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Arrow Marrying a Divorced Man/Woman - 06-30-2010, 10:58 AM

as salaamu aleikoum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

What's your opinion regarding marrying a divorced man or woman?
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Default 06-30-2010, 11:05 AM

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99percent of a time when a woman is divorced she marrys an old man.

I have never witnessed a divorced woman marrying a man her age. This is what sucks about our culture.
true, my fathers cousin was divorced ''mainly because of the stupidity of her own family'' and ended up marrying an old baba''because he promised her brother land, which turned out to be in the middle of the the desert without any water'' from Kandahar. the man already had 3 wives and more then 20 children.

when my father found out about it he almost had huge fight with her brother. poor women cant even have children know
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as salaamu aleikoum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

What's your opinion regarding marrying a divorced man or woman?
Wa alaykum salaam, a Pashtun widow has the right to marry her husbandís brother.
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Default 06-30-2010, 11:33 AM

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Wa alaykum salaam, a Pashtun widow has the right to marry her husbandís brother.
I find that very disturbing. I am yet to see a male's stance on this.
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Default 06-30-2010, 11:48 AM

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Wa alaykum salaam, a Pashtun widow has the right to marry her husbandís brother.
what if she was to marry some one else other then her husbands brother. i personally think this is utterly stupid. the Jews have the same custom.
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what if she was to marry some one else other then her husbands brother. i personally think this is utterly stupid. the Jews have the same custom.
Of course, the widow is not compelled to marry her husband's brother or anyone else against her wishes.
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Of course, the widow is not compelled to marry her husband's brother or anyone else against her wishes.
unfortunately i have seen many being forced to do exactly that even from our own village
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Default 06-30-2010, 12:06 PM

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God forbid my wife dies, I do not want her to marry my broter.
She cant marry anyone if she dies.
When a woman marries she looks at her brother in laws as brothers not plan b. The transition is painful for both. I wish our elders realize that.



I am no bird, and no nest ensnares me.

non commercial would cost less if he was in charge himself which he plans on doing. right now it's n herat but soon it will be in qanadahar.
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Default 06-30-2010, 12:28 PM

DaZahroJaam summed it beautifully girls would you marry your brothers? I think it's the same situation for the brother in law case.

once a woman faces divorce it's really hard to find a suitor that is why many end up marrying an american or european ause they still respect them and are there very own age.
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Default 06-30-2010, 12:41 PM

A man can be at fault. Yet we blame the girl.

a man can marry 10 woman divorce all 10 even though 90percent of the time it's the mans fault for the divorce still we ladies are getting the bad deal. We are frowned at and we never get to marry again or we get proposals from people twice our age who just want us as sexual tools.
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