Engagement/Marriage at a young age, why?

[Pisho]

congrats MK

[Breshna]

All our men get engaged...by 27 to 33.

Girls 17 to..20.

I was 18 my Fiance was..28.

[Pisho]

Wow ^ thats a big gap.. My parents were the same..

[Breshna]

^I prefer the..Gap.

Hes mature well..established.

Patient Kind...Understands me.

Mashallah.

Gap is..good.

[Pisho]

How old r u now? Dont mind me asking..
Well good for you.. I think.. If people try at maintaining relationship it will always work out.. Everyone just have to do their part
I saw some survey type thing along time ago.. It said something like that that relationships with gap of 10 years or around that are more likely to work out.. But its a survey that was done in us

[Breshna]

20 now.

I didn't know about the..survey.

Interesting Article..though.

I think Marriage takes...a lot of

hard work for it to...work.

[pashtanajan]

I don't really care for marriage, mind you I'm not ugly or unattractive, but it's not a priority in my life. I want to do many things before I get married, and I want to be well-established, so I'm guessing around my late 20s or 30s I'll be ready for marriage.

[Afghanistan2010]

All our men get engaged...by 27 to 33.

Girls 17 to..20.

I was 18 my Fiance was..28.

In our tribe more than 5 years is a no go...but sometimes it happens..it is really rare.

[Breshna]

In our tribe more than 5 years is a no go...but sometimes it happens..it is really rare.

In ours 7 to 13 years...difference.

Its a good..thing.

As for girls if she goes..past

22 in our families People start...talking.

Whats her Parents..doing?

Why are they not getting her..engaged?

Shes getting...old?

[Pisho]

Thats total bull**** but its true even where we live gossips go around if some (girls) are in their 20s and not married or engaged :/
I think for women we should get married at mid to late 20s now 30s is pushing it but we should have all or most of our schooling done have a good career then its ok.. Because for me if i get married and not finish my school and have no career that will probably put me in a lifelong depression mode..

[Breshna]

Thats total bull**** but its true even where we live gossips go around if some (girls) are in their 20s and not married or engaged :/
I think for women we should get married at mid to late 20s now 30s is pushing it but we should have all or most of our schooling done have a good career then its ok.. Because for me if i get married and not finish my school and have no career that will probably put me in a lifelong depression mode..

Try saying that in Southern...Pashtuns.

People start talking when your only...15.

I know from my own...experience.

I know the things they..say.

When i got engaged the..relief

on their...faces.

Nothing has changed back..home .

If you say oh a girl is..25.

Watch the women's mouth..drop.

Oh shes too old..now.

Watch them make..excuses

and exit the...house.

Its stupid but its...reality.

[Pisho]

Lol im from the deerest south.. And everytime i talk to my cuzins male or female they keep asking when im getting married lol
These are some of the disadvantages of arranged marriage.. Its a good thing but people are tooo screwed up in the head now a days..

[Breshna]

^There you already...know.

• Afghanistan: 18 for males and 16 for females, more than half of marriages involve females under 16.

Child brides is..pure cruelty.

I find it..disgusting.

I have seen 72 year...old's

marry 15 year..old girls.

[Tjanaparh]

I think it is good when people marry early. Surely not to early.
In my faith there is a general guideline of a girl normaly should have her first child untill 25 years and a man untill 35.
In my eyes the newer generations and specially in Europe mature much later than the younger ones. It wouldn't be a problem if the body would also mature with less speed, but it doesn't.
For me I see normal marriage from the age of 16. And I think it is right to mary young , as at least You will be able to help Your children when they grow up.
I feel for example tat I married old with 27. I always wanted to marry much younger, and in my minset and ideas on family few has changed from 16 years. Sure I got experience, but all these years a family was always the main I was missing.
Marriage is a serious thing but unfortunately modern education lacks to give a right approach to the children, as in East as in West I think.
That has different negative problems. As to me, if I married at least 5 years ago I wouldn't have to care as long for my children and at least at an age og 45 the first children would be big enough.

[Afghanistan2010]

The best time to marry is between 19 and 25...for both of the partners.