KP slaps ban on dowry

[Samandri]

K-P slaps ban on dowry - The Express Tribune

[Nekrofrost]

Pretty good thing imo. What i find funny is that my cousin in gonna get married around the end of this month so it came just in time for his wedding.

[Shapur]

This might impact non Pashtuns but in Pashtun culture the groom already bears most of the expenses and even has to give "Walwar" to bride's family.
Among Indics the bride side has to give "Jahaiz" e.g dowry.
I noticed the Jahaiz culture is pretty common among "kharians" but not other pukhtuns.

[Elite Pakhtun]

Why does this need to be banned? Who cares? People are free to do what they want...

[Samandri]

This might impact non Pashtuns but in Pashtun culture the groom already bears most of the expenses and even has to give "Walwar" to bride's family.
Among Indics the bride side has to give "Jahaiz" e.g dowry.
I noticed the Jahaiz culture is pretty common among "kharians" but not other pukhtuns.

That indeed is the case....but desification of KP is rampant and large number of Jahaiz cases have emerged in recent decade.....nip the evil in the bud

Those who have no idea what Jahaiz culture is, should have a glance at Punjab

[Traveller]

That indeed is the case....but desification of KP is rampant and large number of Jahaiz cases have emerged in recent decade.....nip the evil in the bud

Those who have no idea what Jahaiz culture is, should have a glance at Punjab

Densification is that bad? I hope Pashtun culture isn't at risk of dying.

And if it is that bad then how do we counter it?

[kunatawar]

Densification is that bad? I hope Pashtun culture isn't at risk of dying.

And if it is that bad then how do we counter it?

i mentioned this before but its very bad, especially in peshawar, you can just search up some videos on youtube to see how bad their pashto is

[Traveller]

i mentioned this before but its very bad, especially in peshawar, you can just search up some videos on youtube to see how bad their pashto is

I've seen that among the educated class you often find people that literally say "achha" at the end of every word and fill their speech with Urdu and English. It's so cringy and I want to slap them when I hear it. These fools grew up in Pakhtunkhwa and aren't speaking proper Pashto while I grew up in the west and had to work to keep my pukhto. The best solution to this is to make Pashto official in KPK and put it in schools. Thankfully Afghans are keeping proper pashto alive otherwise I would be very worried.

But I don't think it is as bad among the lower classes.

[Charsi Malang]

I've seen that among the educated class you often find people that literally say "achha" at the end of every word and fill their speech with Urdu and English. It's so cringy and I want to slap them when I hear it. These fools grew up in Pakhtunkhwa and aren't speaking proper Pashto while I grew up in the west and had to work to keep my pukhto. The best solution to this is to make Pashto official in KPK and put it in schools. Thankfully Afghans are keeping proper pashto alive otherwise I would be very worried.

But I don't think it is as bad among the lower classes.

Spot on mate. The Pashto they are speaking nowadays is a mix of Pashto/Hindi/Urdu and English. I have found that this has gotten worse over the past 15 years. A lot of the younger people that I have come across when they come to our house from back home are more comfortable with Urdu. Another phenomenon is this- whenever someone from Pakistan is conversing with you and the to religion, they inedeatelg switch to Urdu. Is this some kind of psychological thing?

I really think Pashto especially amongst educated people is heavily diluted. There's nothing wrong with speaking other languages but if you speak a certain language you shouldn't mix it with another.

[kunatawar]

Spot on mate. The Pashto they are speaking nowadays is a mix of Pashto/Hindi/Urdu and English. I have found that this has gotten worse over the past 15 years. A lot of the younger people that I have come across when they come to our house from back home are more comfortable with Urdu. Another phenomenon is this- whenever someone from Pakistan is conversing with you and the to religion, they inedeatelg switch to Urdu. Is this some kind of psychological thing?

I really think Pashto especially amongst educated people is heavily diluted. There's nothing wrong with speaking other languages but if you speak a certain language you shouldn't mix it with another.

it has gotten considerably worse only in the past ten years, the god awful "kyun ke" for example was something id never heard until recently. Whats really sad is that a couple of families i know from peshawar whose kids grew up in the west speak better pashto than the average peshawari youth since their kids speak it like their parents did when growing up and haven't been influenced by pakistani culture or schooling.

and i think u made some typos about the religion thing i didnt get what you were saying

[Charsi Malang]

it has gotten considerably worse only in the past ten years, the god awful "kyun ke" for example was something id never heard until recently. Whats really sad is that a couple of families i know from peshawar whose kids grew up in the west speak better pashto than the average peshawari youth since their kids speak it like their parents did when growing up and haven't been influenced by pakistani culture or schooling.

and i think u made some typos about the religion thing i didnt get what you were saying

Sorry brother. It's hard typing on my phone.

I have found that a lot of people from Pakistan would speak to you normally in Pashto about general things, but when the conversation turns to religion they start speaking in Urdu and quoting things in Urdu. Just couldn't figure out why this is. I was wondering if this is some psychological thing.

[Charsi Malang]

it has gotten considerably worse only in the past ten years, the god awful "kyun ke" for example was something id never heard until recently. Whats really sad is that a couple of families i know from peshawar whose kids grew up in the west speak better pashto than the average peshawari youth since their kids speak it like their parents did when growing up and haven't been influenced by pakistani culture or schooling.

and i think u made some typos about the religion thing i didnt get what you were saying

You'll find that along with style of speaking, clothing,also with Pashtuns families in the West would be more like the older generation as opposed to the new style of language and clothing we see nowadays. Pashtun society back home has become closer to Indian culture whereas the Pashtun culture that has been taught to kids growing up in the West especially of my generation (I'm almost 40) is that of what our parents had. So it is has less of an influence of Indian culture.

The kind of khat partoog, kerray, and headgear that I saw my dad wearing daily is hardly worn anymore back home. Fewer people wear kerray back home- they wear ugly cheap sandals. They wear multicoloured, fancy designed khat partoog you see in Indian shops here in the West. Their language is a mish mash of what it used to be. If I wear what I have seen my father and uncles wearing now, I will be looked at as "backwards", or a "badmaash".

Pashtun culture in Pakistan is a mere shadow of what it was 20 years ago when I used to visit, and I think it is on the decline. Unfortunately all cultures change over time, and generally when there is more than one culture going on, the societies which are economically less advanced will gravitate towards the more affluent ones.

[Elite Pakhtun]

I have found that a lot of people from Pakistan would speak to you normally in Pashto about general things, but when the conversation turns to religion they start speaking in Urdu and quoting things in Urdu. Just couldn't figure out why this is. I was wondering if this is some psychological thing.

Just a guess, but when I lived in Pak, Islamiat was in Urdu until class/grade 9. In grade 9 you typically had to decide between Matric/FSC or O/A Levels. If you do the former, it stays in Urdu (in fact, I've heard in KPK Islamiat is in Arabic), and if you do the latter, it's in English.

They probably just learned some parts in Urdu, and are quoting their class text they memorized by rote (i.e. ratta) for a test they gave last week.

P.S. English bois, yes, we call it O levels and A levels. I don't care that you call it GCSEs or whatever you call it... that's what we call it. It's a lot harder than yours, even though the same university marks it. From what I hear, Singapore has the toughest O level and A level curriculum and exams. STFU about GCSE, it's O levels and A levels.

[Samandri]

The influence of Urdu and English has always been there since incorporation into British empire , i was talking about some thing else........the morals, principles or conduct of Pashtuns is on decline even though they are more observant of religious rituals (prayers, fastings etc) than ever, while at the same time retaining their stereotypical negatives.....and they are absorbing additional vices and cultural influences from mainstream Pakistan with rapid "integration".....even the crimes which were unthinkable in Pashtun society and were rampant in Indian world, are committed by Pashtun with higher rates nowadays.

As highly proud Pakistani can not be a proud Pashtun....so a very highly proud Pakistani of Pashtun background is extremely criminal towards his/her mother tongue....counting numbers in Urdu is one thing but denying mother tongue to your progeny is some thing which doesnt make any sense to any sane human being......and yet i have come across numerous families which were not just trying their best that their kids doesnt behave like Pashtuns, they were also trying that their kids learn Urdu instead of Pashto.......as the Pashtun parents (both husband and wife) were not good in English so they were instead forcing their kids to learn Urdu. Its mostly the case with those Pashtun families who live in Islamabad, Karachi etc but can also be observed in KP (particularly Fauji families)

A Pashtun nationalist speak pure Pashto and has memorized Pashto couplets , is getting desified in another manner.......his politics tactics, his duplicity and his corruption methods are patterned on the lines of Indic society. He appears more of a **** because he talks big and shout Pashtun all the time but his conduct is pathetic (empty vassals make louder sounds).....Sarritob and musalmani is "Pashto" , not wearing red caps

[kunatawar]

The influence of Urdu and English has always been there since incorporation into British empire , i was talking about some thing else........the morals, principles or conduct of Pashtuns is on decline even though they are more observant of religious rituals (prayers, fastings etc) than ever, while at the same time retaining their stereotypical negatives.....and they are absorbing additional vices and cultural influences from mainstream Pakistan with rapid "integration".....even the crimes which were unthinkable in Pashtun society and were rampant in Indian world, are committed by Pashtun with higher rates nowadays.

As highly proud Pakistani can not be a proud Pashtun....so a very highly proud Pakistani of Pashtun background is extremely criminal towards his/her mother tongue....counting numbers in Urdu is one thing but denying mother tongue to your progeny is some thing which doesnt make any sense to any sane human being......and yet i have come across numerous families which were not just trying their best that their kids doesnt behave like Pashtuns, they were also trying that their kids learn Urdu instead of Pashto.......as the Pashtun parents (both husband and wife) were not good in English so they were instead forcing their kids to learn Urdu. Its mostly the case with those Pashtun families who live in Islamabad, Karachi etc but can also be observed in KP (particularly Fauji families)

A Pashtun nationalist speak pure Pashto and has memorized Pashto couplets , is getting desified in another manner.......his politics tactics, his duplicity and his corruption methods are patterned on the lines of Indic society. He appears more of a **** because he talks big and shout Pashtun all the time but his conduct is pathetic (empty vassals make louder sounds).....Sarritob and musalmani is "Pashto" , not wearing red caps

you're right that the influence has been there for a while now for example i was watching that interview of hamza shinwari and he even says that he started out in urdu... but you must admit that it has gotten much worse and the process has been speeding up for the last 10 - 20 years.

one thing to note though (and you will have noticed this too) is that the narrative of pakistani pashtuns online is completely dominated by the ones who grew up in islamabad or lahore, karachi etc. since its much more likely that they would be on an online forum writing in english than some villager in dir... so the perception of how anti-pashtun most paki pathans are is actually skewed online since majority of them are from the eastern cities, many having never visited a kalay in their lives and speak more urdu throughout the day (if they even know pashto) so its no surprise then that online most paki pashtuns are all about pakistan as thats the only identity alot of them relate to