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  • #1

    Treason in Friendship

    Salam,

    it´s an important topic for me right now because I make these experiences right now:

    a friend of mine was talking to a girl to get to know her better.
    Seems like she declined to get to know him after he went khastgari for her once.

    She told me to let him know what was going on. He thinks that I was communicating with her all along and flirted with her to oust him.

    Now he is talking bull**** to all my friends behind my back, that I cheat on girls, hack people´s accounts, denounce friends and stuff like that.

    Since I know that he has a certain level of mental issues, what should I do?

    My other friends are confused, too.......

    It´s an awkward situation.
    The only constant is change.
    Tags: friendship, treason
  • #2
    If the girl herself send a message to him that she does not want to continue with him,and that she has no gap shap with you. I think this way, the matter can be solved nicely.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Friend View Post
      If the girl herself send a message to him that she does not want to continue with him,and that she has no gap shap with you. I think this way, the matter can be solved nicely.
      I think she has done that already but I am not sure because I don´t know her really and don´t have any contact to her.

      The problem is that he has been rejected by many girls and he feels hurt because she avoided the communication with him and that her dad doesn´t want his family to come to propose.

      The other thing is that he truely tries to manipulate other people to turn against me.

      This is not a big deal for me because I never cared about what others think of me.....but still.

      How sad, desperate and womanish can a reject actually become?
      Last edited by MostafaM; 07-20-2012, 02:57 PM.
      The only constant is change.

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      • #4
        what is khastgari?

        What kind of a friend is this guy. you gave him the message and he is blaming the messenger. Why are you giving a mental case a message where he will go nuts.

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        • #5
          khastgari - he asked her father for her hand?

          Mostafa - if they are your FRIENDS they will trust you or won't pay attention to what an idiot says about you. If they trust him - let them go.
          That's what I do in similar situations.
          دلته دم او قدم دواړه په حساب دي - پل په لاره غلط مه ږده بې حسابه

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Yasmeenaah View Post
            khastgari - he asked her father for her hand?
            .
            If the family rejected him then why is he blaming Mostafa. He cant accept his own faults for being rejected.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by khushal View Post
              what is khastgari?

              What kind of a friend is this guy. you gave him the message and he is blaming the messenger. Why are you giving a mental case a message where he will go nuts.
              Khastgari is proposing or asking for someone´s daughter.

              Your last question is a good question.

              It´s better to stay out of certain things but I am just too naive and sometimes to clueless in these things.
              The only constant is change.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Yasmeenaah View Post
                khastgari - he asked her father for her hand?

                Mostafa - if they are your FRIENDS they will trust you or won't pay attention to what an idiot says about you. If they trust him - let them go.
                That's what I do in similar situations.
                Yes, he asked for her hand.

                Well, they aren´t really friends but people I know....acquaintences.

                Well, I guess you are right.

                Letting people go who have been hurt by rumour and fake things I have allegedly said.....I feel uncomfortable.
                The only constant is change.

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                • #9
                  Anybody who doesnt trust you, or falls for a lie without confirming it with you first, was a plastic friend to begin with. Good riddance if you ask me.

                  Id ask the girl to reach out to those in question, or just avoid all those dramabaaz as a whole.
                  Even Adobe Photoshop can't change me.

                  A line[Durrand line] of hatred that raised a wall between the two brothers -Hamid Karzai

                  For generations, the Hindus of India prayed for deliverance from "the venom of the cobra, the teeth of the tiger and the vengeance of the Afghan."


                  The men of Kábul and Khilj also went home; and whenever they were questioned about the Musulmáns of the Kohistán (the mountains), and how matters stood there, they said, "Don't call it Kohistán, but Afghánistán; for there is nothing there but Afgháns and disturbances." Thus it is clear that for this reason the people of the country call their home in their own language Afghánistán, and themselves Afgháns. The people of India call them Patán; but the reason for this is not known. But it occurs to me, that when, under the rule of Muhammadan sovereigns, Musulmáns first came to the city of Patná, and dwelt there, the people of India (for that reason) called them Patáns—but God knows!

                  -Ferishta, 1560–1620

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by khushal View Post
                    If the family rejected him then why is he blaming Mostafa. He cant accept his own faults for being rejected.
                    He thinks that I had contact to that girl just because she let me know that things are not working with him through me.
                    The only constant is change.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Mostafa1919 View Post
                      He thinks that I had contact to that girl just because she let me know that things are not working with him through me.
                      In Angreezi this is known as jealousy, and someone to point a finger at since ish didnt work out.
                      Even Adobe Photoshop can't change me.

                      A line[Durrand line] of hatred that raised a wall between the two brothers -Hamid Karzai

                      For generations, the Hindus of India prayed for deliverance from "the venom of the cobra, the teeth of the tiger and the vengeance of the Afghan."


                      The men of Kábul and Khilj also went home; and whenever they were questioned about the Musulmáns of the Kohistán (the mountains), and how matters stood there, they said, "Don't call it Kohistán, but Afghánistán; for there is nothing there but Afgháns and disturbances." Thus it is clear that for this reason the people of the country call their home in their own language Afghánistán, and themselves Afgháns. The people of India call them Patán; but the reason for this is not known. But it occurs to me, that when, under the rule of Muhammadan sovereigns, Musulmáns first came to the city of Patná, and dwelt there, the people of India (for that reason) called them Patáns—but God knows!

                      -Ferishta, 1560–1620

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                      • #12
                        We have a saying here - truth defends itself. If you haven't done anything wrong you don't to explain anything.
                        دلته دم او قدم دواړه په حساب دي - پل په لاره غلط مه ږده بې حسابه

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Yasmeenaah View Post
                          We have a saying here - truth defends itself. If you haven't done anything wrong you don't to explain anything.
                          Sounds good.

                          Taking the blame and moving on.

                          That´s what I will do.

                          But it frustrates me that people always take advantage of that.

                          And another point is:
                          the person who spreads someting first will get more attention and more people will believe him.
                          The only constant is change.

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                          • #14
                            Well first of all if you were really a friend , you wouldn't be talking about him openly here.

                            Secondly, passing messages from a girl to a guy is not only symbolic of a waste of time but also something that only females do . Nowadays the trend is that not only do men talk like females they also gossip and partake in other useless

                            Don't listen to the busy bees

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                            • #15
                              Even if Mostafa did all that, why does this guy want to marry a girl that likes someone else. That is Baighyrat.

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