There should be no need for promises

[IvNoName]

We promise all the time, but when we promise, we imply that I will "try", which means that there is trying and effort involved and hence the person is unsure so they promise.

What I have discovered that when one truly gains an insight, then there is no need for a promise.

Today I had an insight, and it went along this, 'If I cannot make you happy, at least I will make sure that I don't make you unhappy'. This of course being directed to the woman I'm in love with but I thought I share this with you fellow members so you don't waste your time buzzing around like flies in order to get your entertainment fix.

[Badlun]

Excellent. I enjoyed. If we cannot give relief or happiness, at least we should not distribute pains and worries. I have also one insight that we do or we do not, things cannot be enforced.

Things go or do not go but you cannot make them go. For example if some one loves you, will love, you cannot enforce that he/she may love you. So no need of taking stress, let the things flow, do not make your own strides against the tides.

[MostafaM]

Promisses don´t make sense.

They are only spoken by people who don´t have the intention to hold to them and kept by those who really care and do what is expected from them without verbalizing them.

I made the experience that whatever passes the barrier between thought and spoken word loses a large amount of content and meaning.

[IvNoName]

For example if some one loves you, will love, you cannot enforce that he/she may love you.

The blame is with the guy who gets manipulated for ego boost and therefore creates a mess that one day he wakes up and realizes has only hurt the one person that he really cares about.

Wolves are wolves, he whom they hunt is not a wolf, in fact his human all too human and thus weak.