Marriage to non-Pashtuns

[Azmaray]

If a person is intelligent, well mannered and understanding, then I really don't understand why him being a Tajik or a Hazara or a Punjabi be a problem. For some Afghan Pashtuns even a Pakistani Pashtun is a alien, no wonder we fail to seek understanding.

wowwwwwwwwwwwww yo sister , u dont want us to get mad or anythinng
NO PANJABI
else u want me














I JOKE
sorry but i dont lik it when i hear an afghan girl want to marry some one not afg or speacily panjabi or black idk why
ps : im not being RACIST .

[Laila]

My father would kill me if i ever wanted to marry someone non-Afghan.

[ScimitarXEdge]

I think it's ok to marry non-Pashtun and non-Afghan but within limits

firstly a Born Muslim woman should ideally marry marry someone born Muslim, not a convert, and by born Muslim , they should come from a society or culture which has had Islamic Principles thoroughly integrated in their society. This produces most well balanced conditions

So if a woman marries a Panjabi, or Tajik or Uzbak, no big deal. Pashtuns are of many different origins. I'm a Ghaljay so I'm of Saka and Turkish origin. where as Durranis maybe from Hepthalite origins and people from Swat are Gandharans, who are related with Punjabis anyways. What counts is their culture is integrated with Islam.

However even then it is better women marry within their culture; Men usually carry a stronger personality so their identity carries more resolutely because even in a modern society feminine traits are softer and more delicate so women view males as Protectors and Administrators; therefore administration will be based on his identity. If males marry converts or Muslimat of other societies it doesn't have as much potential for adverse impact.

My mom is arabic and dad is Pashtun as many of you know, many people in my family , both men and women are married to Albanians, Turkish, Kurdish, Indians, Yemenis, Syrians, Lebanese, Egyptians, Palestinians, Saudis etc etc. Even one of my cousins is married to a Circassian lady. The key however is that they all held the same standards and values as Pashtuns.

[Prince_Pukhtun]

no...i want to keep my language on...i want to keep my culture... i want a wife that speaks pashto...

im apparantly supposed to marry a sayyid too though but finding another sayyid pukhtun is rare as a blue moon... and i dont belive in intermarriages so...

and no im not shia as its always the first thing people ask me when they find out im sayyid lol

[Laila]

no...i want to keep my language on...i want to keep my culture... i want a wife that speaks pashto...

im apparantly supposed to marry a sayyid too though but finding another sayyid pukhtun is rare as a blue moon... and i dont belive in intermarriages so...

and no im not shia as its always the first thing people ask me when they find out im sayyid lol

Look for Sayyids in Kunar, Laghman, and Peshawar, they are Pashto speaking.

[Prince_Pukhtun]

there are alot of them in ismaila,swabi where my father is from but theres also the fear of potential cousin happening there haha

im staying clear of peshawerites

only swabiwal,swatians or afghani pukhtuns :P


also i know i will carry the blood line but...is it bad if i dont marry another sayyid? i have always wondered that...

because aslong as they are pukhtun i dont care

[Laila]

LOL @ fear of potential cousins

Swatis are beautiful.......go across the horizon and see if the grass is truly greener on the other side

If i personally knew you, i have a lot of beautiful Kunari and Laghmani cousins to recommend, but then that would be weird, especially through the net

[Prince_Pukhtun]

yeah it would be like the pukhto version of shaadi.com

qwaidun.com lol...

yeah i know that...have made it clear to my fam aswell...haha only afghani pukhtuns,swatians or swabiwals haha

and my uncle is married to a kabulay woman

so were more than cool with it haha...gdlukn offspring too haha

[retro]

My father would kill me if i ever wanted to marry someone non-Afghan.

Whilst no small part of Afghan societies problem is that it holds it's women back to the point of undermining it's development. I appove of your father. As when women are left to their own devices, they invariably start to do the wrong things.

[Gulbabo]

^lol... say wha?

[ScimitarXEdge]

he's saying that although some aspects of afghan society over do things when it comes to restricting participation of women in society; and thus it adversely affects society

on the flipside if women were left to make their own choices independently they generally make the wrong ones.

[faye]

any proof that women make wrong choices more than men, oh resident sexist

[ScimitarXEdge]

look at Yaggi's signature, case closed.

[Shayesta]

^ Indeed Scimitar, look at Yaggi's (by now deleted) signature.

[ScimitarXEdge]

well his signature is/was an example that women generally make bad decisions when unguided by proper influence.