How to involve her parents?

[Joey_Gladstonezai]

Lol. But in this case insha'Allah Karachi as well as the lady in question seem to have sound intentions. They just wanted to find suitable marriage partners so they went to the Islamic event. Where they went wrong though was the meetings and unnecessary contact, in my opinion, but Allah swt is forgiving. Now, they should just try to follow Islamic guidelines regarding contact and seeking the wali's permission and insha'Allah their marriage will be beneficial to them. Let us know how it goes, Karachi.

[Khostai]

^Oh God in with century do you live, its not like they had sex -_-.
They were just talking and in this time and age were divorce is so easy it was smart of Karachi to learn her first before marrieng, you never know how the other is.
He just needs his parents do the talking and hopefuly they will say yes.

[Manzareh]

Step 1: make her tell her family that she went to a marriage convention
Step 2: she tells her family directly through herself or siblings to parents that someone is introducing a mohajir stud to her and what they think about it.
Step 3, 4, 5 and 6: patience

If she's going to a marriage convention she's obviously ready to get married and I'm sure her family have grasped this.

Note: whatever you do, do NOT be tempted to try a second attempt in the form of pretending to be a hindko pathan if the first steps don't work out, of they don't accept then fine, move on and forget about her plenty more fish in the sea.

[کیش]

Big icono says you should continue to hang out with this girl for a little longer. Icono believes these times you are together determines if you two are soul mates.

That is more Islamic than her parents forcing her home to arrange marry .

[HalloIsBack]

go to them and say you wan do whatever with they daughter. be straight to the point, man.

don't listen what killzai is saying

[Al Hanif]

A few advices.

1) Are you sure you want to give her your virginity ? Be sure you are making the right decision. You can only give your virginity ONCE. The overwhelming majority of women aren't worth such a sacrifice.

2) Women are manipulative. Notice how DZJ is the only person here who is suggesting you to lie to her parents. Be very careful. Make sure she did not hide anything to you. You might learn a few months later that she is not at all what she pretends to be.

Women wear two types of make-up :

- physical make-up on their faces

- invisible make-up : in their behavior and this list of things they allow you to know about them which is basically only the good things to seduce you

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Once you get rid of :

A) the influence of your hormones

B) the psychological pressure of the "biological clock ticking"

C) the passion of the first days, this "idyllic love" which is actually only hormones and psychological artifacts messing up with your brain activity (remember that you are infatuated with a pile of guts, veins, blood vessels, fecal matter...)

Be warned that you will lose your freedom. Every single one of your gestures will now be controled by the same policeman until "death do us part".

Eventually,

The door test.

If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in: dump her.


The Door Test - YouTube

[DaZahroJaam.]

take al hanif's advice and become gay instead. Sometimes I wonder what type of trauma he might have encountered to have such fear of women..

[Tjanaparh]

Karachi, if you are serious in your intentions, first learn everithing better, than simple chat. Today things are not so easy, don't loose your head. Give yourself time to learn about her family and father. Don't forget that you have a family too, that may be not glad of your decision. Take you time...
If you both mean it serious with creating a family and be together, than you will win with the time. Don't take to fast actions or decisions.
If you resist time and independently off all difficulties resolve them with honour and dignity, without nerves and crazy actions, only then you can say you love eachother and are on the point to marry.

First of all go not too far with this chat, for not making yourself pain. You are the man, try to have power on yourself. For the respect of her parents, you should first find a way to talk to the father, to be presented or present yourself. That is the first point you still missed. Untill you have no clear ideas on the family, and their relation to you keep distance enough. It is not coward, but if you wish good to yourself and this girl, have patience. If all goes good, what i really wish you. You will have time enough to talk closer...
I think a parent is well aware that in Canada people can know eachother, but there is no need to directly come from nowher and say "i want to marry your daughter", people want to know you, and you also want to know them better.
As I remember you are a bit older, but still, be patient. Don't loose your head.

[Kushan Prince]

Karachi are you a virgin?

[HalloIsBack]

Karachi are you a virgin?

[Karachi]

Thanks for your advice everybody! they helped. I will defiantly try to be really careful, I will try to involve my mom and her mom/sisters in this and I agree with DJ, there is no reason to tell them that we met each other, it will only harm the situation. We are trying to work out a plan on how to tell her parents. I really do like her a lot and she also likes me, so we are hoping Inshallah things will work out for the best.

[Joey_Gladstonezai]

Karachi are you a virgin?

That was really random, lol.

[khushal]

I knew this one pakistani guy from karachi, He was a majair whose family immigrated from India during 1947 partition. He met this pakistani girl whose family was also from karachi at an event similar to yours. The guy was here in the US on a student visa and he went after the girl and married her and then divorced her the day after he got his citizenship papers. He ruined the girls life just for US papers, what a selfish piece of shyt.

[Kushan Prince]

I knew this one pakistani guy from karachi, He was a majair whose family immigrated from India during 1947 partition. He met this pakistani girl whose family was also from karachi at an event similar to yours. The guy was here in the US on a student visa and he went after the girl and married her and then divorced her the day after he got his citizenship papers. He ruined the girls life just for US papers, what a selfish piece of shyt.

Green card marriage huh?

[Tjanaparh]

I knew this one pakistani guy from karachi, He was a majair whose family immigrated from India during 1947 partition. He met this pakistani girl whose family was also from karachi at an event similar to yours. The guy was here in the US on a student visa and he went after the girl and married her and then divorced her the day after he got his citizenship papers. He ruined the girls life just for US papers, what a selfish piece of shyt.

I met so many of such people!
One guy who always dream to do the way , you described, i had the "pleasure" to get in conflict with.