Girls: Will you have an issue?

[Feroza_Banu]

But yea ,cant say the same abt all the guys ,i have seen many married men staring at girls n other's wives ,tobah ....i really want to slap them hard or tell their wives to control ur husband ,lol

yeah lol. i have noticed the same.

[Feroza_Banu]

^thank you Jasmine This is a serious issue that women face with their partner... i wasn't intending to make a foolish topic or to have it passed by like this issue doesn't exist. if we don't stand up for ourselves, others won't either. i personally believe that the fact that alot of women think it is OK is also something preached by men. we are instilled with this belief that a girl is "cool" if she doesn't make an issue of her partner staring at other girls and fantasizing about them... well the guy is committed to her which is why he is with her anyways. so why make a big deal out of it. 'be chill, be cool, stop overreacting, i only complemented her legs its not like i went and slept with her'... this is what most women hear on tv, read in magazine, and watch in movies so that we support our own disrespect. on the other hand men are extremely insecure people, more than women. if a man catches his woman doing the same thing he will hide his insecurity under the banner of ghairat, nang o namoos and make it a huge deal. he will even label his own wife as besharama, be haya for eying another man. also, labeling it with against our traditional values is also popular... when a man can't tolerate it why is preached that a woman should tolerate it. it is too much to ask from our partners to respect us... i don't think so...

[eyeliner]

feroza thats so true, i've also noticed that some elder women criticise people when they expect their husband to listen to them and be like why is she trying to be the man in the relationship, i think that our older generations really need to accept that everything should be within reason.

[*Mahzala*]

^thank you Jasmine This is a serious issue that women face with their partner... i wasn't intending to make a foolish topic or to have it passed by like this issue doesn't exist. if we don't stand up for ourselves, others won't either. i personally believe that the fact that alot of women think it is OK is also something preached by men. we are instilled with this belief that a girl is "cool" if she doesn't make an issue of her partner staring at other girls and fantasizing about them... well the guy is committed to her which is why he is with her anyways. so why make a big deal out of it. 'be chill, be cool, stop overreacting, i only complemented her legs its not like i went and slept with her'... this is what most women hear on tv, read in magazine, and watch in movies so that we support our own disrespect. on the other hand men are extremely insecure people, more than women. if a man catches his woman doing the same thing he will hide his insecurity under the banner of ghairat, nang o namoos and make it a huge deal. he will even label his own wife as besharama, be haya for eying another man. also, labeling it with against our traditional values is also popular... when a man can't tolerate it why is preached that a woman should tolerate it. it is too much to ask from our partners to respect us... i don't think so...

You haven't wasted a word Big Sis. A lesson learnt, definitely

[IamDZJ]

A person going out of their way to make you feel worthless and being insensitive to your feelings is a jerk who needs to be slapped in the mouth. Be that husband wife or some stranger.

[Master Khan]

oh stop waining!!

[toor-pekai]

i might if he comments something like "oh she got such sexy legs,,, hmmm wow!, look at her lips they are so lucious"there are men who actually do that. it will be a surprise that u won't be offended for such a comment. anyways, i intended to make th topic ambiguous because i wanted to know what girls here will say. and what is everyone's level of tolerance. if i were clear cut from beginning about what kind of comments i am refering to there would hav been no chance for debate.

Hunny that is the limit the guy can reach and personally he would be out the door for such a comment.
But, i want to make it clear that if such men do think like that then why would he share it openly? 99 % of the time it will be in his head...and you can't stop that.
So, my point is that of course no woman appreciates a man for such an activity. If the man respects his wife and understands and implies the duty of a husband, then such rude behaviors won't have to be worried about from the beginning.

Mayana, thanks for making a clear cut point. You sure know how to put your thoughts into words!!

[Mayana]

^thank you Jasmine This is a serious issue that women face with their partner... i wasn't intending to make a foolish topic or to have it passed by like this issue doesn't exist. if we don't stand up for ourselves, others won't either. i personally believe that the fact that alot of women think it is OK is also something preached by men. we are instilled with this belief that a girl is "cool" if she doesn't make an issue of her partner staring at other girls and fantasizing about them... well the guy is committed to her which is why he is with her anyways. so why make a big deal out of it. 'be chill, be cool, stop overreacting, i only complemented her legs its not like i went and slept with her'... this is what most women hear on tv, read in magazine, and watch in movies so that we support our own disrespect. on the other hand men are extremely insecure people, more than women. if a man catches his woman doing the same thing he will hide his insecurity under the banner of ghairat, nang o namoos and make it a huge deal. he will even label his own wife as besharama, be haya for eying another man. also, labeling it with against our traditional values is also popular... when a man can't tolerate it why is preached that a woman should tolerate it. it is too much to ask from our partners to respect us... i don't think so...

LOL ka ye darishtiya doghonda Nang au Namoos au Ghairat darlodlay, daghasi Karoona ba ye nakawalai. Chi Sarray daghasi Chamoona kayi, da dagha maana larih chi tsok ye tolo noro Insaanaano ta daghasi Karoona oor zda kayi. Chi oos masalan daghasi beadabi da Naarinawoo Adat yih, da hogho Shazo au Kochiniaano ham Adat kijhi chi da daghasi Narinaao sara Zhwand kayih.
Oos ka Insaan doghonda 'insecure' yi pa Estela.. chi pakhpala yao Shay kayi au Nasihat da bal shi kayih, hagha kho bekhi ghata beghairati da..
Chi Sarray haghasi yao kar kayih chi.. ka ye maineh hagha kar kawalay, da ba zay pa zay talaqa karreh way... no hagha kho ham yao munafeq suh, awo..?

[Feroza_Banu]

Hunny

loll!

that is the limit the guy can reach and personally he would be out the door for such a comment.
But, i want to make it clear that if such men do think like that then why would he share it openly? 99 % of the time it will be in his head...and you can't stop that.
So, my point is that of course no woman appreciates a man for such an activity. If the man respects his wife and understands and implies the duty of a husband, then such rude behaviors won't have to be worried about from the beginning.

Mayana, thanks for making a clear cut point. You sure know how to put your thoughts into words!!

[/quote]if "no woman appreciates a man for such an activity"... then women shouldn't make it seem like it is ok either!

[toor-pekai]

Why did you giggle @ hunny....

if "no woman appreciates a man for such an activity"... then women shouldn't make it seem like it is ok either!

Then, if u ever catch a woman doing that... knock some sense into her brain or just give me a shout and i will let her know.

Those woman that think it is alright, well they do the same. So, they want a fair game.

[Feroza_Banu]

LOL ka ye darishtiya doghonda Nang au Namoos au Ghairat darlodlay, daghasi Karoona ba ye nakawalai. Chi Sarray daghasi Chamoona kayi, da dagha maana larih chi tsok ye tolo noro Insaanaano ta daghasi Karoona oor zda kayi. Chi oos masalan daghasi beadabi da Naarinawoo Adat yih, da hogho Shazo au Kochiniaano ham Adat kijhi chi da daghasi Narinaao sara Zhwand kayih.
Oos ka Insaan doghonda 'insecure' yi pa Estela.. chi pakhpala yao Shay kayi au Nasihat da bal shi kayih, hagha kho bekhi ghata beghairati da..
Chi Sarray haghasi yao kar kayih chi.. ka ye maineh hagha kar kawalay, da ba zay pa zay talaqa karreh way... no hagha kho ham yao munafeq suh, awo..?

nang o namoos aw ghairat nan saba yawazi par shazo bandai practice sei... dagha ... nango namoos yawazi daa na da che sta mayna pa tso danai burqai kei pata da aw mayna dei tsanga haya lari. nang o namoos aw ghairat nareeno ta ham arra lari che da haghoi pa stergo kei tosna haya wei, haghoi tsanga zaan tsanga control kawalai sei... daghasi pa society kei shazo ta wayal keizhi che nareena che kama ghalat kaar kawei haghoi da bakhshish haqdaar wei pa de che por nareeno bandai shaitan der zor lari, aw da kho ta sha pahezhe che tsona da khabara zmuzh masharan wayee chei nareena kho nareena dei no, la haghoi tsakha muzh bayad che der umeed wanalaro? is this fair? muzh khpala nareeno ta excuse pida kawo chei haghoi laa nor ham ghalat kaar wokei... its like encouraging them to do bad because they have an excuse... and on the other hand nareena khpala dagha aadat lari che noro khalgo ta nasiat kawei aw khpala har kaar che ye khwash wei kawalai sei... aw da especially pa hagha molko kei che shazai der kamzoori dei aw pa muashira kei kum shinakht nalari der kizhi... pa de chei halta nareena zor dei por shazo bandai...

[Feroza_Banu]

You haven't wasted a word Big Sis. A lesson learnt, definitely

[Feroza_Banu]

Why did you giggle @ hunny....




Then, if u ever catch a woman doing that... knock some sense into her brain or just give me a shout and i will let her know.

Those woman that think it is alright, well they do the same. So, they want a fair game.

oh sorry i should have explained why i giggled... it just reminded me of my college days, one of my teachers used to explain to me something starting with "honey"... and that was because i was youngest of the class... now after a long time i heard this word from another female so it made me laugh u r right some women may do it too and don't mind when their men does it

[Khan]

Not a big deal, akher haghoi ham zra lari. *runs as fast as he can*

[Sheenka]

khan what about if ur wife does the same thing?? still not big deal?