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      • #18
        Originally posted by DaZahroJaam. View Post
        for some odd reason, they were burying her under stones and while they were doing that, she was looking directly at me and begging me to help her. every one else standing next to me had no reaction to her speaking and were not aware of the fact that she was sobbing, breathing or speaking with me...what i remember is turning my back to her and leaving her, being very very angry..i don't know if i was angry because i felt guilty about leaving her or if it was because she chose to ask me for help knowing very well how much i hated her...
        You are so cruel and filled with hate. It's absolutely revulsive. You have one of the least attractive personality I've ever seen.

        Originally posted by DaZahroJaam. View Post
        before going to sleep, i watched a peaceful korean romantic comedy with my sister..
        rofl

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        • #19
          to be explained later inshaAllah,

          i questioned the timing,because the dreams which you dream right after going to beds are from your own thinking and wishes and daily life and so on.

          but the dreams before you wake up are far more important and of meaning especially the one when you wake up for Fajar (morning prayer) and verily the scholars agree on them that they are the ones who can be from the most high and their interpretation is important and one can look after it.

          As brother Barakzai mentioned above,the three kinds of dreams.

          but inshaAllah i will look after it in the books of dreamers and share the meaning if i find anything worth mentioning.
          High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.

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          • #20
            I don't even know if you are still even looking at the post but I would advise you to do this:

            Forgive her yourself. It seems you have not forgiven the person for whatever reason. Do so, because if you are to believe your dreams the person may be in trouble currently... or is going to get in trouble.

            Go to the person, talk with her. Give her some support and tell her you are there to talk to her if she is in any kind of trouble. Other than that I can offer no real advice...

            Except that don't get too attached. And don't make promises. I made a promise to build a school in Pakistan with some poor folk. Now I have... more problems. I am sick to say the least and it doesn't seem I'll earn anything properly in at least 4 years. So make sure you offer her support but don't get too attached.

            Lol. And also hope if she really dies or something her ghosts don't bother you. :D
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            • #21
              Now :

              People dying or being buried means : reaching a very turning point in being hopeless in regard of faith and believe.

              And people not yet death but being carried to burial means : great hardship (suffering).

              A group of people burying a person: (1) Bad omen. (2) Those people will gang up to destroy that person.

              So now you can make up what it could be ....and the whispering and seek of help i have not overcome yet.
              High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.

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              • #22
                I think this dream means that you really hate this person in real life but in real life she doesn't give a damn about you and you know she is better than you. So the only way you can feel better about yourself and be better than her is in the fantasy world of dreams. You want her to suffer and that is projected in your dream. Too bad for you its only a dream and in real life she will always be better than you.

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                • #23

                  I don't hate people who are better than me, I admire them. She is not better than me. I hate her because she is a weak selfish and self centered leech that dwells and feeds on self pity. You could stab her to dearth in front of me a thousand times and wouldn't flinch once. I don't care how she suffers or for how long.

                  I am no bird, and no nest ensnares me.

                  non commercial would cost less if he was in charge himself which he plans on doing. right now it's n herat but soon it will be in qanadahar.

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                  • #24
                    Hating people is easy,loving them not.
                    High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.

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                    • #25
                      yeah?? How many trash cans do you love?? Every piece of junk under the sky is not worth loving. People worth loving are very easy to love.
                      Last edited by IamDZJ; 03-22-2012, 03:18 PM.

                      I am no bird, and no nest ensnares me.

                      non commercial would cost less if he was in charge himself which he plans on doing. right now it's n herat but soon it will be in qanadahar.

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                      • #26
                        I don't say you should love someone,but it is not suitable to hate someone,you may dislike someone or some habits but hating is exaggerated.

                        In a poem a scholar said : If you are good to others you have been good to you and if you are respectful to others in truth you were respectful to yourself and so on...be patience and stay among the people with good manners and behavoir and be good to them,they may do not return anything good but maybe they will have some kind of shame.
                        High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.

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                        • #27
                          Originally posted by DaZahroJaam. View Post

                          I don't hate people who are better than me, I admire them. She is not better than me. I hate her because she is a weak selfish and self centered leech that dwells and feeds on self pity. You could stab her to dearth in front of me a thousand times and wouldn't flinch once. I don't care how she suffers or for how long.
                          How about she is better than you but you are not willing to admit it due to many issues you might have such as envy, jealousy? Now you can say that you don't hate her which is followed by
                          " I hate her because she is a weak selfish and self centered leech that dwells and feeds on self pity. You could stab her to dearth in front of me a thousand times and wouldn't flinch once. I don't care how she suffers or for how long."

                          If that is not hate then I don't know what is.
                          So the issue is that she doesn't pay you enough attention? Is that why she is self centered?

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                          • #28

                            It's not anyone's place to tell someone how it is that one does or must feel about the other. Nor should one find the need to convince others of their love or hatred for someone.

                            I am no bird, and no nest ensnares me.

                            non commercial would cost less if he was in charge himself which he plans on doing. right now it's n herat but soon it will be in qanadahar.

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                            • #29
                              yeah you are right, I was merely playing Devil's advocate.

                              apologies..

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                              • #30
                                Originally posted by DaZahroJaam. View Post

                                I don't hate people who are better than me, I admire them. She is not better than me. I hate her because she is a weak selfish and self centered leech that dwells and feeds on self pity. You could stab her to dearth in front of me a thousand times and wouldn't flinch once. I don't care how she suffers or for how long.
                                The poison in your blood...

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