How many of you girls

[Iqra]

She never said she puts a scarf on because she feels that that is what is required religiously.

[Saifullah]

^well we are muslims first and no doubt we retain our cultural traditions, if it don't go in contradiction with our faith...

It contradicts our faith when a father asks his daughter why don't u wear a scarf in front of me!! But if a girl can't be bothered to take her scarf of when she comes from outside and feels comfortable thats another thing

[Iqra]

When did a father ask his daughter to wear a scarf in front of him?

[Saifullah]

Mayana said my father wud want me to wear one...he wud appreciate it

[Iqra]

She said he'd appreciate it...and I think I am allowed to say this ..but in her case she's not just limiting it to a porani being appreciated, but maybe something more than capris

[Saifullah]

wats capris?

[Iqra]

Short pants ...

[Fahd]

i wear ,,,
damn i don't wear any thing
get out saif u make's guy's weird that's girls theard
lol
no im joken
girl's must wear (i forgot his name in pashto ) out of home and with cousin's

[Fahd]

there's many girl's wear it for respct
that's would lovly

[Gulalai]

i dont wear a scarf at home.
like sheenkay i have a scarf with all my koranai jamey but i dont always have the scarf with me,
i will toss it onto the chair or something and grab it if i need it :P

[Roshina]

If we can try to understand the religious/spiritual significance of the headcovering, we should also try to understand its cultural significance as well. It is seen as a symbol of respect for elders throughout much of the world. What is wrong with it? We shouldn't shun our cultural values just because we don't know how to appreciate them and/or just because they might be a little more extreme than our religious values.

Many (or most?) Pashtun/eastern fathers feel disrespected when their daughters or other females in their household show their hair or arms in front of them. While some, particular those in the west, might not mind it anymore, they have historically considered it an affront to their values.

However, it varies from family to family and region to region. In my family, my sisters and I are very open with each other. Our mother, though, is a whole different story, and her concept of modesty and decency is much more limited than mine or my sisters' is.

[IamDZJ]

^

[Mayana]

Mayana said my father wud want me to wear one...he wud appreciate it

Saifullah. I said he'd appreciate me wearing a scarf at home in general and not in front of him in particular. If you don't know the reasoning behind this I suggest you don't assume. My father for one is in absolutely no position to command me to do such a thing and for another never has forced any of his principles down my throat. It was a mere suggestion he made and I will explain the reasoning behind this. It is not because he wants to make my life harder or because he has any morbid concepts of how a woman should cover. No just two weeks ago I'd leave the house in t-shirts and capris.

The reason my father has made such a suggestion is because many people enter and leave our house. My uncles come and leave, my male cousins come and leave.. There are male family members and guests entering the house frequently and in such conditions it is not particularly convenient for a girl to be dressed rather reveilingly.

[*Mahzala*]

I wear a scarf most of the time, inside and outside, but the way I wear it at home, obviously differs to the way I wear it out of the home. At home, it is usually loose fitted, on my head, because my brother in laws are often around, and to feel comfortable, for myself, I wear one. Not because it is a family, religious or cultural burden, as I grew up under one roof with my brother in laws, but, as I said, for the comfort of it, it's always on my head. If it is not on my head, then I definitely have one in my neck, always. Once it becomes a habit, you do it regardless of the circumstance. In fact, when I go scarf shopping, I buy a whole separate collection for 'inside the home' scarves, and they're usually lighter, like a shayla. It also depends on the kinds of activities one engages in that leads them to wearing a scarf at home. My mother, for instance, if she isn't doing the cooking or attending to my fathers needs, she is reading Quran or praying (Allah bless her) and so, undoubtedly, your scarf has to be on.

[Saifullah]

Your brother in laws are not mahrams for you...so obviously you should wear a scarf in front of them and your cousins.