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The pursuit of happiness can be achieved by not letting others bother you. When you let other people's thoughts, actions, attitude bother you, you are submitting to them, you're letting them have power over YOU. When you let others have power over you, you lose yourself and will NEVER be happy because your happiness will always depend on the actions and thoughts of other people. Fact: There will ALWAYS be people in this world who'll bother you to death, but you just gotta ignore their pettiness. I think one way to "ignore" them is by just not addressing them anywhere. Another way would be by keeping a circle of trusted friends whose happiness matters to YOU and to whom YOUR happiness matters as well; that way, they'll always make sure you're happy, or at least they'll support you and lift your spirits and mood up when you're down.
Another way to pursue happiness is by discovering yourself. What do you want to do? What do you love doing,and why? What MAKES you happy? Once you figure this out, then ask yourself what are the ways through which you can achieve the goals that make you happy. Make a plan for yourself, and make every effort to follow it.
You might also wanna try to make other people happy. Personally speaking, this always works for me. It seems as if the easiest -- THE easiest! -- way for me to be happy is by making someone else happy, whether she/he matters to me or not.
Inevitably, there will come moments when you won't be happy, but there's a Pukhto matal/saying that goes something like, "With happiness comes sadness; with sadness comes happiness" (on gham-khadi). After all, you WON'T know you're happy unless you've experienced pain, troubles, sadness, and loss. You won't know you're sad, either, unless you've experienced happiness.
Here, I wrote a little something (okay, a BIG, LONG something, lol, sorry about that!) on happiness some months ago. You might learn something from it. Take a read when you have a LOT of time 'cause it's quite long
http://qrratugai.blogspot.com/2009/0...ans-to-me.html
Now, smile! Oh, I forgot to say -- smiling is another way of achieving happiness. No, I'm serious. When you smile, you beguile your brain into believing that you're happy even if you're NOT! And then you *feel* happy. (I worked with a psychiatrist for a year, and when I asked him about this - which I'd heard from a psychology student friend - the psychiatrist said it's true, and he explained to me how it works. It all makes sense.)
Another way to pursue happiness is by discovering yourself. What do you want to do? What do you love doing,and why? What MAKES you happy? Once you figure this out, then ask yourself what are the ways through which you can achieve the goals that make you happy. Make a plan for yourself, and make every effort to follow it.
You might also wanna try to make other people happy. Personally speaking, this always works for me. It seems as if the easiest -- THE easiest! -- way for me to be happy is by making someone else happy, whether she/he matters to me or not.
Inevitably, there will come moments when you won't be happy, but there's a Pukhto matal/saying that goes something like, "With happiness comes sadness; with sadness comes happiness" (on gham-khadi). After all, you WON'T know you're happy unless you've experienced pain, troubles, sadness, and loss. You won't know you're sad, either, unless you've experienced happiness.
Here, I wrote a little something (okay, a BIG, LONG something, lol, sorry about that!) on happiness some months ago. You might learn something from it. Take a read when you have a LOT of time 'cause it's quite long
http://qrratugai.blogspot.com/2009/0...ans-to-me.html
Now, smile! Oh, I forgot to say -- smiling is another way of achieving happiness. No, I'm serious. When you smile, you beguile your brain into believing that you're happy even if you're NOT! And then you *feel* happy. (I worked with a psychiatrist for a year, and when I asked him about this - which I'd heard from a psychology student friend - the psychiatrist said it's true, and he explained to me how it works. It all makes sense.)
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