To marry in Afghanistan?

[emkhan]

Unlike your Taliban heros who forced parents in Swat to give their daughters to Arabs and Uzbeks.

This culture of using the women for status and currency needs to come to an end, so does this three wives to one man as well.

Pashtun society needs to allow the women to decide her own choice.

Look at this secularist's thoughts. If anyone does not know who is secular and what is secularism, he should read this man's posts. A clear reflection of the denial of God's word.

[emkhan]

Its a good idea to marry in Afghanistan but you should know the people good and the girl should not be forced to marry someone just her parents are money-mad.

According to DaZahrojam, "You are rejected five times" LOL.
I think its better to marry in your own people. You can't trust on anyone you don't know.

[Gulalai]

so a "friend" huh?

[Soldat_Amir]

Look at this secularist's thoughts. If anyone does not know who is secular and what is secularism, he should read this man's posts. A clear reflection of the denial of God's word.

LOL!

Ohhhhh Yes I am the evil secularist who wants Pashtun women free from Emkhan like people! please do find the closet toilet and blow your suicide vest!

Maybe you will find a suitable wife in the afterlife where you belong.

[Soldat_Amir]

According to DaZahrojam, "You are rejected five times" LOL.
I think its better to marry in your own people. You can't trust on anyone you don't know.

Astafrullah Arkhi, are you saying that you should stick your own people and divide the Ummah. How dare you, are you sure your not a Nationalist trying to insult the Musulmeen!

How can you say its better to marry in your "own people"!

Thats Haraam man! you will burn in hell, as gods divine law states that all people are equal!

Toba toba toba toba! booot boot Sharam hay!

[emkhan]

so a "friend" huh?

No, in relatives or or according to the wishes of your parents and family.

[emkhan]

LOL!

Ohhhhh Yes I am the evil secularist who wants Pashtun women free from Emkhan like people! please do find the closet toilet and blow your suicide vest!

Maybe you will find a suitable wife in the afterlife where you belong.

talibano der yarawalay ye kha. der ma yarega marra. zrra ghatt saata. ao daa wekhta de cut ka. da jinako pa shan sarray de prekhodey da.

[emkhan]

Astafrullah Arkhi, are you saying that you should stick your own people and divide the Ummah. How dare you, are you sure your not a Nationalist trying to insult the Musulmeen!

How can you say its better to marry in your "own people"!

Thats Haraam man! you will burn in hell, as gods divine law states that all people are equal!

Toba toba toba toba! booot boot Sharam hay!

secularisto da kaley na da mazhab pa jaba ke khabarey shoro kre ?
der munafiq ye. daa wekhta kho de awal cut kana. che maa ta pata walagi che za da yo zwan sara khabare kom. bya ba khabare kao.

[Soldat_Amir]

emkhana, day joon werzawalay na awal khpalla maray peera wakhra, chay dairna pootay nashi, raizi peera wukhla....aow che kala day waray baitay jooray shi bya day mu day spiyoonay pura ow day peera myasht maray tayura shi... zer ka... chay kala day mullah umer ta khabar warasi bya ow dai pui shi chay day tusay zwand day spi khwarook na zyutai nadai..

[Manzareh]

There is nothing to worry about really since both sides are pashtuns. If the guy and his family are honourable people, I am sure it won't matter if he is from KP. The truth is most pashtuns marry within their own tribe so even if he is rejected, he must try again. Some times the girl's family reject you because they want to see how much you really want the girl. As most have said, don't give up after first rejection. Its a standard procedure. Just be respectful and don't do anything behind her family's back, things might turn sour. Just be straight and honest and hope for the best. I am sure if he deserves her, he will get her.

how does that make sence? all the pashtuns i know have immense pride even if they are dying of starvation they wont ever beg for food let alone a woman or people that are rejecting him, and whats worse the afghan guys go bak upto 5 times after getting dissed. why all the games. seems propa backwards.

[Admin Khan]

how does that make sence? all the pashtuns i know have immense pride even if they are dying of starvation they wont ever beg for food let alone a woman or people that are rejecting him, and whats worse the afghan guys go bak upto 5 times after getting dissed. why all the games. seems propa backwards.

Pashtun/Afghan guys don't visit the house. Who the hell said that? It's usually the women, likely elders, that show persistence and get the job done. Being rejected for the women is normal, and by consistently showing interest, the family realizes they are serious about this proposal. Also, they have to perform research on the family. No one would just allow you to marry his/her daughter without conducting a proper background check.

[Manzareh]

Unlike your Taliban heros who forced parents in Swat to give their daughters to Arabs and Uzbeks.

This culture of using the women for status and currency needs to come to an end, so does this three wives to one man as well.

Pashtun society needs to allow the women to decide her own choice.

why are you always argueing. take that hair grip out your plat and let ya hair out mate, relaxio sometimes. maazgha har wakht khreh

[Manzareh]

Pashtun/Afghan guys don't visit the house. Who the hell said that? It's usually the women, likely elders, that show persistence and get the job done.

yeh ovcourse i new that. it was a error, i meant the family visiting and gettin dissed.

[Laila]

At times, the girl's family finds it quite disrespectful when they guy's family goes directly to her father's house. Usually, its best to visit the grandfather or elder uncles and see if the girls family may have an interest in potential suitors.

A girl's family rejecting the guy the first couple of times, is very normal and this is from personal experience. Afghan families dont like to give their daughters away that quickly to any random Joe. It even happens amongst the family. Its not really dissing the guy or anything, its just it takes a while for a family to wholeheartedly accept it.

[Toramana]

Sorry, probably, it was not appropriate posting this thread...

I told the gentleman why are you presuming you would be rejected...

Anyhow, in Pukhtunkhwa side, it has become very simple---If you are an educated person from a good family (respected socially) preferrably employed, someone is going to find you out (girl family interested in you may make indirect offer through relatives usually women)---Alterantively, if you are a good nice girl preferrably educated now a days, there would be droves of good families seeking you out for their boys---The approach is direct to the immediate parents although consent of uncles etc. is also sought (considered good)...

Don't know may be I am making it too simplistic...but this is what is my observation...

In Pukhtunkhwa, I don't think they say "no" outrightly---when approached the first time, they say, "we'll think about it" and "give us some time" ---"monga ba thaso tha jawab darko chai khplao kai moslath okoo" etc. etc. etc. ultimately, after collecting info about you and liking you, they may tell you "rashai..." otherwise they'll send a regret message saying "yara thaso dair kha khalak yayai, zamong khwakh yayai, kho da mashoma mo bal cha tha waila da,---aow ya oos sabak wayi, sabak chai pora ki no bya ba yai da wada soch kawooo" ...

Anyhow, these are complicated matters----