Pashtun wedding traditions

[Sheenka]

we do the same and there was a lady she was saying its haram to do that :P holding the Quran on top of the head

[Dreamer]

None really.... we just dance... Dont see the point of all these wedding events... a simple registry office function would suffice

[Dreamer]

we do the same and there was a lady she was saying its haram to do that :P holding the Quran on top of the head

In a sence shes right as its not prophetic practice and therefore bidda

[Sheenka]

she was calling us bidyan lolz

well, we also have dance and fun obviously, whether its girl or boy, we dont treat it differently

[Dreamer]

she was calling us bidyan lolz

well, we also have dance and fun obviously, whether its girl or boy, we dont treat it differently

Innovation is correct for putting quran over a head.... what purpose does it serve? The prophet did not marry his wives like that nor did he marry his daughters off like that

[Sheenka]

dreamer yh u r right
its kind of cultural than islamic, and the purpose i doing is that, like allah is with them and allah will protect her, i guess thats why they do that

[Dreamer]

No prophetic precedence... Allah is closer 2 u than ur jugular vein.... u dont need a book 2 gain Gods protection....

[Feroza_Banu]

Traditionally there are many wedding rituals for pashtoons... and it differs from tribe to tribe and from village to village...

here is a short summary of kandahari wedding...

starts about 2 to 3 days prior to wedding when the bride's hair is braided more like how africans do to ther hair... all women sit together and braid her hair, some play the "darya" duff and sing traditional songs for this particular event... my mom usually sings this song whenever she talks about this event but i just can't remember it right now.

a day prior to the wedding they do the nukrezi shpa... the bride's hands and feet are decorated with henna... they usually use a little piece of wood or warlageet to decorate her hands.

the wedding day the bride wears green color ... once her make up is done and she is ready... she is asked to hide her face in her palm or she is handed a dismaal to hold it in the palm of her hands and hide her face. she sits there with her face hidden until nikkah is done and the first person who comes to see her is the groom. the groom comes inside the women's area and the bride removes her hands from her face and shows him her face... lol...

once nikkah is done and bride and groom has seen each other , the relatives (men) start shooting in the air... (this part is scary , i have been there haha).

lunch/dinner is served... men gather outside and do attan and women gather inside and do attanh...

when its time to leave the bride is covered with a big shawl and upon her departure a baboo laalai song is sung by ladies... "osh walarr zangoon tarallai, osh wallarr................."

and she leaves!...

[Dreamer]

Want a nice simple registry office event

[Sheenka]

thats interesting feroza khori are u kandahari?

i never knew that bride hides her face from other ppl and then shows her face to groom :P

[Sheenka]

Want a nice simple registry office event

why do u like that?

[Dreamer]

Its simple... The only fard aspects of Islamic marriages are
1 Nikkah performed by any muslim male... no mullahs are needed
2 A dinner for guests which can be simple....
3 mahar for the bride and signing of contracts....
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[Feroza_Banu]

thats interesting feroza khori are u kandahari?

i never knew that bride hides her face from other ppl and then shows her face to groom :P

yes... i am half kandahari...

most of the tribes in pashtons have this tradition of hiding bride's face. i think its extremely cute

[Sheenka]

feroza sis did u hide ur face from angaar lala?

[Sheenka]

Its simple... The only fard aspects of Islamic marriages are
1 Nikkah performed by any muslim male... no mullahs are needed
2 A dinner for guests which can be simple....
3 mahar for the bride and signing of contracts....
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u made it so easy, i would never go to wedding like urs