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  • Underage marriages of girls rise in Kandahar.

    ByBasher Ahmad Naadim On Oct 22, 2015 - 20:33
    KANDAHAR CITY (Pajhwok): There has been an increase in underage marriages of girls in southern Kandahar province, an official said on Thursday.

    Afghanistan Human Rights Commission (AHRC) Kandahar chapter’s juvenile section head Shamduddin Tanvir told Pajhwok Afghan News 12 underage marriages of girls were reported during the first six months of this solar year and the number of such marriages might be higher because such events went unreported in remote parts.

    He said another factor behind unreported underage marriages was reluctance of families to share such information with the authorities, making it difficult to collect information about child marriages.

    He said the AHRC had organized a number of meetings with families to discourage underage marriages and inform them about complications of such unions which often resulted in suicides, runaway from homes and domestic violence.

    He listed reasons behind underage marriages as illiteracy, poverty and insecurity, believing until the government did not work to address these issues, underage marriages would continue to happen.

    Kandahar Women’s Affairs deputy director Lailuma also acknowledged that underage marriages of girls had increased in the province.

    She told Pajhwok Afghan News her department had worked a lot in this regard and had arranged many workshops to spread awareness about the hazardous effects of underage marriages on girls’ lives.

    She said underage marriages were the main factor behind domestic violence, a trend still alive in the Afghan society.

    She urged families to give their daughters the opportunity to complete their education and after that give them in marriages with their consent and consultations with family members.

    She said religious scholars, teachers, influential figures and parents had the prime responsibility to prevent underage marriages of girls. The women’s affairs official said families of such girls were facing a lot of problems.

    Nasima, 45, a resident of Kandahar City, whose daughter got married at the age of 13, said her daughter was leading a miserable life and it was their main concern.

    She told Pajhwok Afghan News: “My husband stopped our daughter from going to school under the pretext that she had grown enough and should stay home. Later he gave her in Nikah to the son of his friend without seeking my consent. It has been two years now, my daughter never saw a day of happiness and her life is like hell.”

    The mother said the husband of her daughter paid no attention to her and her-laws daily beat her for no reason.

    She said her daughter had many times attempted to commit suicide, but she intervened.

    In light of her experience, the mother urged families to avoid giving their underage daughters into marriages and playing with their lives.

    Civil society activist, Ihsanullah Ihsan, said underage marriages not only gave birth to a number of social problems but were against Islam as well.

    The activist, who runs a higher education institute in Kandahar City, said he recently organised an awareness campaign against underage marriages in the province.

    He said underage marriages of girls not only deprived them of education, but also introduced them to a new life they had no ability and experience to deal with.

    Such marriages had negative impact on their health and mentality because underage girls could not manage their private lives and lacked knowledge about rearing children, the civil society activist said.

    Ihsan said underage girls were continued to be married in cities and villages and efforts were needed to discourage the trend through organising gatherings to create awareness.

    Religious scholar Mualvi Mohammad Salim said Islam never allowed girls to be married before reaching the legal age.

    He said families should pay attention to the rights of their children and should allow their daughters to complete education and let them effectively choose life partners.






  • #2
    Afghanistan will always be in a state of humiliation until we clean our culture out from the inside. No more boy loving or selling our daughters etc.

    South Korea went from a primitive peasant society to one of the worlds top economies in a short space of time. Same with Malaysia. We Afghans must believe we can achieve such things also.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Mohammed View Post
      Afghanistan will always be in a state of humiliation until we clean our culture out from the inside. No more boy loving or selling our daughters etc.

      South Korea went from a primitive peasant society to one of the worlds top economies in a short space of time. Same with Malaysia. We Afghans must believe we can achieve such things also.
      The diffrence is, that those countries no matter how poor, were still poliical stable and had peace. Afghanistan is really unstable. And we tried to change our culture two time, one by Amanullah and second by the communist regime. The current regime is not doing anything becuase they know that they will get even bigger backlash than the previous ones....

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      • #4
        However how do you want to clean up the Afghan culture?

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Khostai View Post
          The diffrence is, that those countries no matter how poor, were still poliical stable and had peace. Afghanistan is really unstable. And we tried to change our culture two time, one by Amanullah and second by the communist regime. The current regime is not doing anything becuase they know that they will get even bigger backlash than the previous ones....
          Korea had the Korean war which split it in half and devestated the population. The main thing is that the South Koreans could unite. The problem is we fight each other and have extreme groups that want to take us back to (or rather, keep us in) the stone age.

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          • #6
            This article doesn't address what is the legal age of marriage and what is considered underage.

            Is there a law in that says what the legal age is? or a process in which people have to register their marriages? Unlikely.
            There are people today who think that admitting God’s absolute greatness decreases the value and importance of humans in the creation, as if God and mankind are rivals competing in greatness and power. Meanwhile I feel that whenever our perception of God’s greatness increases, with it we become greater, because we are the creation of a great God.

            Sayyid Qutb

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            • #7
              Originally posted by randolph85 View Post
              This article doesn't address what is the legal age of marriage and what is considered underage.

              Is there a law in that says what the legal age is? or a process in which people have to register their marriages? Unlikely.
              the article is designed to get western public to throw out money at the organizations. They address no solutions, they just talk and complain.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by khushal View Post
                the article is designed to get western public to throw out money at the organizations. They address no solutions, they just talk and complain.
                What do you suggest should be done instead??

                "To burn always with this hard gemlike flame, to maintain this ecstasy, is success in life."





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                • #9
                  Originally posted by khushal View Post
                  the article is designed to get western public to throw out money at the organizations. They address no solutions, they just talk and complain.
                  The job of the media is to inform people and not to come up with solution that is not their job. This is the job of the people to adress this.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Khostai View Post
                    The job of the media is to inform people and not to come up with solution that is not their job. This is the job of the people to adress this.
                    The article is not informing when it avoids mentioning age.
                    Originally posted by Firdousi
                    Never talk with Afghans about politics. All their political knowledge is limited to conspiracy theories, political demonization and contradictions. No logic, no reason.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Shamlawar Khurasani View Post
                      The article is not informing when it avoids mentioning age.
                      I don't know if you have read Afghan constitution but every girl below 16 years is a minor. I know they should have mentioned it here, but reading about a 13 year girl married to a grown man, should have give a clue that this is about a real young girls.
                      Last edited by Khostai; 10-24-2015, 09:05 AM.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Khostai View Post
                        I don't know if you have read Afghan constitution but every girl below 16 years is a minor. I know they should have mentioned it here, but reading about a 13 year girl married to a grown man, should have give a clue that this is about a real young girls.
                        You obviously have no clue again.

                        First of all, these so called 'underage marriages' are in reality sex trade and prostitution. Why? Because forcing a woman to marry against her wishes is forcing her to become a sex slave. Her parents receive money for selling her which is sex trade.

                        Let's assume the minimum wage was an issue here, it means the constitution, human rights organizations and the government are okay sex trade and prostitution.


                        If the law and human rights was really an issue, government would have actively pursued a policy of disbanding illegal marriages where nikkah is tied without the girls consent and where money is given to her family. If this policy was enacted, half of marriages in Afghanistan would be annulled.

                        The government and these so called human rights groups are not addressing the real problem. The true cause of this matter.

                        Making fuss about age is just as it was pointed out, merely a ploy to draw attention of Western audience.

                        There are many places in the west where under age girls have sex or even get married. Even in many western countries it is okay to get married at age of 13.

                        Age is not the real issue. It is merely symbolism and appealing to prejudices of non Muslims to depict a certain pictures.
                        Originally posted by Firdousi
                        Never talk with Afghans about politics. All their political knowledge is limited to conspiracy theories, political demonization and contradictions. No logic, no reason.

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                        • #13
                          so in other words, khostai, what our esteemed spiritual advisor here is suggesting that there is no point in even discussing this topic unless all causes and factors that have led to people marrying off their children so young are eradicated. Unless there is peace in Afghanistan, no one should waste their time with even questioning underage marriages.
                          That's not a cultural thing at all. That's just an economic crisis. People are obviously starving which is why they demand for an all expenses paid weddings with a 2000 member guest list, gold belts and crowns for their daughters in dowry these days.

                          "To burn always with this hard gemlike flame, to maintain this ecstasy, is success in life."





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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by DaZahroJaam. View Post
                            so in other words, khostai, what our esteemed spiritual advisor here is suggesting that there is no point in even discussing this topic unless all causes and factors that have led to people marrying off their children so young are eradicated. Unless there is peace in Afghanistan, no one should waste their time with even questioning underage marriages.
                            That's not a cultural thing at all. That's just an economic crisis. People are obviously starving which is why they demand for an all expenses paid weddings with a 2000 member guest list, gold belts and crowns for their daughters in dowry these days.
                            That is not what I said. He proposed to cleanse our culture, I merely stated that changing Afghan culture is not easy especialy in this unstable times. I also want to see change, but the question here is, how to bring this change so that the people will also accept it and will follow it trough. Because Afghanistan tried twice to modernise its culture and it failed really bad, resulting in a backlash that we still suffer.....

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                            • #15
                              I do see a point in discussion, but just saing cleanse it or change it, is just not enough....

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