Books/Articles on Women in Pashtunwali & Islam's Role in it

[Roshina]

Hey, guys!

I'm writing a research paper that highlights the status of women in Pashtunwali.... If anyone can please recommend to me some books, articles, or other texts that discuss women in Pashtunwali -- preferably with regards to the concept of honor, how Pukhtuns' understanding of the concept has evolved during the last some centuries, and what role Islam has played in shaping Pashtunwali -- I would greatly appreciate it.

Heartfelt mananas in advance!

[Laila]

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^^^ yes that is true.......the men in my fathers family are very protective of our women....they are not controlling but they will die for any of our female family members.

turn on? i guess

[Zghalazoya]

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It seems like women had a good role in Pashtun literature.
http://www.alamahabibi.com/English%20Ar ... rature.htm

By the way, Habibi is awesome.

[Laila]

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^ thats amazing, manana for sharing that

[Zghalazoya]

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Abdul hai habibi
has contributed TONS for us Pashtuns. He left Kandahar and traveled just to contribute to our culture.

[Roshina]

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It seems like women had a good role in Pashtun literature.
http://www.alamahabibi.com/English%20Ar ... rature.htm

By the way, Habibi is awesome.

Thanks!
It's a great read, very enlightening too!

[Laila]

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Qrratugai khorey, i love your opinions. I like how you take things and question them to get viewpoints....and i know you LOVEto question things *ahem ahem* (you know what i am talking about :P ) anyways share whatever you can, i bet we would all love to hear it!

[Dukemina]

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Keep it up my dear Oppressing Feminista! :p

[Laila]

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Qrratugai khorey, i love your opinions. I like how you take things and question them to get viewpoints....and i know you LOVEto question things *ahem ahem* (you know what i am talking about :P ) anyways share whatever you can, i bet we would all love to hear it!

LOL! heeeeeeyyy, what are you tryina say "ahem, ahem!" :p
I know, this whole questioning thing is sometimes a curse 'cause some things don't have ANY answers to, and I find it too difficult to settle for norms that don't make much sense to me, lol.

Manana for your nice thoughts, gulono Glad you appreciate it!

ha ha i mean back at ck......azad khel used to always be worried in having a gup shup with me because he thought i would reply like you....he he i think you kinda made his blood boil sometimes :P

[Master Khan]

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I think Pashtun men treat their women very good.
They protect their honor which I think a lot of ladies should be happy about it.

Yeah that is soo true.
deera manana, we men do all this for your own good.
But I would never beat up a women really bad.

[Master Khan]

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I think Pashtun men treat their women very good.
They protect their honor which I think a lot of ladies should be happy about it.

Yeah that is soo true.
deera manana, we men do all this for your own good.
But I would never beat up a women really bad...bas Paarda pakaar da

[Roshina]

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[quote=Ms.FutureDoctor]

Qrratugai khorey, i love your opinions. I like how you take things and question them to get viewpoints....and i know you LOVEto question things *ahem ahem* (you know what i am talking about :P ) anyways share whatever you can, i bet we would all love to hear it!

LOL! heeeeeeyyy, what are you tryina say "ahem, ahem!" :p
I know, this whole questioning thing is sometimes a curse 'cause some things don't have ANY answers to, and I find it too difficult to settle for norms that don't make much sense to me, lol.

Manana for your nice thoughts, gulono Glad you appreciate it!

ha ha i mean back at ck......azad khel used to always be worried in having a gup shup with me because he thought i would reply like you....he he i think you kinda made his blood boil sometimes :P[/quote:3j75rnzc]

LOL! I so did NOT make his blood boil :p It's not my fault he constantly came on the board saying "women are inferior to men, and God says so in the Quran!" LOL. You can't possibly say that to Qrratugai and think you'll get away with it, lol. :D

[Palwasha]

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I think women in Pashtunwali are treated like princesses. Women like it when men aren't scared to stand and protect their women.

Pukhtun women have it good.

It's interesting you say that, I've heard many South Asains and even Pashtuns themselves talk about how strict the men in our culture are with their women and thus stereotype us in that sense.

To be honest I think our men are quite strict with us, it can be difficult, but it's sometime for the best. It's good our people have honour and izzat.

[Roshina]

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I once cam across a quote that I think is very relevant to what's being discussed here, what with Pukhtun men being very strict and how that's "good" in the opinion of some of us here.

Here:

"Relationships -- of all kinds -- are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost."

I completely agree with this quote. We need to balance things out, communicate amongst each other, hear what the others involved in our relationships have to say about how we treat them and about how WE wanna be treated, and only then, I believe, can we have harmony. Too much strictness for one party while too much freedom for the other is not balance, it's not natural, and it is bound to create disharmony and arouse injustice in the society.

Besides, each of us has a different idea of what "izzat" and "respect" mean. I mean, I know some Pukhtun families who think that to educate a girl is be-izzati (dishonor) for the family! So we must ask, where do we draw the line?

[Master Khan]

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Maybe Pukhtun women have it good, maybe they have it bad; who knows -- we should strive to hear *their* views about how *they* are treated and try to listen to *their* suggestions about how we can make their lives even better. I mean, sometimes we might THINK that we're doing something for THEIR own good, but that's only assuming that they don't know what's good for them, right?

But I would never beat up a women really bad...

Would you beat her at ALL? :shock: ('cause you said "I would never beat up a woman *really bad* lol)

well..umm..you know what I mean by that..I won't beat her really bad lol.