Family?

[Fahd]

agree with Gulalai and eyeliner else the part about trust in eyeliner post
u can't do any thing in life if u don't trust ppl !!
u should trust the right ppl .

[Catya Sher]

By the way, Fahd, that was really stunning advice to "fast" from music.

I think it's very wise.

Sometimes even what one assumes to be soothing music is actually TOO MUCH stimulation. Sometimes pure silence is the most restorative, so that one can get perspective and especially Heavenly inspiration about how to handle the situation.

I absolutely know what you meant, Zayam, about those "Whys".

When things are left hanging unresolved, they can eat away at the heart or soul or both.

I recommend when emotionally distressed to use Geranium essential oil. It's exactly for this purpose. You can take a bath with drops of it and it DOES work in uplifting those beaten-down feelings.

[Fahd]

Hey Bro-

I like to listen to music, and I know what you mean, but I rarely listen to music that depresses me any more, as I am used to that kind of effect. So sometimes I listen to Spiritual music or joyous music, but that soothes, rather than depresses.

Memories are what get me down, and I know past is past, but understanding why things happened in a certain why, and what I can do differently next time, is one habit of mine. I can not see the other person's heart-only Allah can do that. In order for me to be peaceful about something, I need to understand the whys...

Zayam

music is something play on mind even if it was Spiritual or joyous music because those will remind u of the beautiful days or how u feel alone !! even if u not alon !
god testing you and u should trust on god and Patience
Patience is give you the happy days
u wont win happy days if u don't Patience

like i said live the music for somedays and tell us how u feel !! (listen to quran )

and this 7 ayat from quran will let the sadness leave you inshallah

قال تعالى:
" قل لن يصيبنا الا ما كتب الله لنا هو مولانا وعلى الله فليتوكل المؤمنون "

"-وإن يمسسك الله بضر فلا كاشف له إلا هو وإن يمسسك بخير فهو على كل شيء قدير"

"وما من دابة في الأرض إلا على الله رزقها و يعلم مستقرها و مستودعها"

"إني توكلت على الله ربي وربكم ما من دابه الا هو ءاخذ بناصيتها إن ربي على صراط مستقيم"

"وكأين من دابه لاتحمل رزقها الله يرزقها و إياكم و هو السميع العليم"

"ما يفتح الله للناس من رحمه فلا ممسك لها و ما يمسك فلا مرسل له من بعده وهو العزيز الحكيم"

"ولئن سألتهم من خلق السماوات و الأرض ليقولن الله قل أفرأيتم ما تدعون من دون الله إن أرادني الله بضر هل هن كاشفات ضـره أو أرادني برحمه هـل هن ممسكات رحمته قل حسبي الله عليه يتوكل المتوكلون"


hmm i can't found the english meanin can somone help u in this !!

[sahil112]

to all the people who said you no exactly how he feels...do you really?

[Gulalai]

to all the people who said you no exactly how he feels...do you really?

Yes, because like eyeliner said..

people can only say so much to us, to make us feel better....people can tell you.....they know how you feel....but they dont know how you feel...its only when someone goes through the same thing do they understand the extent.

and i have experienced what he has explained so far.

[IamDZJ]

I didn't feel safe speaking my mind because i felt like so many people were going to start attacking me.

no body is going to break your arm for typing what you actually believe in..who cares if some one disagrees with you??
your point only matters when you fight for it. first step is fighting your own insecurities of how others might react to it. that is how you earn yourself the right to speak what you believe in...but only if you do believe in it.

[Laila]

Here is what i want to say:

This the only forum that i have seen where members are being given MOTW or MOTM and appreciation threads. I have been on a couple of other forums, and when i made an introduction thread. Only a few welcomed me and majority of others didnt recognize someone new joined the forum.....and as i started being a member....many asked during posts 'Who are you?' As if i am not welcomed. I didnt feel right there at all.

I like how there are pages of when people make an introduction for themselves. Our members seek the new person and try to help them fit in. Remember you guys, this member only started in March. And in full honesty, we still have a long way to go, but we have done as much as we could.

Yes, i did start the 'welcome to the PF family thing' only because i wanted our new members to feel like they are welcomed and have a sense of belonging.....which i havent seen anywhere else.

So, i do greatly, out of my heart, apologize to those that have felt like it was some sort of joke. Sure, its a forum with tons of different people, different personalities, different opinions, but at the end of a day, and that is expected. Sure our believes may be attacked, we may not like one another, or we may feel left out....believe me, i know how that feels. Come on you guys, i am a Dari speaking Pashtun, which i know, many actually frown upon....i know what unease and being left out is.....i can hear anyones BS, but at the end of the day, a family is the one who loves you unconditionally and is always there for you.

I know this sounds corny, but for those that feel uncomfortable, just come onto my page, send me a PM and lets talk. I am all ears. I didnt expect some of the responses from some members....so treat me like your Pashtuna/Muslimah sister from your watan




PS.....sorry if i sounded like full of BS or like Oprah, but i had to say what i felt.

[Laila]

no body is going to break your arm for typing what you actually believe in..who cares if some one disagrees with you??
your point only matters when you fight for it. first step is fighting your own insecurities of how others might react to it. that is how you earn yourself the right to speak what you believe in...but only if you do believe in it.

Well said

[Zayam]

Zayam i dont no u, but this is a touching thread. im here for you as a brother would.

Here is another quote to go with yours:

"Love is a rose whose thorns hurt only those who hold it wrong." when I was in High School, someone wrote (in pen) that on the petal of a rose and gave it to me.