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emkhan what are you implying to?? that afghans only marry off their daughter to people with dollars?? chaa ki chi saritob na wee d aghey pa dollar k hum kamal nashta.
I am no bird, and no nest ensnares me.
non commercial would cost less if he was in charge himself which he plans on doing. right now it's n herat but soon it will be in qanadahar.
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The world has changed and changing rapidly. Pukhtunwali os nishta.Originally posted by DaZahroJaam. View Postemkhan what are you implying to?? that afghans only marry off their daughter to people with dollars?? chaa ki chi saritob na wee d aghey pa dollar k hum kamal nashta.
People are highly getting influenced with materialism. They damn care about Pukhtunwali and sarritob and ghairat and jabba and so many other norms which were the main pillars of Pukhtunwali.
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perhaps where you came from. there is plenty of pashto, ghairat and pashtunwali in afghanistan. had it been a face to face argument, you would be spitting out teeth right now for assuming otherwise.Originally posted by emkhan View PostThe world has changed and changing rapidly. Pukhtunwali os nishta.
People are highly getting influenced with materialism. They damn care about Pukhtunwali and sarritob and ghairat and jabba and so many other norms which were the main pillars of Pukhtunwali.
I am no bird, and no nest ensnares me.
non commercial would cost less if he was in charge himself which he plans on doing. right now it's n herat but soon it will be in qanadahar.
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Gone are the days when people used to talk about ghairat and naamoos. these are vanished just because of greed and materialism.Originally posted by DaZahroJaam. View Postperhaps where you came from. there is plenty of pashto, ghairat and pashtunwali in afghanistan. had it been a face to face argument, you would be spitting out teeth right now for assuming otherwise.
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Originally posted by Adamyousafzai
Good.
It's not easy being married in Afghanistan.
Afghans new engaged sustain financial losses
to satisfy their fiancés
Some new engaged youth look angry on the Eid threshold because they can’t afford to
provide Eid gifts to their fiancés.
Taking Eid gifts to the engaged girls is part of Afghans’ traditions.
This old tradition still remains among different ethnicities in Afghanistan and the girls’ and
their families ask their fiancés to provide gold rings, earrings, expensive clothes and sweets as
the Eid gifts, ignoring the low level of their economic condition.
A Kabul citizen Mohammad Aref who is engaged to a girl for two years, called the tradition as
a superstition which opposes Islamic regulations.
“I am unable to provide golden ware and expensive goods to my fiancée, so I have to borrow
money for this purpose which makes another problem to return it,” he told Wakht News
Agency.
“My wife has to sell her jewelries to return the loan which creates a new problem in our
common life.”
He says that a flower bouquet can be the best gift in Eid and people should avoid lots of
expenditures.
Fawad another young man who is engaged to a girl for three years said: “I am pleased to take a
sheep as an Eid gift to my fiancée, but unfortunately, I can’t afford it considering my lower
income and a nine-member family.
The girls oppose the mentioned view and say Eid gift is a good tradition and should be
observed.
Sana a sophomore at journalism faculty of Kabul University is engaged to a man, emphasizes
on the Eid gifts observation.
“My fiancé brings me new clothes, jewelries, henna and a sheep for “Qorbani” (an Islamic
tradition in which people slaughter sheep, bulls or camels calling sacrifice for God),” she told
Wakht News Agency.
She believes that it is not a problem only for the men, but the girls’ families have to provide
some gifts for their new sons-in-law.
“My family takes new costumes, shoes and sweet to my fiancé,” she said.
Faisal an employee of a foreign organization said that though taking Eid gifts is a good
tradition, but we should pay attention to our economic situation.
“I ask the elders of the families not to compel their poor sons-in-law to borrowing money for
their daughters’ Eid gifts,” he explained his mind in an interview with Wakht News Agency.
“It is very important and the families to be careful of their daughters’ common life in the future
because it is a delicate matter possibly follows family tensions even divorcement,” he said.
But, Bibi Gul an aged woman who was buying Eid gifts for her son’s fiancée, said that she is in
a good economic situation and can even take a camel to her future bride instead of a sheep.
Rajab Ali a jobless criticized the so-called “Afghan tradition” and said he has to spend extra
money to provide Eid gift to his brother’s fiancé.
“I am obliged to do this, otherwise his in laws disgrace him and even threaten for the
cancellation of their engagement,” he chatted to Wakht News Agency.
Abdul Zaher Daei lecturer in theologies faculty at the Kabul University said the Eid gift is
only an Afghan tradition, not an Islamic one.
He went on to say that Islam forbids improvidence and those who pressure on someone to do
something he disagrees with, are sinners.
Afghans new engaged sustain financial losses to satisfy their fiancés
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To advise others is an easy matter, the difficulty is accepting advice -- since it is bitter for those who follow their
own inclinations and desires.
-Imam al Ghazali
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eh
pathetic. 3rd world simpletons facing 1st world problems in debt.
i would send all these mother in laws to prison for a week.There are people today who think that admitting God’s absolute greatness decreases the value and importance of humans in the creation, as if God and mankind are rivals competing in greatness and power. Meanwhile I feel that whenever our perception of God’s greatness increases, with it we become greater, because we are the creation of a great God.
Sayyid Qutb
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