What is love ?

[al-arab]

I think what Quran talks about in this verse is all intentional and all these are in one's control. What do you say about something that is not in your control ?

What do you mean not in control brother? If you have fallen in love with a girl it is only normal and a good thing because it is our purpose to marry and have family as Muslims. Almighty Allah (swt) have encouraged this and has praised the family.

Ayah 36 of the surah:

وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّـهَ وَلَا تُشْرِ*كُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا ۖ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْ*بَىٰ وَالْيَتَامَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَالْجَارِ* ذِي الْقُرْ*بَىٰ وَالْجَارِ* الْجُنُبِ وَالصَّاحِبِ بِالْجَنبِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَن كَانَ مُخْتَالًا فَخُورً*ا

“And worship Allah and do not ascribe any partner to Him, and be good to parents, the relatives, the orphans, the needy, the near neighbours and the distant neighbours, the companion at your side, the traveler, and your slaves. Indeed Allah does not like anyone who is a swaggering braggart.” (4:36)

[Friend]

What do you mean not in control brother? If you have fallen in love with a girl it is only normal and a good thing because it is our purpose to marry and have family as Muslims. Almighty Allah (swt) have encouraged this and has praised the family.

Ayah 36 of the surah:

وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّـهَ وَلَا تُشْرِ*كُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا ۖ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْ*بَىٰ وَالْيَتَامَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَالْجَارِ* ذِي الْقُرْ*بَىٰ وَالْجَارِ* الْجُنُبِ وَالصَّاحِبِ بِالْجَنبِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَن كَانَ مُخْتَالًا فَخُورً*ا

“And worship Allah and do not ascribe any partner to Him, and be good to parents, the relatives, the orphans, the needy, the near neighbours and the distant neighbours, the companion at your side, the traveler, and your slaves. Indeed Allah does not like anyone who is a swaggering braggart.” (4:36)

What about the period before the marriage ?

[Hakim Khan Urgonai]

OMG. who am I talking to ?

Me, who else?

[al-arab]

What about the period before the marriage ?

Well that is an normal period. It's the period where you should arrange an Islamic marriage, ask her father, mother and family for permision, then her of course and then the rest is just normal Islamic marriage procedure.

Of course if you really want to marry her, she comes from an respectable family, her religious education, education, qualities as housewife, her conduct in front of elders, cleanliness and of course physical beauty.

I don't know how the procedure is for a traditional Pashtun marriage but I guess it looks similar like all Islamic marriages and even an Arab marriage to an extent (if we look apart from the Islamic rituals of a marriage) I could imagine. I might be wrong since I only know Arab marriage/wedding procedures.

[RevolutionThroughReason]

Haddaway - What Is Love - YouTube

[Friend]

I told you its a serious thread

[RevolutionThroughReason]

Baby dont hurt me, Dont hurt me, no more....

ah you jerk you beat me in a smart ass response

[faye]

racism is NOT love, friend.

[RevolutionThroughReason]

I told you its a serious thread

ok sorry





this picture will explain what love really is.

[tor_khan]

A number of people on this Forum think that love is what they see when they look in the mirror.

[faye]

love is when you have concern for the other. concern being, you want the best for them and do not want them to suffer. you will try to ease their pain if it arises.
when you 'fall in love' you start to care for the other and are not just concerned for the self. you go to another level. when you have children, this takes you to another level again.
it is difficult to describe, it has to be experienced.
i think friend, you already know what love is if you have what i mentioned before, love of family and your homeland.

[Hakim Khan Urgonai]

A number of people on this Forum think that love is what they see when they look in the mirror.

Wallah!

Tor_Khan, I just looked in the mirror and was about to say that love is what I feel when I look at myself.

I love my eyes
I love my eyebrows
I love my skin colour
and most importantly, I love what's inside:

1) Hakim
2) Killzai

[faye]

hakim, that's a start, love thyself first.
but get a bit more hair. an afro or something. an adjustment to the ears wouldnt hurt either. get them pushed out a bit.

[tor_khan]

love is when you have concern for the other. concern being, you want the best for them and do not want them to suffer. you will try to ease their pain if it arises.
when you 'fall in love' you start to care for the other and are not just concerned for the self. you go to another level. when you have children, this takes you to another level again.
it is difficult to describe, it has to be experienced.
i think friend, you already know what love is if you have what i mentioned before, love of family and your homeland.

I wish love was about selfless devotion however, the cynic in me sees it rather differently. A lot of people who are 'in love' are rather jealously selfish.

Note: For most it centres around self.

[faye]

well, i am not meaning devotion and one still has to consider oneself, survival. selfishness is not love tor_khan.